Why can't you educate today's children in the old way?
Why is it so difficult for parents to accept the ordinary of their children now?
Why is homeschooling increasingly important?
In today's Q&A, we invited Wang Yamin, a famous teacher from Xingzhi, to answer parents' questions:
01 Try pressing the "pause button" of experience
Someone once did a survey: How do parents view their children? Is it unique or mediocre?
Almost every parent who fills out the questionnaire has a checkmark in the "Unique" column.
Probably with expectation and love, most parents feel that their child is different and the best.
But biologically, in essence, every child is truly unique because the DNA sequences are all different.
This individual difference leads to different effects even with the same set of educational methods and theories.
On this Roman road of education, we rely on too much empirical talk, how others do it, we copy the same model, or apply the same set of empirical methods taught by our parents to our children now.
Although in this rapidly developing information age, the channels for obtaining knowledge are convenient and diverse.
But the certain point is that the educational method is being updated, the children are growing, and parents cannot hide in the "siege" and use the old way to communicate with their children.
02 Return to the original intention of education
Minister of Education Chen Baosheng stressed that colleges and universities should further change their concepts and achieve "four returns": one is to return to common sense, the second is to return to their duties, the third is to return to the original intention, and the fourth is to return to the dream.
These 4 points also especially want to tell parents who are learning or hesitating to learn that your anxiety, nervousness, and irritability are passing on to their children, because the family atmosphere is a fluid collection of emotions that builds the emotional tone of a family.
You may have seen too many excellent and perfect templates for other people's children, you may hope that your children can become sensible and obedient, you may hope that your children will honor their ancestors and earn some face...
In the process of constantly asking children to "get better", we gradually lose ourselves. Do you remember our wishes and aspirations when our children were born? Maybe we can think about this question.
03 "Look at what you do, don't listen to what you say"
Backstage often receives questions from parents, such as "I have said so much bitterly, why can't the child listen to it at all?" "No matter what I say, my son is in and out of his left ear, it's too hard"...
One of the problems these parents share is that they talk too much and do too little.
This is an educational problem that we often say that from knowing to doing, the process really takes time and effort.
If we don't do it ourselves, just thinking that the child can do what he says is not convincing.
The same is true of family education, parents often do not feel that they have affected their children, but our behavior is subtly determined by the child's behavior.
There is no child who cannot be taught, only parents who do not want to learn, when we find the problem of the child, we should not blame the child, nor be afraid to make changes, only by facing the difficulties, can we move forward more courageously.
If you have also had these confusions and troubles in the process of educating your children, I hope that this issue of the Famous TeacherS and Answers will bring you some gains and thoughts.