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For children, the most anticipated thing during the New Year is not only to wear new clothes and eat food, but also to harvest big red envelopes from relatives and friends.
Although they are happy when they receive red packets, after returning home, parents will still try their best to take their children's red envelopes for themselves, and parents have also given their reasons for taking away red envelopes.
If you look closely, you will find that these reasons are similar every year, both classic and "strange".
At the end of the year, take stock of the common excuses used by parents to take away their children's old age money, and the last one cannot be refuted
Excuse one: Press the old money to keep paying your tuition
This reason is used by almost every parent, and it is also the most classic, after all, paying tuition is an unquestionable excuse, neither wasted, but also spent on children, and can get greater value.
Because of this, when parents ask their children to press the old money, they are also full of confidence: hurry up and take out the red envelope, this is the money for your tuition!
The implication is that if you don't hand over the money, you won't be able to go to school when school starts...
Excuse two: It is not safe for children to take large denominations of money.
This is a typical "alarmist" type of parent.
The way they take away their children's money is basically by first intimidating and then cheating.
When they see a child holding a hundred-dollar bill in his hand, parents will say that it is not safe for the child to take the large value of the money, and it is likely that he will be targeted by bad people, so he can exchange the change with the child.
For preschool children, their understanding of the renminbi is not clear, so many parents have successfully exchanged two ten yuan for one hundred yuan.
Excuse three: the money must be used to "pay off debts".
As one of the strange excuses for adults to take away children's old age money, the reason of "paying off debts" is also often used.
Some parents usually say this to their children: The money that Mom and Dad send to others is borrowed from the bank, so the Money you recover should be handed over to Mom and Dad as soon as possible, and we have to use it to pay off debts.
Although this reason sounds a bit absurd, it can really scare some children, in the eyes of children, if the pressure money can solve the urgent needs of parents and mothers, they are also willing to hand it over generously.
Excuse four: Save it for you, go to college and get married later.
This last reason is equally irrefutable.
Many parents will give such an explanation when receiving their children's red envelopes: obedient, these money parents will help you save first, and then give it to you later when you go to college.
In addition, some parents explicitly tell their children that pressing the old money will become a dowry or dowry for their marriage when they grow up, so it is necessary for adults to temporarily help their children keep the red envelopes.
In addition to taking possession of oneself, the child's old age money can also be handled like this:
1. Leave it to the child's own discretion to a limited extent
The main reason why parents confiscate their children's old money is that they are worried that their children do not have the concept of money and cannot rationally dispose of money. In fact, it is difficult for children to form the concept of financial management without contact with money, which is not a good thing for primary and secondary school students.
Therefore, parents can give the money to their children to a limited extent, in this process, parents can use a wealth of experience to guide their children and help their children establish a correct view of money and initial financial management capabilities.
2. Help your child buy insurance or education funds
Many parents will use their children's pressure money for self-consumption after taking it, completely forgetting their previous commitments, and the parents' untrustworthiness will also cause strong dissatisfaction among their children.
In this regard, some parents will choose to use their children's old age money to buy insurance or financial management for their children on education, marriage and other aspects, and use this way to make economic reserves for their children's future, which is also a more popular practice in parent circles today.
3. Guide children to honor their elders with old money
The pressure of the old money reflects a kind of care and love of the elders for the younger generations, for this, parents can take out a part of the pressure money to give to the children, and guide the children to use this money to honor the elders, so as to establish a grateful heart.
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During the Chinese New Year, how do you deal with your child's pressure on the old age money? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area!
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