Yi said that the gathering place for women's growth, may you not wear armor, you can resist thousands of life is not easy, welcome attention.
If Tao Junshu makes a choice to return to the city to realize the ideal of playing the piano, which is more or less mixed with the last resort of the torrent of the times, then Sun Xiaoning's life choice is completely into the misunderstanding of self-growth, which makes people feel pity, lamentable and sad.
It's a pity to give up college entrance examinations
Sun Xiaoning is the sister of Sun Chaochao, because the college entrance examination difference six points fell off the list, in the college entrance examination just recovered in the years, even if the difference of six points was not admitted to the university, it is also a girl who studies well, continue to choose to re-study and retake the exam, and it is not impossible to enter the university.
However, Sun Xiaoning gave up the idea of continuing to enter the university. Editor-in-chief Shao encouraged Sun Xiaoning to continue to review while working in the bookstore, and even the textbooks for review did not have to spend money to buy, which was a great opportunity for Sun Xiaoning to give up without a word.
In her opinion, working in this small bookstore is both decent and easy, and it is much easier than the road to college. From here, it can also be seen that Sun Xiaoning's goal of entering the university is only to have a stable job, and does not think that the university entrance examination is something that can change his destiny.
In a word, this girl read the book in vain, and the difference of six points may not be a problem of learning ability, but a problem of ideological insight.
Sun Xiaoning reminds me of a girl, when I was very young, when I met this girl, she had already taken the college entrance examination for seven years, which was the eighth time. She was born in a small mountain village, and in eight years she has become an old girl in the village population, an outlier, but this girl is a goal, to enter the university and get out of the mountains to change her fate.
I believe that she will also be depressed after each time she falls off the list, and she will struggle between persistence and abandonment, but in the day after day of life, she finally chose to take the exam again, until the eighth year she was admitted to the university and walked out of the small mountain village.
Fate is in your own hands, it is really not an empty word.
Eyes chasing Bingkun, sigh
If Sun Xiaoning gave up the university entrance examination and chose a stable life, it is understandable, after all, everyone's understanding of happiness and the requirements for quality of life are different, the important thing is that they have the right to choose, and they can choose their favorite life.
Just like Sun Xiaoning, she feels that it is good to work in the bookstore, and she works hard to become a regular employee of the publishing house. I have to say that Sun Xiaoning is too young, the book is also white reading and no ability to think, she saw Zhou Bingkun's work for three years to turn positive, she thought she could also copy such a path.
It was impossible for her not to know how difficult it was to solve a formal job in that era, and she could only say that she was an excuse for everyone to give up the university entrance examination, and at the same time, it was also because she saw a shortcut, Zhou Bingkun.
Zhou Bingkun opened the bookstore, not only found reliable staff for the bookstore, but also helped the good brothers solve the practical difficulties of life. Sun Xiaoning is the younger sister of Sun Chaochao, and it is better to have an extra income than to be idle at home, and at that time, eating with one more person was a big burden of life.
Sun Chaochao thanked Zhou Bingkun, and Sun Xiaoning was also grateful to Zhou Bingkun, but the little girl found that Zhou Bingkun was still very good to herself, and as soon as she heard that Editor Shao encouraged her to insist on reviewing and retaking the exam, she took the initiative to buy a set of review materials to send her. Maybe the little girl is ignored by everyone in her daily life, and suddenly someone is so good to herself that she forgets what the other party's intention is.
It was at this time that Sun Xiaoning's thinking changed, and she saw her future in Zhou Bingkun's body, or the road to happiness, but she forgot that Zhou Bingkun already had a wife and children, and was a person with a family.
Wilde said that living the life you want is not selfish, asking others to live according to their own wishes is. Sun Xiaoning is not only selfish but also pathetic.
Inability to overcome the weaknesses of human nature, sadly
Speaking of Sun Xiaoning's sadness, it lies in the fact that her three thoughts are terrible. In reality, most people will have these three ideas to some extent, which seems to be the pursuit of love and happiness, but in fact, it is a problem of human nature seeking benefits and avoiding harm, and not wanting to take responsibility for themselves.
