"My child is really too unassettling, not only is life always doing things to lose, every day we have to be parents to send him things to school, the child's learning status is also very worrying, there is no interest in learning at all, no matter what can not be done well, really about to die." 」 In the morning, I heard my colleague Xiao Zhou complaining to me.
His child is 13 years old, but regardless of his usual self-care ability or learning ability, people are very worried, Xiao Zhou has always complained that his child's heart is too big and too sloppy.
But in fact, this kind of thinking is wrong, children sometimes careless does not mean that they are big-minded, but it is likely that this is the embodiment of their lack of responsibility. The child's affairs should have been arranged and handled by themselves, so why should they help themselves deal with themselves under the guise of the hands of their parents?
Parents should no longer make excuses for their children, children are not too sloppy, but have no sense of responsibility! Children without a sense of responsibility generally have the following two effects!
First, what impact will it have
Impact 1: Doing things very sloppily
That child was like a child of the Xiao Zhou family, usually he didn't care about his own affairs at all, let alone the affairs of his family and friends. In their world view, as long as they are happy and happy, it does not matter whether things are done perfectly, or what the consequences of things are, and because children lack this sense of responsibility, in the future work and life, they will certainly bring them negative effects because of poor efficiency and inability to do things with quality and quantity.
Impact 2: Interpersonal communication
Whether it is group mutual assistance in the student era or win-win cooperation in the later work, because people are social animals, so in the case of close communication and collective strength requirements, if the child is still this irresponsible attitude, then for interpersonal interaction and life and work, few people are willing to accept such partners.
Second, how parents should help their children to improve their sense of responsibility
1. Give your child more opportunities to get involved in family affairs
Many parents think that their children are in the learning stage, so things in the family do not allow them to interfere too much, but the children are part of the family, and they have the obligation and right to help the family shoulder their own responsibilities.
Therefore, in the usual family affairs, whether it is housework or family affairs, you can adopt the child's suggestions or ask the child for help, so that the child can participate more in the collective activities at home, on the one hand, to improve the child's efficiency and ability to do things, on the other hand, it will also cultivate the child's responsibility in the little things in life.
2. Return more things to the child and cultivate the child's independence
Sometimes it is the parents' everything that makes the child gradually lose the sense of independence, and gradually become inseparable from the parents whether it is spiritual or life, and become a giant baby in society.
So to truly love children, not to do everything for children, but to return more things that belong to them, even if there are problems and difficulties ahead, we should let children face and think alone.
Even if the child will fail and fall in the future, parents must let him give it a go, because only in the process of continuous trial and error and tempering can he cultivate his heart and ability and truly become a qualified adult.
Is your child usually very sloppy in doing things, and how do you usually raise your children? Feel free to leave a message in the comments section.
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