Children's depression and anxiety may actually carry the negative emotions of the whole family
First of all, every family is a family system, with dads, moms, children, and possibly grandparents.
Who is the weakest link in this big system?
There is no doubt that children, when children are young, they do not even have the ability to express themselves.
In this case, adults, whether parents or grandparents are angry, or unhappy, may vent to the child, of course, not for no reason, the name is beautiful, the child is naughty, disobedient, resisted, made a mistake, did not study, played with the mobile phone ...
In fact, some of these so-called mistakes of children are inevitable experienced by children in their growth, and what is needed is not the scolding of parents, but the guidance of patience.
Some parents have high work pressure, or the emotional conflict between husband and wife, and eventually those negative emotions that cannot be discharged will eventually be vented to their children for various reasons.
And if the parents and grandparents live together, the conflict between the two generations is likely to be referred to the child in the end. Why? Grandparents may sometimes have opinions about the second daughter-in-law, and dare not say that in the end, they may all nag the child, and the child has become the emotional garbage can of the grandparents.
In this case, the child should have been the most cared for, but it turned out to be the innocent bearer of the negative emotions of the whole family, looking at the faces of parents and even grandparents every day, afraid of being scolded if they were not careful.
Over time, children become timid and fearful, cautious, distrustful of people, insecure, negative emotions have nowhere to be discharged, and finally lead to depression, anxiety, compulsion and other psychological problems.
So, parents, ask yourself, every time you get angry with your child and scold your child, is it because your child has made something wrong that should not be made? Even if the child is at fault, what is the more effective way than to scold?
As a parent, managing your emotions and treating your children in a benign way can you cultivate optimistic and healthy children.