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In the original work of "In the World", after the death of his father Zhou Zhigang, the eldest brother Zhou Bingyi held his younger brother Zhou Bingkun in shame and cried bitterly.
The reason is that there is no other reason, among their three children, Zhou Bingyi, the eldest son, has simply become a half-upside-down son-in-law, and the daughter of the second daughter, Zhou Rong, has also let her father and mother break her heart, and the result is that Zhou Bingkun, the "most unproductive old knot", is the most worthy of the parenting grace of her parents.
In fact, in reality, such examples abound, when parents need to be taken care of in old age, it is often a stupid child like Zhou Bingkun who can be most counted on!
01, old pimples.
It can be said that Zhou Bingkun, the old knot of the Zhou family, is the one who is least valued.
In fact, what parent doesn't love his old son?
In fact, as the youngest child of the Zhou family, Bingkun not only loved him more by his parents, but even his brothers and sisters let him and take care of him everywhere.
Therefore, Bingkun's lack of attention is definitely not caused by his parents' intentional eccentricity, but under the background of his brothers and sisters who are excellent in all aspects, there is really no place in him that is worthy of his parents' other eyes.
Unlike his intelligent and sensible brother and confident and beautiful sister, Bingkun, who is ordinary and ordinary to the extreme, is more like a child born and raised in this ghost place of light characters.
From an early age, he showed a simple side of his mind:
"When I was more than five years old, I often wore the wrong shoes; when I went to elementary school, I often wrote 2, 3, 5, 7, and 9 backwards, and I couldn't tell whether "penultimate" was a good result worth rejoicing in. ”
He was too late to "enlighten his wisdom", and his brothers and sisters could discuss whether a thought was progressive or backward, but he couldn't even figure out what the idea was...
For a "stupid child" like Bingkun, there is no big problem, but there is no advantage, the family can care and tolerate, but the only thing is the lack of praise.
After all, his merits are so lackluster that even his biological parents can hardly praise him against their will.
Fortunately, the fact that two of the three children will be able to produce in the future is already the greatest comfort that can satisfy them, and it can also calm some of the worries caused by the old knots of the lack of heart.
And this growth environment has also caused Bingkun's inferiority and loneliness and a tendon, and he has formed the personality of "old man" at a young age.
At home, he was often marginalized as a small child, and no one sought his opinion on any big or small matter, even if he expressed a few opinions, no one would take it seriously.
Gradually, Bingkun became even more lacking in the world.
And this kind of marginalized days lasted until the brothers and sisters went to join the team as Zhiqing, and only Bingkun and his mother were left in the family, which officially ended.
His father, a construction worker who worked outside the home all year round, caught up with the country's difficult times, and it took several years to visit his family once, more like a passer-by at home.
As the only child in the family who "stayed in the city", Bingkun had to start learning to grow up and mature rapidly even if he "established things" late!
02. Three sons and daughters.
Among the three children, the one who worries their parents the most is not the Brothers Bingyi and Bingkun, but Zhou Rong, who has walked all the way to the black since childhood.
The eldest brother, Zhou Bingyi, is himself the kind of person who is excellent enough to quickly adapt to and get ahead no matter what environment he puts in, and he has inherited his mother's experience of dealing with the world without a teacher, and he is flexible and harmonious and never admits to death.
It can be said that From childhood to adulthood, whether it was academics or marriage, He did not let his father worry about anything.
Moreover, his gentle and frugal man can always be liked by most people.
This made him even during the "Cultural Revolution" period, but he was able to live a smooth life, and when he encountered ups and downs and fell into a trough, there were always noble people who secretly sheltered and helped each other.
At the same time, he is also a political believer with firm beliefs, extremely strong in character and very courageous in "willingness".
This also made his love, marriage, college, and even later become a good party member and cadre who engaged in politics for the people, all of which went smoothly without any suspense.
However, the younger brother Bingkun is the opposite of the older brother.
He has more personality traits inherited from his father, not only is he particularly fond of death, but he is often a tendon in the world, and the word "flexible" is naturally isolated from him.
Fortunately, his adaptability is also very strong, even when he repeatedly encounters blows and difficulties, he has not given up trying to live a personal appearance, and his affection and righteousness for Zheng Juan make his father look at him with admiration.
Admittedly, Bingkun is by no means a prominent person in the eyes of the world.
The greatest achievement of his life was nothing more than to work as an editor of a quyi magazine, although he later set up a company in line with the times and made some money by rushing to the scene, but his identity was not embarrassing and inferior to the workers at that time.
However, he had already fulfilled his father's expectations of him in advance.
In this life, he has done the most outrageous things, and he has only married Zheng Juan, a widow, but in the end, it is also his wife who is a bit of a second, who has become a Zhou family hero who has won the respect of his father.
And his most unsuccessful son really sent his parents to the end of their lives and repaid their nurturing grace!
As for Zhou Rong, the only daughter, she was born rebellious from her bones.
Just like Bingkun's joke, "Ten beauties and nine have strange personalities", Zhou Rong is definitely the most eccentric one.
