In "Dream of the Red Chamber", after the death of her mother, Dai Yu had to come to her grandmother's house for a long time at a young age. As the saying goes: the female eldest eighteen changes, the more they change, the better they look. Dai Yu, who was originally "really such a Peugeot figure in the world", has become a fairy-like sister who "has a unique posture and a rare and handsome beauty". Of course, this is an external change that everyone can see, in fact, inside the invisible places of everyone, Sister Lin is also quietly changing...
When I first entered Jia Province, I was cautious and humble - step by step, always attentive, always caring.
When Dai Yu's mother was alive, she often told Dai Yu about the situation in Rong Guo Mansion, and Dai Yu also felt that "her grandmother was different from other families." After seeing the maid sent by Rong Guofu to pick up her, Dai Yu really felt that the foreign mother's family was special, "The third-class servant women he has seen recently have an extraordinary degree of eating and wearing, let alone now in his home." Therefore, the clever and astute Daiyu "therefore pays attention step by step, always cares, and refuses to easily say one more word and take one more step, lest he be ridiculed by others."
When meeting her uncle Jia Zheng, Lady Wang "let go" daiyu from the east, and Daiyu knew that it was Jia Zheng's position, so she resigned, and finally "Lady Wang took him to Kang again, and he sat down with Lady Wang." At Dinner at Jia Mu's place, "Xi Feng hurriedly pulled Dai Yu to sit on the first chair on the left, and Dai Yu pushed very much."
Half a day after arriving in Jia Province, Dai Yu truly felt that "many things here are not in line with the style of the family, and I have to follow them, so I have to change them one by one." When Jia Mu asked Dai Yu what book to read, Dai Yu was well aware of Jia Mu's concept that "a woman without talent is virtuous", so she replied that "I just read the Four Books". It can be seen that even in front of the dearest grandmother, Dai Yu is also cautious to cater.
When the raider visits at night, Dai Yu calls the attacker a "sister"; when the raider takes a spiritual treasure jade for her to see, she understands "at this moment in the middle of the night", does not want to cause trouble to the attacker, and quickly refuses.
Pampered and "arrogant", it becomes "arrogant" - to say a word, sharper than a knife
After Xiao Daiyu entered the Rongguo Mansion, the pain of losing her daughter made Jia Mu doubly pamper this granddaughter, "Jia Mu loved everything, slept and lived, just like Baoyu, Yingchun, Tanchun, and Xichun The three granddaughters fell backwards and backwards."
Dai Yu, who has lived in Rong Guo Mansion for a long time, is not as cautious and cautious as when she first came, from the light point of being a little "familiar and informal" casual, and from the point of view, it seems to be a little "pampered and arrogant". The most classic plot is when Zhou Rui's family sent palace flowers to her, her words and deeds - "Dai Yu only looked at Bao Yu's hand and asked: Or do you send me alone, or do other girls have it?" Zhou Ruijia's Dao: Everyone has it, these two branches belong to the girl. Dai Yu sneered, "I just know that others don't pick the rest and don't give it to me."
Who is the Zhou Rui family? She is Lady Wang's companion, belonging to the "housekeeper lady" series of concubines, Baochao, Baoyu meet are the zhou sister long Zhou sister short title, Dai Yu is so picky, and zhou Rui's palace flowers are sent by the way, not favoring one over the other.
There is also the eighth time when Aunt Xue left Baoyu and Daiyu to eat at the LixiangYuan, Baoyu listened to Baochao's advice not to eat cold wine, and Daiyu borrowed the snow goose to send the stove to "refer to the mulberry and say locust", teasing Baoyu and Baochao, "It is also thanks to you to listen to his words." What I usually say to you is all in my ears, and if he says it, you will follow it faster than the holy will."
Not only that, she called Baoyu's old servant Grandma Li "old goods", which is in stark contrast to the original call of the attacker "sister". When Aunt Li dissuaded Baoyu from drinking less, she was even more mercilessly sarcastic, "Your mother is too careful, usually the old lady gave him wine to eat, and now she eats more here with her aunt, and it is not expected that she will do anything, and her aunt must be an outsider here, and what is not right here is undecided", Aunt Li cried and laughed and said, "True this Sister Lin, say a word, sharper than a knife", even Bao Chao, who has always been tolerant, said" Bao Chao said, "Zhen Zhen this lady's mouth, people hate it, like it or not", which shows Daiyu's vitriol.
After the death of the Father, he grows up in contradictions - all of them are close hearts, but they are alienated
In the sixteenth time, after Dai Yu and her cousin Jia Lian dealt with the affairs of their father Lin Ruhai and returned to Jia Province, "Bao Yu's heart tasted Dai Yu and became more and more detached." The reason why Baoyu feels that Dai Yu is "super easy to come out of and out" is the freshness after a long absence; the other is that after experiencing the separation from life and death with her loved ones, Dai Yu will change from the inside to the outside.
There is no doubt that after Lin Ruhai died of illness, Dai Yu became a real orphan and could only live in the Jia family for a long time. Although there are those who take Baoyu as their confidant, it is inevitable that they will always be happy and sad: Those who are pleased, sure enough, have good eyesight, and Su Ri recognizes him as a confidant, and indeed he is a confidant; those who are shocked, he praises me with a selfish heart in front of people, and his affection is thick and dense, and he does not shy away from suspicion; the one who sighs, since you are my confidant, naturally I can also be your confidant, and if you and I are confidants, then why should there be a discussion of gold and jade; if there is a theory of gold and jade, you and I should have it, so why should we come to a treasure! Sadly, the early death of my parents, although there are unforgettable words, no one advocates for me.
