Ni Hongjie, a female motivational speaker, recently sparked a heated discussion on social media. In a lecture, she called on women to learn to love themselves, not to be swayed by external evaluations, and to have their own lives and pursuits. However, this remark sparked a heated discussion on the Internet: "The ex-mother-in-law is quite green tea". This comment quickly became a hot topic, and many netizens left messages to discuss, some supported Ni Hongjie's views, and some questioned the behavior of the "ex-mother-in-law".
This story evoked my thoughts on self-awareness and emotional well-being. Do we really know how to love ourselves, do we often get caught up in the eyes and expectations of others in life, and ignore our own heart's true desires? Perhaps, we can all find resonance in this story. I have a friend whose name is Xiaoya. She is a gentle and kind girl who is passionate about life. However, she always immerses herself in the expectations and evaluations of others. Her mother used to be a strict person who always wanted Xiaoya to be what she expected. Xiaoya always tries to please her mother, but always feels unable to get her approval and praise.
By chance, Xiaoya and I talked about this topic. She confided in me her deep struggles and pains. She felt as if she had been living for someone else, and had never been able to find her true direction. She said she often felt constrained to do what she wanted to do, and instead was held back by the expectations of others. She even began to doubt her own worth and the meaning of her existence. After listening to her confession, I felt heartache and powerlessness, because I knew that this was not Xiaoya's problem alone, but the dilemma faced by many people. We inadvertently give up on our love and respect for ourselves and become more and more lost and helpless.
Recalling Ni Hongjie's exhortation, I think maybe we all need to learn how to love ourselves better. We need to stop, look inside ourselves, and find our own way of life and happiness. We can't let other people's eyes dictate our choices, we need to believe in our own worth and abilities, and be brave enough to go out of our own way. Together, Xiaoya and I embarked on a journey of self-growth and emotional well-being. We have participated in a number of counselling sessions to learn how to develop our emotional intelligence and self-awareness. We started trying to do something that was just for us, whether it was learning a new skill or exploring uncharted territory. We also participated in some volunteer activities together to help those in need of love and help. In the process, we gradually regained our love for life and confidence in ourselves.
In the process, I found that when we begin to learn to love ourselves, we are no longer swayed by the outside world, but begin to listen to the inner voice. We become more determined and confident, and are no longer afraid to face life's challenges and difficulties. We begin to see ourselves and the world around us in a new light, discovering more beautiful possibilities in life. Through this experience, I learned a truth: loving ourselves is not an easy thing, it requires constant effort and constant exploration. But at the same time, it is also a journey of hope and strength, because we will eventually find our share of happiness and fulfillment.
In these times of anxiety and stress, I hope that everyone can learn how to love themselves better and not let other people's eyes and expectations dictate their life choices. Each of us deserves our own happiness and joy, and we should all be brave enough to pursue our dreams and desires. Thinking back to that comment "Former mother-in-law is quite green tea", I no longer feel confused and shocked because I know that each of us may encounter similar challenges and dilemmas. However, I believe that when we learn to love ourselves, we will be able to stop being swayed by the voices of the outside world and start living our own wonderful lives.