Recently, the results of the middle school entrance examination in many places have been released, and when the children inquire about the results, some of them try to remain calm, some of them cheer and are happy to roll, and some of them are excited to tears, and they can feel happy across the screen.
However, there are also people who burst into tears because of unsatisfactory results. At this time, what is most needed is the warm comfort and support of parents.
The following is a letter from a mother who did not want to be named to her son who did not do well on the test, with encouragement, encouragement, tolerance, and full of love...
Mom will always love you, no matter how high or low you fly
Dear child,
The scores of the middle school entrance examination came out, not as expected, and in the morning, you still carried your school bag to the library. I know, you're scared! You don't know what kind of life such a score will bring you.
Looking at the back of you carrying your school bag, my heart is full of heartache and reluctance. Although we all try our best to be light and breezy, invisibly, you still feel the pressure - this is an important exam in your life, and no candidate or parent can achieve true lightness.
But, looking at your back, I will think deeply, is your future, or your life, really a test can be decided?
When you were just about to read extracurricular books, one day, you said:
"Mom, I'll tell you a joke: there are three kinds of stupid birds in the world, one is the first to fly, one is tired and can't fly, the third is the most annoying, you can't fly yourself, just lay an egg in the nest, and the next generation will fly hard." 」
When you're done, you look at me, and I know you're waiting for me to promise that I'm not the third kind of stupid bird.
In fact, at that time, I was more reflective, because my mother did not belong to any of the three kinds of stupid birds, and in this world, there was a fourth kind of stupid bird.
After laying eggs, they fold a pair of wings, tirelessly build a more solid nest, look for more bugs, and protect the young birds behind the eagle's circling, feeding it wholeheartedly.
When the young bird's feathers have grown, it takes it on the fly, letting its wings flutter, falling and climbing up, full of scars, until it can safely watch it fly in the sky for a long time.
Finally, one day, the little bird will be eager to leave the warm nest, so the mother, watching the once young chick fly into the vast sky, and finally become a vague little black dot.
How proud and happy she was when she craned her neck and looked up, so proud and happy that she had forgotten herself, their hearing had long since weakened, their feathers had fallen off, and they had permanently lost the ability to fly.
Mom, I'm not very good at writing, and I can't speak, so I wrote you a passage from the newspaper:
"Child, I ask you to study hard, not because I want you to compare grades with others, but because I hope that in the future you will have the right to choose, choose meaningful, time-consuming work, rather than being forced to make a living.
When your work has meaning in your heart, you have a sense of accomplishment. When your work gives you time and doesn't deprive you of your life, you have a sense of accomplishment and dignity, and work gives you joy. ”
This person is very reasonable, and the mother is stupid and cannot say such a thing, but the child, when the mother was strictly educating you, she recognized this principle in her heart.
Although your results are not so ideal, your mother also accepts it and hopes that you will not be sad.
The entrance examination is very important, but it is not important enough to determine the victory or defeat of your future life.
Because after the middle school entrance examination, you still have a lot of life problems to face: college entrance examination, study, employment, marriage, having children, career, ideals...
Therefore, life is really not a test to determine the outcome; or, life should not be defined by victory and defeat, as long as your life has always maintained an upward flying posture, then your life is wonderful.
Child, I still remember the promise to you, the mother still chooses to be the fourth kind of stupid bird, if you understand the mother's choice, then, we can work together.
It is said that God could not be with everyone, but he could not bear their lack of love, so he created a mother.
Remember, Mom will always love you, no matter how high and far you fly, Mom will always look at you with warmth.
Please hug the child who lost
From school to family, most Chinese education is "the winner is king, and the loser is Kou".
We want to succeed too much, do not want to fail, afraid of failure, failure means losing everything, for some children, a failure of an exam may lose the love of their parents, only by scoring good results for their parents and family to win a long face are eligible for love.
Anxiety and utilitarianism are eating away at our affection little by little, and too many parents only care about whether their children fly high or not, and do not care whether their children are tired or not.
The child is the hope of every family and the pride of every parent, but he or she is first and foremost the person closest to your own life, not because he or she is the one who stands at the top of the top.
We should tell our children this: Losing an exam is not a total failure in your life.
We should tell ourselves that the lost family affection is the irreversible failure of life.
