There are often partners seeking help, parents will be anxious to say that the child is not going to school because of depression and anxiety, how can he return to school as soon as possible? Some people also asked, my wife has someone outside, dead or alive to divorce me, how can I get her back? Some people also ask, I am not satisfied with my job, how can I find a job that is pleasing to my heart?
These partners have a problem, that is, they hope to help them solve real problems through psychological counseling.
But in fact, psychological counseling cannot solve the problems in reality as the goal of counseling.
For example, there are many reasons why a child does not go to school, such as his own psychological cognitive problems, relationship problems with his parents, parenting methods, contradictions in getting along with school teachers and classmates, unreasonable rules and regulations of schools, and social competition pressure. Nor can these be improved by a consultant alone.
So what is the role of counseling?
Together with parents and children, what are the possible obstacles and what can be improved by finding the cause of depression and anxiety in the child and causing him to be unable to go to school? What are the possible solutions? What cannot be changed by the strength of the family and children, explore possible adaptation strategies, and so on.
The counselor is more to give emotional support, use his professional knowledge to answer questions, explore feasible solutions together, as for the final result, parents, children under the guidance and support of the counselor to put into action, work together.
That is to say, the whole process of psychological counseling is a process of support, understanding, answering questions, and exploring possible solutions. The final outcome depends on your own actions
。 Because each helper has different motivations, the motivation for change is large and small, the individual basic literacy ability of the helper is different, and the final result also varies from person to person.
The counselor is just the supporter and facilitator who is with you, hand in hand with you to face all the confusion.