The true scripture of the parents' way of governing the family relies on the words "love" and "etiquette".

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Through the study of traditional culture, I understood that the way for my parents to govern the family is to interpret the five-lun relationship of filial piety and faithfulness on the platform of the family as a life, popularization, folklore, generalization, and popularity, and the family has become a classroom for the filial piety and faithfulness of the people.

First, filial piety is the head. In terms of filial piety culture, my parents are not only the disseminators, inheritors, and performers of filial piety culture, and their care and respect for my grandfather are very thoughtful and meticulous. My father came home from work in the morning, fetched a basin of water, washed grandpa's face, dried grandpa's bedding in the yard, and caught lice himself. The mother brewed a bowl of egg tea and held it in her hands to Grandpa and asked Him to drink it. When eating, Grandpa does not sit, no one dares to sit, Grandpa sits, parents sit, children dare to sit. The first chopsticks on the table were clipped to Grandpa, and although I was the eldest son, the only boy at that time, I did not enjoy this treatment. In this way, day after day, in the words and deeds of my parents, I understood what filial piety is. Filial piety, melted in my blood, engraved on my heart, affected my life.

Second, respect for the elderly and the elderly. There are more people coming to my house, my parents taught me that I must respectfully call people, give up seats, serve tea, adults do not allow children to interject, guests want me to send outside the gate when they leave, guests go far to go home. Until the old mother's old age, still retain this habit, as long as there are guests into the home, the old man will ask the family to give up their seats, hand over cigarettes, serve tea, but also ask the family to buy vegetables, prepare meals, and guests to pull home, so that the guests who come to the home feel very warm, very warm. In such an environment, over time, the respect and respect for the elderly and the elderly suddenly arise and affect my life.

Third, between brothers and sisters, the big should take care of the small, and the small should listen to the big. Every time I came home, the old man said, you are the boss, take care of them. I said, they're all older, don't worry. The old man said seriously, that's not ok, this is the rule. Sometimes my sister teased her, I don't listen to the boss, the boss can't control me. The old lady is serious, said, and turned against you, the boss is the boss, everyone has to listen, this is the rule. Everyone laughed, and the old lady laughed too.

Fourth, to friends. Parents often say that people are mixed in society, no friends can do it, but making friends can not be promiscuous, people with wrong hearts and eyes cannot make friends, people who are not three or four cannot make friends, you make such friends, it will take you bad, and a ruin is a family. The old man also said that to make friends, we must make friends with our hearts, and our hearts and eyes should not be crooked, and we should not pit others. You may make many friends in a lifetime, but two or three who really know each other are enough. These are the most reasonable quotes for making friends. Stressing integrity is not only the way to make friends, but also the principle of doing things. Parents are really bitter about educating their children.

5. Conjugal relations. My parents were the most ordinary couple in the countryside. In my impression, the family has such a large population, the burden of life is so heavy, they respect each other, never quarrel, love and harmony, respect each other as guests, what is the strength to maintain? When I thought about it, I realized that it was the word "responsibility". They want to provide for the elderly to the end, the small to raise talents, the elderly, the lower with the small, this is the pursuit of their lifelong struggle, this is their lifelong struggle responsibility, lifelong struggle, no complaints and no regrets. I think that the Chinese nation has been passing on the inheritance of culture and the reproduction of the population for thousands of years, and it is not relied upon by these thousands of ordinary families and most ordinary parents? I believe that this is the Chinese marriage value in Chinese culture, but unfortunately, this traditional marriage value has also been severely challenged. Statistics show that the divorce rate in the mainland has reached one-third, and in some places it is as high as 40%, what a terrible phenomenon and what a terrible social problem! Talking only about "love", not "responsibility", only talking about "enjoyment", not talking about "dedication" ideas, not Chinese concept of love, can not last.

Back to the mother-in-law's way of governing the family. My parents' way of governing the family is a microcosm of thousands of families in China, which makes me understand two issues. First, the father is not literate, and the mother is illiterate, but they are very proficient in Confucian culture, indicating that the Confucian way of being a person - filial piety and faithfulness Is completed in the family, and family inheritance is an important form of Confucian cultural inheritance. However, with the widespread emergence of the family of three, the structure of the family has undergone historic changes, young couples are both running for their livelihood, so the task of educating children has been somewhat frustrated, and the mother's function as an education child is difficult to achieve, which is a very dangerous problem from the perspective of cultural inheritance. Therefore, in contemporary times, it is necessary to put the education of family inheritance in kindergartens and primary schools in order to make the inheritance of traditional culture take root continuously, but how to incorporate the education of being a person into the overall education in kindergartens and primary schools is still a new topic.

The second problem I understand, the parents' way of governing the family highlights two words, one is "love", the other is "etiquette", "love" is the family affection, is the root of maintaining the family, "etiquette" is the rules, family members get along with etiquette, rules, the family has no rules, but also to mess around. If I answer a friend's question, my family has ten brothers and sisters, each one has become a talent, and each one is filial piety, it is by relying on the words "love" and "etiquette", which is the true scripture of my parents' way of governing the family.

This article is excerpted from Gao Changli's "Learn ABC well and walk the road of happiness in life"

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