See this little video:
A mother pulled out various "pieces of paper" from her son's messy bag, and almost every book was rolled out of shape.
Mom opened the back of one of the books with disgust and found that it was written "The target is Tsinghua Peking University."
The mother turned her head to see her son sitting at the table with Erlang's legs crossed and leisurely nibbling on the pen shaft, crying and laughing, and she said with some sarcasm:
"I can't believe that you're usually so disobedient and have such a big goal."
If you can be admitted to Tsinghua Peking University, your old wife and I will run around the town naked. ”
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The more you hit, the worse the child gets
There is a little boy named Huluwa in "Little Giant Games".
He was the first in every competition, but his parents never praised him, let alone praised him in front of everyone.
He said dismayfully on the show:
"If I'm a little bit strong, my mother says I'm far away from others."
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The more you hit, the farther the child is from you
Do you know why some children don't kiss their parents?
Two important reasons are the neglect and blowing of parents.
Ni Hongjie, who became popular because of "Love Myth", has a very stiff relationship with her parents.
She said in an interview:
She was beautiful since she was a child, but her parents never praised her for being beautiful.
She filmed an advertisement for Tingmei and became "China's first beautiful breast model", and her parents felt very humiliated.
She starred in "Zhu Wushuang" in "The Legend of Wulin", and her parents didn't say anything as if they didn't have this.
Once, when she saw her father watching TV, she tentatively said to her father that the station seemed to be broadcasting my "Double Thorns", and her father only responded with a very cold "Oh".
The indifference of her parents has greatly hit Ni Hongjie, and has also created a gap between Ni Hongjie and her parents that can never be crossed.
He says in the video:
"I grew up in a happy family, and my parents mainly encouraged me in my education.
My grades weren't ideal at first, and I could even describe them as bad.
But my parents always saw a little bit of small progress and kept cheering me on, encouraging, and supporting me.
It was their unconditional love for me, continuous attention and trust that gave me infinite warmth and motivation and sent me to Tsinghua University.
I want to say to my parents:
'Thank you, I love you. ’”
What children want most in their hearts is the understanding, appreciation and encouragement of their parents.
A "will-play" parent can not only meet the psychological needs of children, make children more motivated to continue to work hard, but also make the parent-child relationship more satisfactory.
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No matter how good the education
It is also no match for parents who will be on the scene
I've seen a video like this.
Music maestro Zander instructs a 10-year-old Asian girl to play the violin.
The little girl played the piano smoothly, but she looked nervous.
Her eyes were fixed on her fingers, and she never saw a smile on her face.
The master asked the little girl, "Can you smile?" ”
The girl smiled awkwardly.
The master asked again, "Can you jump?" ”
The girl jumped unnaturally.
Helplessly, the master only seemed to be a "big child", personally taking the little girl to jump on the stage.
And constantly encourage the little girl to relax, praise the little girl for being great, let the little girl imagine that she is skating gracefully on the ice...
With the patience and kind encouragement of the master, the little girl finally showed a sincere smile and confidently played a song full of feelings.
At the end of the tutoring, the master asked the little girl's mother:
"Do you think your child is pretty?"
Mom shook her head.
The master asked again, "Do you think she pulls well?" ”
Mom shook her head again.
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The Awakening of Parents says:
"Every child has the potential to become an excellent person, but the different education methods of parents give children a different life."
Being a parent who will be a favorite is the blessing of your child's life.
Because those children who are ridiculed, ridiculed, and poured cold water by their parents are often inferior, uneasy, and cowardly.
And those children who are praised and encouraged by their parents will never lack the courage to move forward and the courage to move forward.
May we all be a clapper who applauds our children.
May our children thrive in the light of love and appreciation.