A little girl had a quarrel with her mother, and ran out in a fit of rage, only to have no money and hungry.
Passing by a wonton stall, the stall owner saw that she was pitiful, so he made her a bowl of wontons for free, the little girl was very touched, and cried while eating, saying that people she didn't know could cook for herself, while her mother only knew how to quarrel with herself.
At this time, the stall owner said that she had only made a meal, which made her so moved, that her mother had cooked her so many years of food, but she was obliterated because of a quarrel.
Life is like this, marriage is like this, people are like this, it seems that you can't see the person who has been giving for himself, but he is grateful for the favor of others.
Why do many men think that women outside are better than wives? After reading this story, you will understand.
Human greed has always been their inferiority
When they were young, boys loved to play with toy guns, knowing that they were very expensive and fun.
But I don't know why, they just think that other people's toy guns are better than their own, and they also feel that watching others play with their toy guns will be happier than their own.
We think that a person's virtue will end with the end of childhood over time, but in fact, this insatiable inferiority will always accompany men and will not change when they grow up.
A man will meet at least two women in his lifetime, one is a white moonlight and the other is a cinnabar mole.
However, if they marry White Moonlight, after a long time, they will feel that White Moonlight has become a white rice grain, and the cinnabar mole that they have not been able to get is still a cinnabar mole;
If you marry a cinnabar mole, after a long time, you will feel that the cinnabar mole has become a touch of mosquito blood on the wall, and the white moonlight is still the bright moonlight in front of the window.
People are greedy, can't see what they have, but have been clinging to their own nothing, and then worship high and low, thinking that what they have is worthless, but what they can't have is a priceless treasure.
As a result, men can't see their own greed, nor can they see how much their wives have paid for the family, they only see the stimulation brought by the novelty, and they feel that other women are better.
The distance between husband and wife is too close, and the beauty is gone
The heroine in the Korean TV series "Mr. Love" is also a goddess-level existence in the student era, and her husband likes her at the beginning, and he is also devoted to her beautiful and unworldly temperament that comes out of the mud and does not stain.
However, soon after the two people got married, the husband felt as if his wife had changed as a person.
You can talk in a loud voice, you can argue with a vendor who is short of two pounds, and when your husband goes to the toilet, no one can go in and let him take off his dirty clothes and wash them himself.
But he clearly remembered how gentle, shy, and shy his wife used to be, and how beautiful she dressed herself up every day, and she would never be as untrimmed as she is now.
A marriage will not be a short-term emotional investment, it must be a long-term business process, and over time, the initial freshness will fade, coupled with the closeness to each other, making us more "unscrupulous".
Anyway, already married, anyway is already an old husband and wife, there is no need to pay attention to the image, therefore, in the marriage, women will "do whatever they want", do not care about their own image, liberate their nature, do whatever they want.
This has the advantage of giving the other half a sense of security, but it also has advantages and disadvantages, and it will cause the beauty to disappear because it is too close.
Just imagine, his wife is not trim and dirty, while other women are dressed up brightly, and under strong contrast, they will inevitably feel that other women are good.
Some people always base so-called happiness on comparison
In the eyes of men, it is felt that other women will dress up, have a gentle personality, and have a slim figure.
Then look at his wife, coarse cloth linen, big voice, a lifetime of city beggars, bloated figure, yellow face.
As a result, they feel that other women are better than their wives.
But they overlooked the fact that other women are good because other women don't need to wash and cook, don't need to take care of the trivial things that can't be handled, don't need to have children for him, and don't need to nag about those annoying things.
If their wives eat and drink every day and don't need to worry about him, perhaps their wives are also the goddess of dreams in the eyes of others.
What you disdain yourself may be what others are looking forward to.
Liang Wendao wrote in Common Sense: "Some people say that happy people are silent. Puzzled, ask a friend, the other party calmly replied: because happiness is never compared, if compared with people, you will only feel that you are in a sad situation. ”
As far as marriage is concerned, the quiet years are a moment, and a place of chicken feathers is a daily routine.
But is this going to be a disappointment in the marriage?
No, because this is the norm of marriage, all we have to do is relax our hearts, even if the world is occasionally cold, the heart must be prosperous.
With the person you love the most, shallow joy, quiet love, deep understanding, light relief.