Lively and lively to watch the big drama ~
When we were more than one year old, we just started to learn to walk, walking stumbled and stumbled easily wrestled, even if we wrestled and cried a few throats, we didn't pay attention to it, and forgot about it in the blink of an eye; when we grew up, we were scolded by teachers, ridiculed by classmates, cheated by friends, we easily felt deep frustration, this uncomfortable taste precipitated in our hearts, and the feeling of emptiness gradually became a lingering mood haze.
When we grow up, we know that such uncomfortable emotions are called "setbacks". Some people encounter setbacks, will listen to music and sing, it is easy to get rid of the emotional troughs brought about by setbacks; some people encounter setbacks, they will uncomfortably wrap up their emotions, hide in the heart, and over time will make themselves seriously ill, making the mood more depressed.
Resistance to setbacks is a skill that modern children need to learn, how to let children face the setbacks encountered in life, how to use their own strength to resolve setbacks, and at the same time let setbacks transform into their own life strength and become stepping stones to the far side. These are all things that need to be learned and digested by children.
The Invisible Drama
In the pen of the famous writer Cao Wenxuan, there is such a setback story - "Cao Wenxuan's Most Beautiful Bilingual Fairy Tale: Stupid Donkey Is Not Stupid" of "Invisible Drama", in which the protagonist Little Donkey encountered a lot of things, and also encountered the first setback lesson in his life, which made it very sad. Such a resonant story, I hope that children can understand "what is a setback" and "how to resolve after a setback" and improve their resilience.
"Invisible Drama" is a very interesting story, which has elements of our traditional Chinese cultural opera, and also allows children who do not know much about opera to understand from the story. Every New Year's Festival or family celebration, the village will hold a big drama, large and small villagers look forward to watching the big drama, inside and outside the water leaks, enough to prove that in that era, the popularity of opera can be seen.
The story of "Invisible Drama" is from watching the big drama, FenglinDu has a big drama about to be staged, the donkey father and the little donkey want to go to the big play, but the master's family wants to grind wheat tonight, and can only let a donkey go to see the big play. Pushing and shoving, later the owner used the method of tossing a coin to order a small donkey to go to the theater. The donkey father asked the little donkey to come back and tell it after watching the play.
Courtesy of the little donkey ~
Although the little donkey did not want his father, he still happily rushed forward. Many people got on the ferry, and the little donkey caught up, but it was later given up to the father and daughter, and one of them galloped forward. When it ran to the bridge, it saw an old grandmother pulling a big car, and it struggled to help the grandmother pull the car across the bridge, delaying a lot of time.
By the time we arrived at Maplewood Ferry, it was already a sea of people. The little donkey couldn't rush over, and was extremely anxious. Also anxious was a little boy who could not rush into the human wall, and the little boy thought of a clever plan after seeing the little donkey, stepped on the little donkey to watch the play, and said that after watching the play, he talked to the little donkey. But after the play ended, the little boy disappeared. This bumpy road, let the little donkey feel sorry, after returning home to see the hard donkey father, the father let it say the drama to it, the little donkey can not say it, humming for the father to grind.
The little donkey has a warm heart, it is helpful, and it always treats others with its own enthusiasm. It gave up the position of driving the ferry to the father and daughter three, helped the grandmother push a particularly heavy car, and drove the little boy to watch the big drama, but in the end he was delayed because of these things, did not occupy a favorable geographical location and did not see the big drama, and his heart was very regretful.
Angry little donkey~
The donkey's father wanted to listen to the drama, but the little donkey could not say anything, it was both ashamed and uncomfortable, and finally vented the anger in its heart in the form of grinding. The little donkey suffered the first major setback lesson in his life, and he must have been deeply shaken in his heart, not knowing whether he did it wrong or did it right, but this deep regret was forever imprinted in his heart.
Our life is sour, sweet and bitter, so not every day is smooth and profitable, sometimes setbacks will make us very angry, but also will produce a feeling of self-doubt, but these wonderful emotions are normal, will let children feel the ups and downs of psychological activities, but also can feel the positive or negative output of emotions. At this time, as a parent, you need to give your child the right guidance, let the child face the setback, correctly understand "what is the setback", and "how to deal with the setback" and resolve it, let the child transform this ability into his own strength, and when facing the setback in the future, he will no longer be angry like a little donkey and unable to resolve it.
There is no small donkey that occupies a good geographical location
Life is not smooth sailing, the world is not always beautiful and good, to let children understand that the world is also evil and ugly, the world is multi-faceted, pluralistic, the same is true of people, there are people who are helped to think that they should be, there are people who lend a hand to refuse money, children in the world, also need to use diversified eyes to look at, to take its essence to its dross, while parents to help children establish the right resistance, like a small donkey finally grinding to vent the depression of the heart is advisable, But afterwards, dad needs to tell it that it did the right thing, and that helping others is much more important than watching a big show. The spiritual construction of the heart is more important than the wonderful floating clouds in front of you, which is more conducive to the healthy growth of children.
The more people grow up, the more setbacks they suffer in life, and I hope that all children can face setbacks with the right attitude, do not be afraid, face them bravely, use their own strength to dissolve it, become the master of emotions, dominate and lead it. I also hope that all children can face the first setback lesson in life smoothly and smoothly, face the bittersweet and bittersweet in life, and have a strong resistance to frustration!
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