It can be said that Daiyu, who originally had a melancholy personality, felt even more helpless, of course, she was worried about not food and clothing, but her own future, especially in the feudal society where marriage events were based on the iron rule of "the fate of her parents", her parents were dead, she knew that "wood and stone marriage" was not advocated, she was always disturbed by the "golden jade good relationship", and there was a gap with Baoyu who sought perfection, and there was no gap, "that Lin Daiyu was also a bit demented, and she also tried to use false feelings. Because you also concealed your sincerity and sincerity, using only false intentions, I also concealed my sincerity and sincerity, only false intentions, so that when two falsehoods meet, there will eventually be a truth. In the meantime, it is trivial and trivial, and it is difficult to ensure that there will be no quarrels of mouth."
Dai Yu, who is full of insecurity in her heart, is mean and small to people and things that threaten the "marriage of wood and stone". The most typical is baochao, usually either "warm incense" and "stupid goose" acid; or all kinds of "vinegar" outside the words, "lost there, otherwise it would have flown long ago", or "I don't have such a big blessing forbidden, compared to the treasure girl, what gold and jade, we are just people of grass and trees", or mercilessly ridiculed "she is still limited in others, but these people are more and more attentive to the things they bring.". There is also Xiangyun, who possesses the Golden Qilin and has also become Daiyu's imaginary enemy.
Later, Dai Yu seemed to be less sword-fighting, and when she saw Bao Chao sitting next to the napping Bao Yu in the window, she chose to avoid, "Lin Daiyu understood in her heart, sneered twice, and had to go with her." Dai Yu is in this kind of insecurity of losing her mother and father, and she is also talking about gaining and losing in love, and her personal mentality and personality are also growing and changing in this contradiction and entanglement of gain and loss.
After Lan Yan solved his doubts, he grew up overnight--I am fifteen years old this year, and no one has taught me as you said the day before
When Jia Mu took Grandma Liu and her daughters to a banquet in the Grand View Garden to carry out the liquor order, Dai Yu was afraid of punishment, a bit "the child's mouth was not covered", and the words in the "forbidden book" "The Tale of the West Chamber" were unknown to others, but the erudite Bao Chao knew it. Afterwards, Bao Chao summoned Dai Yu alone to mention her, making Dai Yu, who had always been proud and arrogant, "eat tea with her head down and secretly obey in her heart". Since then, the relationship between the two has been extremely harmonious, BaoChao has pulled her hair for Daiyu like a sister, and Daiyu has also put her heart on Baochao.
"Although you treat people every day, although you are excellent, I am the most multi-hearted person, only when you hide adultery in your heart." A day ago, you said that it was not good to read miscellaneous books, and you persuaded me to say those kind words, and I was very grateful to you. In the past, I was wrong, but I am really wrong to this day. If you calculate carefully, my mother died early, there are no sisters and brothers, I am fifteen years old, and no one has taught me as you said the day before. I can't complain about Yun Yatou said hello, I used to see him praise you, I am not used, yesterday I personally passed by, I learned. For example, if you say that, I will not let you go lightly, and you will not mind, and persuade me to say those words, but I can see that I have made a mistake. If I hadn't seen it from the day before, I wouldn't have said it to you today."
Dai Yu also became easy-going in personality, and thanked her mother-in-law who came to send her bird's nest, and gave her a few hundred dollars, so that her mother-in-law could "eat some wine and avoid the rain", completely unlike Daiyu, who was dumb and speechless in the Zhou Rui family when she sent palace flowers.
What surprises not only the people inside and outside the book is the attitude towards Baoqin. When everyone was "jealous" of Jia Mu's love for Baoqin, Amber laughed and said that the most "jealousy" should be Daiyu, Baoyu pinched a handful of sweat in his heart, "Baoyu Suxi knows that Daiyu has some small sex, and he does not know about Daiyu and Baochao recently, and he is afraid that JiaMu will hurt Baoqin and he is uncomfortable in his heart." Who knows, Dai Yu did not have a different color, but "for a while Lin Daiyu rushed to Baoqin to call her sister, and did not nominate a Dao surname, but was like a sister."
After truly experiencing the true feelings of Baochao, Baoqin, Baoyu and others, Daiyu's heart became open and warm, and in the fifty-seventh time she took the initiative to recognize Aunt Xue as her mother, and after that, she also took the initiative to call her "mother", for example, in the fifty-ninth time, Daiyu said to the warbler who came to deliver the flower basket, "I'm fine, I want to go out for a walk today." You go back and say with your sister, you don't have to come over to greet your mother, and you don't dare to ask him to come to see me, comb your hair and go to your mother, even the rice is served there to eat, everyone is lively", Dai Yu, who is born happy and does not like to get together, actually took the initiative to "be lively".
Treating Baoyu, Dai Yu is no longer so small. When hearing Baoyu change the two sentences in the "Furong Daughter Recitation" to laugh, "Under the screen window, I have no chance; in the loess ridge, Qing He thin life", Dai Yu set off infinite waves in her heart, and in the past she would inevitably cry in front of Bao Yu's face, but at this time Dai Yu hid her emotions, "Although there are infinite fox doubts in her heart, she refuses to show it outside, but instead she quickly smiles and nods her head and says that it is wonderful", and also praised and advised Bao Yu to "really change well." No need to mess around anymore, just go get serious...".
The "eighteen changes" that happened quietly in Sister Lin are actually the growth process and mental process of each of us. We always think that growing up is a vigorous process, in fact, the growth of the soul is sometimes in such a moment, people will really quietly change a personality and mentality after experiencing some things, and become a different self than before.
Author: Warm Forward, this article is to read less of the original works of the Red Chamber.