If children don't want to learn, they don't want to learn, so what else do they want parents to do? It's worth thinking about for all parents! | Selected

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The healthy growth of children is inseparable from the timely guidance of parents, and on the surface, everything respects children, and the result will harm children!

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The child is almost seven years old, especially likes brushes, often holding a pen dipped in ink, scribbling scribbles. Although his handwriting was crooked, it did not affect his enthusiasm.

Seeing that he was so obsessed, I enrolled him in a calligraphy interest class.

In the beginning, he especially enjoyed classes. But after a month, I began to become impatient, did not want to go to class, and did not even want to write.

I had expected this reaction from the child, so I comforted him a few words, and then firmly told him: "You must go down!" Since you signed up, you must stick to the end, and your mother will accompany you. ”

"If I don't go, I won't go!" He continued to make trouble, and then sighed: "Adults are really happy, do whatever they want, children are so miserable, everything must listen to adults!" ”

I told him, "There are many things that your children don't understand, and if you can't make a decision, you have to listen to the adults!" ”

Maybe some people don't agree with my approach. If the child does not want to learn, then don't learn, why do you have to force him to learn, and now don't we all talk about "respecting the child"?

But I have come to discover that when children are young, parents must make the right decisions for their children, and sometimes even force them to do things they don't want to do, especially learning. This is the responsibility of parents.

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Yu Minhong's daughter started piano in elementary school and won the first prize in the Vancouver Children's Piano Competition at the age of seven. At the age of eight, he took the piano level 10. At that time, his wife thought that there was going to be a pianist in the family, so she began to increase the weight of her daughter. What used to be an hour and a half of piano study per week was increased to five hours a week.

But what Yu Minhong did not expect was that this made her daughter's enthusiasm suddenly drop sharply. When her daughter wanted to give up, Yu Minhong said something serious to her:

"Baby, when you grow up, everyone will have a lot of lonely times, if my mother and I were not around you at that time, if you could have a piano and music to accompany you, you wouldn't feel lonely, because you could talk." 」 Whether or not to continue, you decide for yourself, this is the consistent principle of your father to you. ”

After listening to her father's words, she not only did not give up the piano, but practiced more consciously. After that, she played the piano better and won many awards.

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I don't know when it started, many parents are increasingly "respecting" their children. However, many times it is overcorrected and too late, and the "respect" in the mouth of most parents has become "coddling".

Therefore, when the child is interested in dance, calligraphy, art, etc., the parents do not say a word to the class. However, the child is impatient after learning for a period of time, and when he wants to give up, the parents follow the child's decision, saying that they want to listen to the child and respect the child's opinion.

As everyone knows, this is parents "lazy" under the guise of "loving children". What seems to be respect for the child is actually a laissez-faire for the child, which is a manifestation of the extreme irresponsibility of the parents.

You know, any learning process will inevitably go through a boring and tedious stage, at this time parents do not "force" the child, let the child "do not want to learn not to learn", then the child's learning can only stay in the stage of shallow taste, east to learn from the west, never experience the fun of deep learning, forming a vicious circle. Over time, children can only learn nothing and cannot do anything.

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Cai Kangyong said a passage, very well, he said:

"5 years old feels that swimming is difficult, give up swimming, 18 years old meet a person you like to ask you to swim, you have to say 'I will not yay'; 18 years old think English is difficult, give up English, 28 years old has a great but to know English job, you have to say 'I will not ya'." 」

If you don't want your child to regret it when he grows up, parents must take responsibility, walk ahead, and become the child's guide. Tell your child that if you don't study well early in life, you will inevitably regret it when you grow up. When the child wants to give up a certain learning, say to him: "Child, hold on a little longer, I will accompany you." ”

As Long Yingtai wrote to his son:

"Child, I ask you to study hard, not because I want you to compare grades with others, but because I hope that you will have the right to choose in the future, choose meaningful and timely work, rather than being forced to make a living." 」

Learning is never an easy task, it not only requires children to work hard, but also the patience of parents. When the child wants to give up, give full play to the "majesty" of the parents, discipline it, and be strict with the child, which is the real love of the child.

Sometimes, parents just want to "force" their children. If the parent forces the child to learn what he does not want to learn, it is the parent who does not do it properly; if the parent forces the child to make his own choice, it is the responsibility of the parent, to educate the child, do not give up halfway.

No matter what, persistence will have an effect, there will be a sense of achievement, there will be a sense of achievement, over time, in order to develop good habits, let the child understand: today do not suffer hardships, the future will suffer; today do not work hard, have to work hard for a lifetime.

In fact, the real education is "spelling daddy and fighting mom". An excellent child can never be born, and behind it must be the countless time and efforts of parents.

Responsible Editor | Jia Wenyi