In the past two years, children in many places have experienced relatively long vacations, and learning at home and online classes have also become a key moment to test children's self-discipline. What should I do if my child can't go to school, but my mother has to go to work, and I lose control of my child? Therefore, install surveillance cameras at home, many mothers choose to do this during their children's holidays, whether it is winter vacation or summer vacation, parents can see their children's every move through their mobile phones.
Mom Baoqin's son is 10 years old and in the third grade of elementary school. She works at the company and is home alone with her son during the holidays. At lunchtime, colleague Xiao Wang came to chat with her.
Xiao Wang said: "Since the child is at home during the holidays, my work efficiency has been reduced, the child is at home alone to guard the computer, quasi-all day and night to play games, every day he comes home from work, he has not written a few words in his homework, you say that for a long time, how can you get it?" If not, install a camera at home and monitor him at all times. ”
Baoqin said: "My family does have surveillance cameras, but it is not to monitor the child's learning, because the child is at home alone, but also for the sake of the child's safety, only one was installed." Baoqin opened his mobile phone to watch his son's day of life in the morning, and Xiao Wang was also stunned.
In the cell phone surveillance video, at seven o'clock, the 10-year-old child gets up in the sound of an alarm clock. He cleaned up his bed and began to wash his face and brush his teeth. Packing myself up, I went into the kitchen and opened the fridge to prepare my own breakfast. Toast, omelette, hot milk, children eat clean, neat, and often cooked at first glance. After breakfast, he hadn't forgotten to clean up the kitchen. After breakfast, he began the day's study.
Although there is no parental supervision, this child can also see that the self-discipline and independence are very good. Colleague Xiao Wang read it, almost blushing to the point of sweating, because although his son is also 10 years old, compared with others is simply weak.
Before going out, I would order a takeaway breakfast for my son, which would be delivered at 9:30. Several times the takeaway brother said: "There is no one in your home, and there is no way to deliver this takeaway." In fact, Xiao Wang knew that his son was at home, and he couldn't hear the takeaway brother's knock at all because he couldn't wake up. Later, he could only sleep until what time it was, and when he woke up, he played games and watched TV, and he also went with him.
The same 10-year-old son, the difference between the two children is too big. At the beginning of man, the nature is good, and the children are the same after birth, but the family education and living environment given to them by their parents are different, so they have created different children now. Some parents seem to love their children very much, but they are actually "toxic" parents. Some parents have strict requirements for their children, but they are actually forward-thinking parents.
"Toxic" parents, they take good care of their children, for the children's things, often parents to take care of the substitution, the result of the child's life is very lazy. Children enjoy various privileges at home, as long as the child has needs, parents can easily meet him, the child only wants to enjoy, learning is not enterprising.
Parents put all their attention, energy, and financial resources on their children, but as a result, they have raised a child with strong dependence, poor independence, and even problematic personality.
Forward-thinking parents, they seem to be more worry-free and labor-saving in their children's education, and their children's growth is natural and smooth. Children have strong independence in learning and life, have a cheerful and confident personality, and are often more likely to succeed.
To be a thoughtful and visionary parent and cultivate children's independence and excellent qualities, we must remember the following points.
Raise children from an early age and do their own things.
Cultivating children's independence and self-care ability should be cultivated from an early age. When the child can take the bottle by himself, he can drink the milk by himself, and he can walk on his own, so he tries to hold it as little as possible. Dressed, shoes, eating, going to school, the child steps step by step to complete all his tasks. Such parents seem to have a little bit of cruelty, but in fact, they have a long-term vision, teaching their children to be independent, so that they can not rely on their parents in the future and make a difference on their own.
Parents need to be patient with their children.
When children try something new, there will always be times to ask their parents for help. Parents can not be troublesome, can not be in a hurry, we must guide children to let them find the right way, for example, children learn to do housework, parents can guide their children on the side of the mouth, even if the child is wrong, but also encourage the child to persevere. Children gradually learn to think and act independently, in order to step by step to the independence of both actions and thoughts.
Parents should give their children the right to choose for themselves.
Many children's learning and life are clearly arranged by their parents, and children have no right to resist and choose, which is not conducive to the cultivation and development of children's independence. We should start with small things, let the children make their own decisions, such as which pair of shoes to wear today, what time to start writing homework, etc., and exercise a little bit to arrange his own time and things.
Parents should cultivate their children's sense of responsibility.
A person with an independent personality is a person who is very responsible for himself, his family, and society. When a child makes a mistake, we should not protect the child, nor should we rush to punish the child. Through guidance, parents let the child realize his mistakes and bear the consequences caused by himself, so that he can cultivate him to become a responsible person little by little.
Parents are the initiation teachers of children, and family education is the most important.