Every family wants their children to succeed and become talented in the future. And what the child will do in the future, in addition to his own ability, also has a lot to do with personality.
Each child's personality is different, some are cheerful and optimistic, confident, and some are inferior, timid and cowardly. Sunny and cheerful, good at socializing personality is very popular with others, but also easier to integrate into society. On the contrary, the lack of self-confidence, timid and cowardly character will appear more difficult and more difficult in social interaction.
I often hear some parents say that their children are not very confident, always cowering and shrinking, such as speaking in front of others is very small, and do not dare to face the faces of others, always bow their heads; when there are many people, they dare not move around, shrink into a ball, bow their heads and do not speak. In the face of activities, I am always afraid of my hands and feet, afraid of being ridiculed by others; even if I can, I dare not express myself.
In the process of children's growth, the cultivation of personality is mostly closely related to the family environment and the parents' education methods.
A child's lack of self-confidence
1, speak quietly, always bow your head, do not dare to face others.
2, will not refuse, is what we usually call "easy-going", loss will also be tacitly accepted.
3, too much care about other people's evaluation of him, once concerned, will feel anxious
4, do not dare to try, afraid of failure, unfounded worry.
5, obedient, no matter what the parents say will not refute, even if the parents are wrong.
6, lively and active is the nature of children, if the child is inferior in the heart, it will be lonely and timid, unwilling to play with children, standing alone on the side, looking pitiful.
7, can not make jokes, inferiority will make children particularly sensitive and vulnerable, will take jokes seriously, if you feel that there is a little bit of him in the words that he is not good, the heart will be very concerned, remember for a long time.
I believe that many parents do not want their children to become like this, so what should be done to make children not inferior?
How to help your child build self-confidence
First, give your child more encouragement
People do not make mistakes, let alone children; do not scold and accuse children as soon as they make mistakes, but slowly guide children to tell him where they are wrong and how to correct them; scolding and accusations may be counterproductive, so that children become timid, do not dare to make mistakes, afraid that they will make mistakes in what they do, slowly do everything as little as possible, do less and less, and even dare not express themselves.
Second, go out more and communicate more
Don't always let the child stay at home, when parents rest, arrange more opportunities to go out, communicate with others more, in order to make the child more confident, slowly overcome their timidity and shyness.
Third, learn to let go
Children are born with curiosity about the world, and 100,000 whys are the best testimony. Under the premise of ensuring safety, as far as possible to let the child complete a thing independently, you just need to silently observe. Regardless of the outcome, give affirmation and point out deficiencies.
Fourth, do not take children more than others
Don't always compare your child with someone else's child, because this will not only not encourage your child to progress, but will keep your child living in the shadow of others. Parents should learn to find the shining points of their children, do not skimp on their own praise, praise and encourage children through every small thing, so that children can increase their self-confidence and get rid of inferiority in a little bit.
Fifth, the company of the father
Often the mother's requirements for her children are obedience. My father, on the other hand, was more outgoing, brave and decisive. In the company of the father, the child's personality will become stronger and braver, and become cheerful and confident; because the father dares to let the child try.
In short, more with children to go out and see, more participation in group activities, more encouragement is the most important! Let the child know that the parents love him the most, always stand behind him and support him, so that the children become more confident and brave, more excellent!