A mother asked: Should I hit my child? Different people have different answers to this question, some parents said that they can beat their children, after all, they can't fight, children don't have a long memory if they don't fight, you see that after you hit, your children will become obedient.
But there are also parents who say that they should not hit their children, and that beating more may have an impact on the child's future and is not conducive to the growth of the child, so who is right?
Hitting a child is actually the most wrong way to educate children, once saw a public service advertisement, a little boy, he is very sunny in front of the camera, playing with children, but turning around, he is a bruise, the child is helpless, afraid, afraid, but he has no way, the end of the advertisement is the child's cry.
Many parents feel that beating children is the best way to educate, let children become well-behaved and obedient, this is more useful than talking about how much truth, when children are not obedient, hit a meal, quickly solve the problem, do not know, parents are gradually ruining the child, twenty years later, the child may and not often beaten the child, living two lives, often beaten what will be the impact on the child?
First, children are prone to form a flattering personality
Knowingly, a flattering personality patient sent a letter of help, after the divorce of her parents, she lived with her mother, her mother is a very strong woman, when she did not obey, her mother yelled at her, and later evolved into punches and kicks, when her mother scolded her, she would punch and kick her, she began to be afraid of her mother, she learned to do housework to please her mother, and her mother did not prepare meals for her mother when she left work, which made her mother's attitude towards her a little better.
Later, the mother remarried, and the stepfather had a son, the mother let her take care of her brother, she did not want to take care of but she had to please the mother and the stepfather, for a long time, she to please others has become a habit, can not change the habit, after going to college, she left the family, but still will please others, please the roommate, even if the roommate often says bad things about her.
She did not dare to go to the psychiatrist, for fear that others would find out about her psychological problems, but to please others, she was very tired of her own life, so she knew what to do.
After reading this story, very sad, there is no way to imagine the life of a serious flattering personality patient, how tired they live, grievances themselves to please others, parents if they often beat their children, children may form a flattering personality, in order not to be beaten, they will obediently please their parents.
Second, children are prone to become inferior
Once read a story told by a mother: she hates iron is not steel, often beats children, at first the child will resist, will hide, and then the child will let it go, let her beat, she did not find the child wrong, thinking that the child is aware of the mistake.
Later, she found out that the child became very inferior, he did not dare to do anything, for fear that he had done something wrong, the same was true in learning, the child had no friends, because he felt that what he did was wrong, he was inferior, and he felt that he was not worthy of anyone.
Parents beat their children more times, the child may become inferior, he feels that what he does is wrong, he will be beaten, and even feel that he is alive is a mistake, he thinks of nothing, the inferior child can not lift his head in front of others, their inner sensitivity and vulnerability, one thing may ruin them.
Third, children may learn the words and deeds of their parents
Parents are the child's first teacher, the child will unconsciously learn some of the parents' behavior habits, such as parents often beat the child, the child will feel that stick education is correct, to his child, he will also use stick education, forming a cycle.
Parents hope that the child is eager, we can understand that beating the child is also for the child's good, but sometimes it will backfire, the child may also become rebellious, and eventually ruin the child.
Affection is the most important thing in the process of children's growth, mothers should accompany their children more, family affection is the best toy for children, companionship is the longest love, can make children feel warm, full of heart.
A good mother is a good example for the child, the role of the child is better than a good teacher, the mother should use gentleness and love to lead the child and guide the child to grow.
Parents' education of children will affect the child's life, parents must educate their children scientifically and correctly, so that the children raised are physically and mentally healthy children, and they are also the children that parents really want.