Many times, we are morally kidnapped by others, kidnapped by family affection, because we want to be a good person, in the middle of family affection, this good person is more of a good child, we want to become a good child recognized by parents or relatives and friends.
But unfortunately, sometimes you've spent decades and not been recognized, not necessarily because you're not doing a good job, but it's possible that they simply don't have the ability to recognize others.