Is there really a pure friendship between the opposite sex?

Is there a pure friendship between men and women? This is an eternal topic. It is believed that there is a pure friendship between the opposite sex, but it is rare and valuable - because it requires a high degree of upbringing and self-control on both sides. Especially after people reach middle age, the passion of the other half tends to be flat - in the side of the chicken and garlic skin of the subsistence, if you do not know how to grasp the measure, it is easy to "rub the gun" with other members of the opposite sex. Between the opposite sex, if there are often the following three phenomena, it is likely to flood the "deviant" environment, if there is one, we must pay attention to.

After talking about their marriage and two people forming a family, no matter how vigorously they love before marriage, they will inevitably be incompatibilities, contradictions, and quarrels after marriage. At this time, many people will complain about their other half to the opposite sex around them. In fact, this is also a common human feeling. In fact, man is an animal with emotions and feelings. "Confiding" oneself is an instinct and desire of man. But what people should pay attention to in the future when they reach middle age is: try not to talk to the opposite sex about their marital misfortunes.

There is a word in psychology called "emotional consensus." When everyone expresses their pain to outsiders, once there is an emotional consensus between the two sides, they will feel that the one in the family does not understand himself and does not understand himself, thus doubling his rejection of his other half. The Augmentation of the Sages says: "Fingers should be skimmed inwards, and the ugly family should be passed on." "No matter what kind of contradiction the husband and wife encounter, it is a problem between two people, and once it is told to the outsider, the nature of the contradiction will change." Whether it is a man or a woman, as long as he talks to other members of the opposite sex about his marital misfortune, he affirms that there has been a "trust" between the two, and over time, the two sides will easily introduce each other as confidants, and gradually ferment into an unhealthy relationship.

As mentioned earlier, man is an animal with emotions and feelings, and in the middle of the night, it is often a person's most emotional moment. Carefully investigating friends will find that if a person wants to win the favor of a certain opposite sex, the success rate at night is far greater than that of daytime. This is because people's minds are doubly delicate at night, and they are more easily emotional. In the middle of the night, men and women are more likely to reveal their own voices, if married people have a relationship with other members of the opposite sex at this time, they are likely to have heart-to-heart communication, unconsciously into each other's hearts, but also let each other into their own hearts. Further, people are not content and content – when two people often chat late at night, they will unconsciously want to meet each other. When you come and go, there will be "deviant" behavior. For middle-aged people, if they need to pour out their feelings, the best object is their pillow person, rather than picking up the mobile phone and looking for the opposite sex.

Friends who have had love experience know that two people often have a trance period before finally determining a relationship. In this trance period, although they do not make the words clear, they will occasionally make some trance jokes. I've seen some married friends who often ask their old friends of the opposite sex ," "Do you miss me?" – this is actually a very dangerous flag.

It is true that there is also such a feeling of "chi thoughts" between friends. However, for friends of the opposite sex, this kind of half-joking words are more or less geometric with some trance meaning. Maybe some of the things I say are really just jokes, but if I talk too much and for a long time, it will inevitably "change in quantity and cause qualitative change.". Moreover, even if you are speaking a witty word, the other party will inevitably listen to it. The Augmentation of the Sages says: "First speak out, then do not mess up." "For married people, connecting with the opposite sex with clear boundaries and not making trance jokes is the most fundamental criterion.

The proverb says, "Don't let the husband and wife have a thousand cartons of food, as long as the husband and wife are good at planning." "After people reach middle age, it is normal for husband and wife to have conflicts because of various problems in their livelihood - if there is a problem, they must face the problem and solve the problem, rather than obtain understanding and appeasement from other members of the opposite sex." If you often "talk about marital misfortune, always have a relationship in the middle of the night, and joke about trance" with your old friends of the opposite sex, you must stop the horse in time to avoid the consequences of Fu Cheng's redemption.