Since childhood, she has shown a strong ability to make independent choices, and when other children only know how to blindly follow the advice of teachers and the wishes of their parents to take exams and go to school, she has her own long-term thinking insights.
Later, after she was infected with the idea of "not being free and preferring to die" from books, her yearning for freedom was like bees and butterflies naturally looking for nectar and pollen.
In the original work, Zhou Rong is written like this:
"If an era makes her feel depressed, her performance will never be gradually adapted. A short period of obedience she can do, and as time goes on, she begins to show a strong rebellious character. If the repression and blows she suffers are callous, then she will fight stoically to the end. ”
A woman like Zhou Rong is a special kind of woman who is different from ordinary women, and from her resolute choice to go far away for love, she is ready to face all the tests of life calmly!
Her overly determined heart, in many situations can save herself from harm, but it is easy to hurt the people who love her.
Later, she and Feng Huacheng were both involved in political events, and her mother became vegetative under great stimulation and left sequelae; she quietly divorced and did not consult any of her relatives to remarry like lightning bolts...
Therefore, among the three children, only she is the most loved by her father, so that her father worries the most and sheds the most tears.
But until her father died, she didn't even thank him, and when she realized her mistake, it was too late!
03, live out as a human being.
Zhou Zhigang, who has been a construction worker all his life, has the biggest dream in his life to give his wife and children a decent home.
However, he went south and north to participate in so many project constructions, but until he retired and died, he could not move out of the city's worst "dirty street combination" light character film.
You know, the children of the Zhou family have caught up with the good times!
In that era when it was generally believed that reading was useless, even Bingkun won a college diploma, and in the wave of layoffs of workers, he had the opportunity to win the job bowl of public institutions.
On Zhou Zhigang's sixty-sixth birthday, the eldest son who graduated from a prestigious university had already taken up a leadership position, and his equally outstanding daughter also became an associate professor of philosophy at a key university in the city.
Two of the three sons and daughters were born, and they were able to get what they wanted.
However, the living conditions of the old couple have not improved, and they still live in the dirty and messy neighborhoods of the city, and they can't see any improvement and cling to the two cave-like adobe houses.
Zhou Bingyi had a bitter word, although he was not very willing, he still moved into his mother-in-law's small building with his wife.
In the end, he can only "more willingly" give up the unit to divide the room, which means that there is no possibility of taking his parents to live together to fulfill filial piety, even if his mother-in-law's small building has been empty for a long time.
Of course, his mother-in-law never condescended to visit the Zhou family.
Gao Gan's family had never visited once in a polite manner, which became a knot in the heart of Zhou Zhigang, a father-in-law who loved to recognize death, even if he was very satisfied with his daughter-in-law, he also felt that he was very faceless in front of his neighbors.
As for Zhou Rong, although there is a school that is allocated a room, the parents' habit of using the urinal to get up at night dooms them to be unable to live together in a house.
Younger brother Bingkun was even more unlucky.
He spent a lot of money to "exchange" the Old Russian-style House, and it did not take long for the Housing Management Bureau to take away the property and return it to the original owner, and the family of four could only live in the basement of the Cultural Center, and for the time being, there was no condition to pick up his parents to live together.
However, compared with the busy brothers and sisters, Bingkun's two sons still bear most of the burden of their parents' pension, and also gave birth to a son, Zhou Cong, which is enough to comfort the old father's expectations for the next generation of the Zhou family.
However, Zhou Zhigang still died on the fire he had unwrapped.
After the death of their father, Bingyi and Zhou Rong had to go to work on time every day, and Zhou Rong fell into a huge sadness and could not extricate herself, and she did not have the patience of Zheng Juan to provide for and coax her old mother to be happy.
Therefore, it was the Bingkun family who moved back to the old house of guangzi tablets to take care of their mother, who did not want to leave there even if she was demented.
For a long time after that, the two of them did not let their mother cause any worries to their brothers and sisters, even during the twelve years that Bingkun was imprisoned, Zheng Juan never gave up on giving Zhou Mother a pension.
Therefore, even if the Zhou family has two children who have come out of the zhou family, Zhu Yu, the people of the light character piece will still say:
"Whose son can be like Zhou Bingkun, he can be considered to have no white life." Whether the children are good or not ultimately depends on whether the parents are stained or not..."
Of course, this is not to say that there is nothing advisable for "outgoing" children like Bingyi and Zhou Rong, without their help, Bingkun may have a problem in life, let alone filial piety to his parents.
Far from it, the tragedy of Xiao Guoqing's family is a lesson from the past.
From other points of view, the children of the Zhou family are actually good children, whether they are out of the ordinary or not, at least they have met Zhou Zhigang's expectations: out of the house, men have a man's appearance, women have a woman's appearance!
Moreover, most of our children are mediocre people like Bingkun, and they are also trying to live their lives in order to meet the expectations of their parents.
Perhaps, we will never have a "big show".
However, this does not prevent us from stumbling and learning to be good people, good sons, good fathers, good wives, good mothers and good daughters-in-law who are recognized by parents and people!