Writer Li Xiaomo once said: "Always to be better than others in words is the lowest emotional intelligence I have ever seen." "A friend once told me that his colleague XiaoFang at his company was a person with low emotional intelligence. small

Writer Li Xiaomo once said: "Always to be better than others in words is the lowest emotional intelligence I have ever seen." ”

A friend once told me that his colleague XiaoFang at his company was a person with a low emotional intelligence.

Xiao Fang has a strong ability to work, but his popularity is not very good, because he likes to debate with people no matter what he does, and never lets his mouth suffer.

One day, the partner of the friend's company came to the company to discuss specific cooperation matters with them, and the boss asked Xiaofang and two other middle-level leaders to go to the reception room to entertain the guests.

In the chat, talking about a hot event, Xiaofang and the partner disagreed, the two argued, Xiaofang vigorously defended his own views, refuted the other party dumb, the atmosphere is very awkward.

In desperation, the other two leaders had to divert the topic.

After the meeting, one of the leaders criticized Xiaofang's work attitude as problematic.

Xiao Fang retorted that he worked hard every day, worked never wrong, and how could there be a problem with his work attitude.

The leader said: "Today the cooperation business came to talk about cooperation, and you actually argued with others endlessly, and you were happy to refute people without words?" Where do you receive guests like this? You are not a problem with the attitude of work, what is the problem, how will we talk to them about cooperation in the future? ”

Xiao Fang realized that he was wrong and apologized to the leader.

The philosopher La Roche-Fuucco said, "If you want to make enemies, you are better than your friends; if you want to make friends, please make friends better than you." ”

Language is a tool for communication, not a weapon for victory.

When a person always has to outperform others in words, the purpose of his speech is no longer to communicate, but to overcome others.

People with really high emotional intelligence often know how to show weakness and leave the sense of victory to the other party.

After all, people get along with each other, seeking comfort, not winning or losing. #洞见 #