The first is to pin happiness on others. There is nothing wrong with pursuing a beautiful love and a happy life, but pinning all this on others and hoping that others can bring happiness to themselves is a very risky road in itself. When watching "Xiao Min's Family", Xiao Jie's boss told her that no matter how good her other half is, she must also have her own career, which is the bottom of your life. Interested friends can move to see "Xiao Min's Family" Xiao Jie's marriage is extremely frightening, love PUA is everywhere You know how much
The boss's sentence is impressive, not to mention whether the other party will be betrayed, let's say that a person has to bear the weight of two people, is it already very tired, that very popular sentence, I moved the brick can not hold you, hug you can not move the brick, this seems to be a grievance, but it is also a real problem, can not have illusions.
When people are tired, they are uncomfortable, and will they always spoil you if they are uncomfortable?
Sun Xiaoning looked at Zhou Bingkun's back and fantasized that her happy life was with this man. The road she thought was indeed a fast and easy road to happiness, but she didn't think that this road could be passed?
The second is to treat likes as love. The reason why Sun Xiaoning has love for Zhou Bingkun stems from zhou Bingkun solving her work problems, in the eyes of this little girl, Zhou Bingkun is a capable man in photon films, and Zhou Bingkun's help and care for her.
However, she forgot one thing, that is, how did she know Zhou Bingkun, and why did Zhou Bingkun help her? Is it because I know her? No, Zhou Bingkun and her brother Sun Chaochao are good buddies, and Zhou Bingkun's absence from home for half a year is what these good buddies have been helping Zheng Juan get through. Now, Zhou Bingkun has the ability to help these good buddies solve some practical problems in life.
If Sun Chaochao's daughter-in-law does not have a job, then this bookstore job will not be Sun Xiaoning's turn. People are like this, always willing to see what they are willing to see, Sun Xiaoning likes Zhou Bingkun, he is only willing to believe that Zhou Bingkun's care for her is to like himself.
The biggest difference between like and love is that like can be for many people, there is no exclusivity, just like Zhou Bingkun is also very good to Qiao Chunyan, and he is also very caring, but when Qiao Chunyan proposed to fall in love, Zhou Bingkun was unwilling.
Therefore, this is Sun Xiaoning's sadness, a person only lives in his own thoughts, does not look at the outside world, does not objectively analyze, and finally can only let himself live as a joke.
The last is to give up the ego. The ego is especially important for women. You may say, does Zheng Juan in the play have a self? Yes, Zheng Juan seems to be weak, listen to Zhou Bingkun, at home also look at always a little only promise, these are an external phenomenon, this is just Zheng Juan's way of life, but does not mean that she does not have self, she always has her own thoughts and independent personality.
And Sun Xiaoning's ideas let people see that if she carries these ideas into marriage, it is a chicken feather, either disappointed to find that everything still has to rely on herself, or she will turn herself into a vase and lose her self-worth.
Staying awake is valuable
It is well believed that human nature is to seek advantage and avoid harm, but the reason why everyone can make themselves better is because we are all on the road to overcoming these human weaknesses. When you can realize this and overcome it, you will inevitably live as soberly as Zheng Juan.
The rivalry between Zheng Juan and Sun Xiaoning fully demonstrates Zheng Juan's sobriety and also exposes Sun Xiaoning's stupidity. One is a mature woman who has experienced ups and downs and has rich life experience, and the other is a naïve girl who has not been deeply involved in the world and has no life experience.
Zheng Juan asked Zhou Bingkun if Sun Xiaoning went to the hospital to deliver food, Zhou Bingkun admitted, Zheng Juan was relieved, this is her sobriety, so she told Sun to catch up, take care of her sister, we are not allowed to interfere in the affairs of the two of us.
If Sun Xiaoning knew Zheng Juan's dedication to the Zhou family, and knew the past of Zheng Juan and Zhou Bingkun, would she still overestimate her youthful charm and underestimate the baptism of time?
Those poisonous mushrooms are always displayed in the most brilliant colors, just like the road under our feet, and the easy way to walk is not necessarily better, isn't it?
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