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There are generally two kinds of extramarital feelings of men, one is to make a scene, not to invest much emotion at all, the birth of this extramarital feeling, that is, to relieve loneliness, or because of freshness, once you feel tired, or feel that there is nothing new, or face the suspicion of the wife, men will end this relationship very decisively.
Another kind of extramarital feelings of men is dependent, this type of extramarital feelings can make men pay for it with a dead heart, and for this extramarital relationship, men are paid for feelings and are serious. Men's feelings for women outside of marriage may even have exceeded their feelings for their wives.
Men may not give up their marriages for various reasons and marry women outside of marriage, but men's feelings for women outside of marriage are absolutely not to be underestimated.
This kind of dependent extramarital relationship, men can often get some support from the woman outside the marriage that cannot be obtained from the original wife.
This kind of extramarital relationship often has the following two problems.
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First: Men will continue to be indifferent to their wives after returning to the family.
When a man's extramarital feelings are dependent, men's feelings for women outside of marriage cannot be underestimated.
A man may choose to return to the family for various reasons, but this does not mean that he is really returning to the family, his body is back, but his heart may not really come back.
In such a situation, it is difficult for men to put their feelings into their wives, and men will unconsciously compare their wives with women outside of marriage, and then the more they compare, the more they miss women outside of marriage.
In such a state of mind, no matter how hard the wife tries and how much she wants to save this relationship, she cannot really save her husband's heart.
When a man gives up a woman outside of marriage because of his wife and because of the family, when a man has strong feelings for a woman outside of marriage, the man will unconsciously begin to resent him for giving up the wife and family of the woman outside the marriage, and even the child, in such a case, even if the man returns to the family, he will continue to be indifferent to his wife, and even to the child.
A man may also know in his heart that he is not reasonable, and he also knows that he is not doing the right thing in this matter, but emotionally he cannot accept such a result.
He rationally chose to return to the family, but emotionally he will continue to miss women outside of marriage, and even feel that his wife is nowhere as good as women outside of marriage, can not help anything, will not say some nice words, nothing is better than others.
In this way, men will only look at their wives more and more, will not want to communicate with their wives more and more, and even do not want to see each other.
Although the husband has returned to the family, the husband will continue to be indifferent to his wife, and what is the significance of such a return.
Women want more than the return of men's bodies, women must hope that their husbands can return completely, but some extramarital feelings, especially dependent extramarital feelings, are difficult for men to give up, and men cannot completely return to the family.
When encountering this kind of extramarital feeling, either the wife can endure, has been enduring the husband's indifference, and gives the life to go on, or the husband can't help but find a woman outside the marriage again.
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Second: Men often reunite repeatedly after returning to the family.
The extramarital feelings that can make men pay for it are often dependent extramarital feelings, and this extramarital feeling is not easy to break.
Although men are rational animals, it is difficult for men to really maintain their sanity after falling into a relationship, especially after becoming dependent on women outside of marriage.
Men may choose to return to the family because of reason, but after returning to the family, men may not be able to truly accept the heart, they intellectually want to accept the heart and live a good life, but it is difficult to do this emotionally.
A man develops strong feelings and even dependence on women outside of marriage, many of which are because he can't get everything he wants from his wife.
Whether it is emotional resonance or work support, in short, the wife can not satisfy him at all, so he will shift his mind to the woman outside of marriage.
Because a woman outside of marriage can give him everything he wants, they have common topics, they can talk together, and when he encounters difficulties at work, women outside of marriage can give him some advice and even help him through it.
When men are accustomed to such a woman around, if they suddenly lose such a woman, the man will become confused, will become anxious, and even feel empty.
And the wife cannot fill the emptiness in his heart. Because in a man's heart, he and his wife can't talk together at all, and the two people are simply chickens and ducks, completely people of two worlds.
He didn't expect his wife to share his worries, nor did he think she had that ability.
In fact, at this time, the balance in a man's heart is biased towards women outside of marriage, if you just look at feelings, men will definitely choose to divorce, and then be with women outside of marriage, after all, women outside of marriage are more in line with his requirements for his wife, and it is more comfortable and happier to be with women outside marriage.
But men are more rational, even if the man's heart has been biased towards women outside of marriage, he will still weigh the pros and cons, he will consider many factors, and finally because of various concerns, he may choose to return to the family.
But it wasn't because of how deeply he felt for his wife, but because he weighed the pros and cons and found that it was the best option.
Although the man chose to return to the family at this time, this does not mean that he really took his heart back, and the man may still have a woman outside of marriage in his heart, and this dependent relationship may still exist.
In the early days of returning to the family, men may be forced to break contact with women outside marriage out of necessity, but as long as the wife is still his former wife, and he is still attached to women outside of marriage, then this extramarital relationship cannot be broken.
They may also be repeatedly reunited, developing into a relationship that is still cut and messed up.
If the wife can tolerate the existence of such a person, and the woman outside the marriage does not mind her own identity, then such a marital relationship may be able to continue to exist.
But if either party is unwilling, such a marriage may fall apart at any time.
Therefore, when a man falls into this kind of dependent extramarital relationship, the marriage is actually very difficult to recover, even if it is difficult to maintain the marriage, but in the end everyone will only fall into pain and cannot extricate themselves.
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Therefore, this situation must be avoided as much as possible at the beginning of the marriage.
Men fall into this dependent extramarital relationship and die for it, mostly because of the differences that exist between wives and husbands.
For example, the wife may have no opinion, obey her husband's words, and act like a very responsive worm in daily life, with no charm and interest at all.
Or, the wife has been derailed from society, unable to give the husband more help and support at work or spiritually, there is no common topic between the two people, and even when the husband is in trouble, the wife will only wipe her tears and cannot help anything.
In such a situation, the first is that the husband will be bored with his wife, and the second is that the husband will look down on the wife more and more, feel that the wife is useless, and feel that the wife will only drag herself back. Once the husband has such an idea, it is difficult to reverse it.
When the husband and wife relationship falls into this situation, men are prone to extramarital feelings, and even rely on women outside of marriage, and pay for it, if things really develop to such a point, it will become very difficult to save the marriage.
Therefore, women should reintegrate themselves into society, improve their abilities, and make themselves an excellent woman, only in this way can they avoid the occurrence of the above situation, only in this way can they guard their marriage, and this will also bring confidence to women and give women the courage to face any difficulties.
In this case, women will not be so afraid of encountering marriage changes, nor do they have to choose to swallow their voices in marriage, so women must also have their own careers after marriage and constantly improve themselves.
Text/Fenghua