Every holiday, open the circle of friends, you can travel around the world. Especially for families with children, it becomes a unique scenery to take their children to experience the local customs and scenery.
Due to the epidemic situation, this year's Spring Festival holiday is relatively leisurely, and mothers slow down to drink tea and chat, unconsciously talking about "travel". There was a mother who was once very keen to travel with her children, and suddenly sighed from the bottom of her heart: "I don't want to take my children on a trip anymore!"
Asked the reason, the mother helplessly shook her head, the original intention was to open the child's vision, but really took the child to travel, a circle, the child has always been in the world of mobile phones.
Remind twice, the child still barely looked up at the scenery, the number of reminders is more, the child coldly replied: "Annoying is not annoying!" Don't call me out in the future, I'll stay home alone! ”
As for the effect of travel, the scenery does not want to see, and the composition cannot be written.
"I never want to travel with my kids anymore..." Listen closely and you'll see that such voices are really common.
Why can't a beautiful landscape attract children? Spend money, spend time, spend energy, such a trip, is there any sense?
If this happens, parents should really calm down and ask themselves: Are you teaching your children to observe life in life?
Only children who have the ability to observe have the ability to learn
Harvard University has a motto: there has never been an era, as it is today, that requires continuous, anytime, anywhere, fast and efficient learning.
Although the trip is leisure, it also pours out the intentions of parents, hoping that children will learn all the way.
When children ignore the scenery when traveling, it is very important that they lack observation, which will directly affect the child's future learning ability.
There was a time as a teacher of an essay training class, the same composition practice class, the same teaching method, when the composition is withdrawn, the child's level is low and low.
Although many years have passed, one scene is still clear. In a literacy class, in order to make the children feel more intuitively, I took them to the woods downstairs, and two of the children impressed me.
A child is full of interest in practical observation, he not only smells with his nose in the way I have suggested, touches with his fingers, and observes with his eyes, he also has a sudden idea: "Teacher, I want to take off my shoes and feel the temperature of the grass." ”
It was early spring weather, the temperature was slightly cool, the child could not stop taking off his cotton socks and stepping on the lawn, he giggled and said, "It's funny, the grass is tickling me." Then he wrote the plot into the composition, remembering that his composition was full of childlike fun.
The other child, who had his hands in his pockets all the time, did not want to bend. I encouraged him to observe through his facial features, but he told me with great care: "Teacher, I know that spring is coming, and the grass is sprouting from the soil..."
The child's description is as precious as the family, and the words presented on his composition manuscript can be written with closed eyes even if they are not observed. It's just that there is a lack of Reiki.
Obviously, this child has put a lot of effort into the classroom and memorized a lot of good words and sentences, but his composition is out of touch with reality due to lack of observation.
More importantly, when the child is accustomed to "ignoring" life, he lacks observation, and he will miss a lot of precious beauty invisibly.
Like a small practical composition lesson, perhaps most children can see the obvious facts, but if your child has the art of observation and knows how to use multiple senses to observe, then he will find a different experience than others.
And these, which are gradually accumulated, are the children's learning ability.
Observation is a powerful way to improve the quality of learning and is a competency that can be cultivated. When children go deep into it, they will feel fun, and when they become willing to observe, they will strive to improve their learning.
Teaching knowledge is not as good as teaching methods; knowledge is limited, and with reasonable methods, children can have a way to acquire knowledge.
It is better to give the child resources than to give the child the environment
For parents, for the sake of their children's learning, they can spend money at all costs.
However, many parents will also find that no matter how much they try their best to create conditions for their children to strive for resources, they still cannot stimulate their children's active learning heart: do not urge, shrink back when they encounter difficulties, and learning becomes a matter imposed on their children by parents.
In fact, to give children good resources, parents should not first lead by example and create a good learning environment for their children.
Teacher Bai Yansong said: Families who like to play mahjong cannot teach children who love to learn.
Parents are the first teachers on the road of children's lives, and children open their eyes to the world through their parents' words and deeds.
I hope that the child will study well, parents must first do a good job of themselves, parents maintain the state of learning, the child will look in the eyes, learn in the heart.
If parents like to read, that's the best example; even if parents don't like to read, at least during their time with their children, take a newspaper, take a magazine, and read it.
When the child hears the parents' learning energy, he will gradually be attracted to the past.
When children germinate a sense of learning and have learning habits, they also have the ability to learn. In a strong learning atmosphere, if you don't want your child to learn, it is also a difficult thing.
It is better to give children material rewards than to give spiritual encouragement
"If you score 100 points, I'll reward you with 100 bucks."
Using material means to motivate children to study well is a common practice of many parents.
It's not that material rewards aren't desirable, but from a psychological point of view, children are very much in agreement with material encouragement before they are seven or eight years old. Even if they are given a small candy or a sticker, it will make the child full of energy.
But as children grow older, encouragement should rise from material needs to spiritual needs.
At a parent-teacher meeting, a parent once complained to the teacher: as soon as his child arrived at writing homework, he rubbed, persuaded, scolded, and awarded, and the way he should have used it repeatedly, but the effect was not obvious, what to do?
This teacher pointed out a direction to parents on the spot: it is time to give children spiritual encouragement!
Like writing homework, if the child's rated homework time is one hour, as long as he can complete it in advance, then the rest of the time can be rewarded to the child. When a child plays with the bonus time, he is mentally very happy. Running towards the goal of continuing to play, the child will continue to chase time and slowly get on the right track.
The world is quietly rewarding children with "learning power."
There was once a study plan for a Tsinghua student circulating on the Internet, and through the schedule, you can see that he has arranged his time to the fullest. Even so, you'll find that he wrote down his motivation in the blanks of the form: Do well, come on!
A child who enters Tsinghua University of Higher Learning, no one is around to supervise and discipline, but still maintains a strong learning motivation, which is the most precious learning ability of children.
The world is quietly rewarding children with "learning power"!
You may have been wondering: why do other people's children, who do not learn so hard, have such excellent results?
"Learning power" is one of the weapons!
It is better to give them fish than to give them fish. In the child's learning, cultivating a good attitude of the child, teaching the child a good learning method, and guiding the child to be the master of learning is the greatest competitiveness of the child in the future.
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