In the TV series "The World of Man", Feng Huacheng (played by Cheng Taishen) quarreled over Yue Yue's problem before divorcing Zhou Rong (played by Song Jia), and said such a sentence: Whether a home is attractive to children or not, the mother plays a decisive role, and only women are the soul of a family.
Of course, Feng Huacheng's roar was somewhat like the meaning of throwing the pot. It is true that Zhou Rong is very irresponsible, and only cares about birth and maintenance, but in addition to doing housework and writing poetry and creating, has he fulfilled his responsibility as a father?
Feng Huacheng poked Zhou Rong's spine so much that he himself could not stand up! Did he know how to get along with Yue Yue? Could it be that he carried Nan Nan and Congcong on his back for the New Year to give Yue Yue a few pieces of white rabbit milk candy, even if it was fatherly love?
Of course, from another point of view, Feng Huacheng also has some truth in saying this, especially in the "Six Little Gentlemen" Cao Debao and Sun Chaochao two families, which are particularly prominent.
Qiao Chunyan (played by Huang Xiaolei) is indeed a woman with strong ability, somewhat social "cow X syndrome", and can be regarded as a character in the light word film. But she eventually married a man like Cao Debao, and after marriage, she endured too much and too much, which eventually led to her complaining in her in-laws' house.
Especially when Mrs. Cao lost the reimbursement bill and Cao Debao asked for help for her mother, Qiao Chunyan deliberately teased him, just to see him look like he begged for himself three times or four times.
This plot is really interesting, Cao Debao, the "soft rice man", from careful to face hanging, and finally gently slapped his wife. In fact, he didn't want to really beat his wife, nor did he have the guts, but he wanted to regain the dignity of a man and interpret the humble and contradictory psychology of a weak husband.
Qiao Chunyan was most disgusted by men's hands, when Wu Qian was beaten by Xiao Guoqing, it was she who stopped and spoke for Wu Qian. So when it comes to herself, she can't be arrogant by Cao Debao, and her backhand is two "big bidou"! Cao Debao was instantly knocked to the ground.
Qiao Chunyan verbally attacked while hitting, asking Cao Debao if there was someone outside? In fact, Cao Debao has a "previous crime", no wonder Chunyan's old matter is recalled.
Seriously, Chun Yan is too tiger, quarrelling louder than anyone else, and she has never been afraid of anyone. Even in front of her son, she said that she would fight and shoot, and in front of the child, she did not hide for her husband at all, pointing out the ugly things of the other party.
Therefore, Qiao Chunyan and Cao Debao quarreled so badly, but their son hid in his room with a rice bowl and vegetables to eat. Behavior towards parents has long been commonplace, and there is no wave in the heart.
Qiao Chunyan's son has always been a scum of learning, and he is so old that he still reads the comic book of "Slam Dunk Master" while eating, and his mind is not focused on learning. And the child is so unlearned, more or less related to Qiao Chunyan, as a mother, she quarrels at every turn, from time to time to move, does not shy away from her husband's dirty things, and never pays attention to words and deeds in front of her children.
Admit that Qiao Chunyan is forced by the environment of the in-laws, but considering the child's learning and future, she should actually restrain her temper to some extent, right? Of course, Chunyan has been busy with work, but she has never paid attention to her son's study, but she can't reach it, and can only tell her husband to worry about her children's studies.
On the contrary, the contrast is obvious to the Yu Hong family, and Yu Hong's son is really angry. After Sun Chaochao was deceived, when he asked Zhou Bingkun for help on the rainy night, he lamented that his child was really out of the ordinary, and he had to double hundred for the exam, which also made his wife Yu Hong very pleased.
Why is Yu Hong's son a bully? A large part of the reason is related to Yu Hong. Yu Hong is really very virtuous and capable, down-to-earth, simple, kind and hardworking.
Although it was only by relying on Chunyan's "back door" that she got a job as a cleaner at the bathing center, when she inadvertently bumped into the customer's transaction with the massage girl, she immediately wanted to resign.
Yu Hong couldn't see such a picture, and it was difficult to accept that such an ugly thing happened in the place where she worked, she cleaned herself up, and she didn't want to go along with the bathing center, and even she was worried that Chunyan was implicated, and once she was found, she would be punished.
But what about chunyan again? She had long known the business between the girls and customers in the store, chose to turn a blind eye, and even said that in the end she also confided in Yu Hong, frankly saying that if she was young and beautiful, she would also do that kind of thing, because she made a lot of money.
Although in the end Chunyan said that she was joking, it can be intuitively seen from this dialogue that Chunyan and Yu Hong are basically two people, Chunyan has her own values of interests, and Yu Hong has her own moral supremacy values.
Two wives, two mothers, two values, the children educated are two results. Therefore, Chunyan's son does not care about the living conditions of his parents, Yu Hong's son is smart and sensible, and knows that behind the huge difference between studying hard for himself and his parents is the opposite of the values of the two mothers.
However, I am not willing to simply say how much Chunyan is deficient compared to Yu Hong, and although the role of mother in a family is important, can the father's responsibility be ignored? Feng Huacheng had no confidence in accusing Zhou Rong, and in the same way, the gap between Cao Debao and Sun Chaochao was getting wider and wider.
Also unemployed, Cao Debao did nothing, was incompetent, and finally ate soft rice at home, not thinking of making progress and only knowing how to ask for a wife. On the other hand, Sun Chaochao, it doesn't matter if he has no ability, then he will work hard, it doesn't matter if he earns less, he can do big work and small work, and earning a point is a point.
Moreover, Cao Debao's character was not good at the beginning, but Sun Chaochao has always loved his wife deeply. There is such a scene in the play, when Yu Hong is ready to lie down, Sun Chaochao instinctively holds his wife's head with his hand. In fact, there is no need, because Yu Hong is going to lie on the pillow, but Sun Chaochao reflects the love and care for his wife from this small detail.
It can be said that Sun Chaochao is a warm man, loving his wife and children, the whole family atmosphere is full of hope and love, and the children will also be sensible and self-motivated. Compared with Cao Debao, not doing the right thing and not thinking of making progress will only make Chunyan more and more unwilling and more and more irritable, the two give their son's environment in addition to quarreling, it is because of the old things of cheating, try to ask what kind of children can be educated by such a family atmosphere?
So, chunyan did something bad, but she was right, marrying Debao herself is "blind material"! But the root of the problem is still in men, and the gap between Cao Debao and Sun Chaochao is the most fundamental reason for the gap between the two children.
A family, on the issue of children's education and talent, and even in a happy and harmonious relationship in the family, do not try to unilaterally look for women's problems, men should reflect on themselves the most.