There was a child from a foreign school who was admitted to Tsinghua University, and he told a story at the high school sharing conference:
In the first year of high school, I took the first place in the class, and when I came back, my mother read my test paper and hugged me;
Say to me, "You can take the first to last place in the class today, you can take the second to last place tomorrow, and the day after tomorrow you will be third and fourth." ”
This child was my son's classmate Feng Aaron, who was admitted to Tsinghua University and later went to graduate school in the United States.
Every child has the right to be loved, whether it is winning or losing, the child who loses is more worthy of our love.
The results are out, please hug the child who lost. Behind every excellent child must be the parents' hard lifting!
I'd rather believe that my kids are late
A father in the education industry, who has a child who does not perform well, has several points worth sharing.
1. Accept our child's present and future, whatever it may be, but you must always educate him with your best efforts.
Not good parents must have excellent children, just like ordinary parents may have different children, otherwise this human society is too unfair, and the structure of this society is too stable.
Not all good habits are given by parents, or why children of the same parents can be very different; not all bad things are because parents are not properly educated, as my experience is an example.
There is genetic variation, and we accept that the child has its own strengths and weaknesses, but since this is our child, we bring him into this world, we can only love her (him) the most, and give him the best education you can give.
2. It may be a kind of happiness, don't torture each other into pain.
Maybe there are two situations that can be happiness: if your child is smart, beautiful, has good habits, is good at self-control, never lets you worry about learning, the teacher praises you for teaching your children, you yourself feel very accomplished, you are indeed very happy.
But there may be another situation, I remember that when I was studying, my companions could only go to junior high school in my village, and I was the only one in the whole village who was admitted to the county middle school, and my father died proudly.
However, only my mother felt that she might be unhappy, and when I had to leave home every week with pancakes on my back, she was so reluctant to touch my back and said: Child, you study well, have a career, but in the future you will have to work on the edge of the sky, and your mother will see you less.
This sentence of my mother was unfortunately a slur, and when my mother died, we were not by her side. It's not a curse, it's a possibility.
If your child is not so good, you have to educate, you educate repeatedly, you spend more time with your child, you say more, I think all the heavens are together, isn't this happiness?
When children become adults, there are fewer opportunities to be close to each other.
When he was a minor, a little more time with children than others, maybe it was happiness, don't let the scolding and crying become the mainstream voice like I did before, and turn the possible happiness into mutual torture.
Only the closest people in the world can hurt the people closest to them, and it will last.
3. Every child is different, I am talking about various aspects; children can't do sometimes it is not attitude, it is ability.
No one beats a child every day because the child's height is not as high as others; no one scolds the child every day because the child can't run Liu Xiang. Because the difference in appearance can be seen.
We acknowledge:
The promotion rate is not so important, the school does not discriminate because of this, but because of learning, you can't swallow this breath, you refuse to let go of your children, why are you bitter?
Invisible differences also exist, otherwise why didn't we become Einstein?
Efforts for the future of the child are deserved, do not worry too much about the future of the child, the tree can be towering, the grass can also become green.
Why are you losing everything?
Why is it so rubbish?
Why can't I remember?
He said it a million times, played several times, he was still him, why didn't he listen?
Parents and friends, it is likely not because of attitude, just like he can't learn, grow up, and can't run fast.
We can only help him with time management, study and life planning with him, help him with forms and summaries, and there is no way to blame him.
4. Education is a myth when it comes to life, and I prefer to believe that my children are late in life.
The longer I was a father, the longer I was a teacher, the more I felt that there was almost no introduction to educating me, which was not modest at all, it was true. Either you tell me which kind of education is successful, or why is it that there is often a way of education that suddenly becomes so popular that we have not yet learned it, and it disappears?
Although I am ready to persevere, I still don't know when it will work, maybe I won't see it when I try, maybe at some point when I am not prepared for the child suddenly grows.
Even if he grows up, I can't covet the merits of heaven, feel that it is my own success, how many factors affect life, who can say clearly?
But, I'm going to stick to it.
Just like the height of a person, there are early and late developments, and perhaps IQ and emotional intelligence are also the same.
I'd rather believe that my children are late.
To the elderly, we often say that the tree wants to be quiet and the wind does not stop, and the son wants to raise and the relatives are not there, which is a pity.
For the child, if I give up lightly, then in case the child's life is not satisfactory in the future, I will feel guilty and regret, and I did not help him when he needed it most.
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