Nian is a traditional Chinese festival, which symbolizes festivity, peace, reunion, and of course contains trivial human feelings.
Every New Year's day, almost everyone will be withdrawn from the busy work.
In leisure time, it is often possible to see what kind of person a person is from how he treats the trivial, meaningless, but extremely humane things of the New Year.
So-called:
"The details are the most prominent; the trivial is the most popular."
A person's character is all hidden in the trivial details of the New Year, and if you observe carefully, you can see it at a glance.
People who visit relatives and friends emphasize feelings
There is a saying:
"No matter how close the relationship is, as long as it does not move, it will slowly fade; no matter how deep the friendship, as long as there is no contact, it will gradually become distant."
It is true that a good relationship is never just a matter of knowing, nor is it enough to have blood relations, but it needs to be maintained with care.
A person who is not afraid of trouble, is not afraid of spending money, and takes the initiative to visit relatives and friends, then it can only show that in his heart, feelings are much more important than those things outside the body.
I have seen such a story on the Internet:
There is a middle-aged man who has a successful career and after graduating from college, he left his village and moved to the city to live.
However, in the 20 years after graduation, he would travel thousands of miles every year, carrying many things to visit relatives, elders, and friends in the village and give them a New Year's greeting.
Someone didn't understand this and asked him:
"You no longer live in the village, and they can't help you with anything, so why do you have to toss yourself so much and have to go to the village to pay respects to the New Year?"
And he just said one sentence: "People can never forget their roots, let alone forget their relatives." ”
Relatives and friends are actually gifts from Heaven.
They can come to us, at least let us have a sustenance, a dependence.
Those who know how to visit relatives and friends, no matter how great they are, and who do not forget their relatives and friends, must be people who attach importance to feelings.
It is precisely because they attach great importance to their feelings that they can work tirelessly, not afraid of trouble, and do not care about paying when visiting relatives and friends.
The people who are still polite and respectful are generous
The Psalms say:
"Throw in the peach, and repay it with Qiong Yao."
Etiquette and exchange are the most basic etiquette and education of people.
Of course, this does not mean that we care about the receipt of goods, but we usually show respect and friendship through courtesy exchanges.
A person who has never taken others' efforts for granted in the New Year, but never returned them, then not only is their etiquette lacking, but their human touch is indifferent.
There was such a colleague before.
His personal ability is remarkable, but there is a little bit of bad, that is, he never knows how to communicate with etiquette.
Every time he went to work after the New Year, others would bring him some gifts, and every time he would accept them all, but he never knew that he would give back to others.
At first, everyone didn't care, but after that, it has always been like this, never being soft on other people's things, and being extremely stingy about giving things to others.
Over time, everyone gradually alienated him, after all, the relationship is the mutual effort of two people, not the unilateral maintenance of others.
I really like this sentence:
"You give me a candy, I'll give you a jar of honey, and the balance of feelings can be stable."
People who can understand the exchange of courtesy, they will not take advantage of others, but when they receive gifts from others, they can always return them in other ways.
Such a person, who is generous and honest, is trustworthy in his work and is worthy of deep friendship in life.
People who clear accounts in a timely manner know how to be grateful
Money is important for everyone, especially during the New Year.
Every New Year, we will liquidate the income of the year, and there will be many important things to concentrate on.
At this time, whether you are in a hurry to use money, you will hope that your money can return to your own pocket, so that you can have a good year easily and comfortably.
A person with good character and knowing how to be grateful, then at this time node of the New Year, will inevitably seize the time to return the money to others, even if it is really not on, he will also make a phone call to send a message to give others a reassuring pill.
Have seen a video like this:
A couple borrowed some money from relatives and friends because they were doing business.
At the New Year, because the money has not been returned, it is naturally impossible to repay it, but even so, the husband still calls the relatives who borrowed the money one by one, talks about his difficulties, and determines the deadline for repaying the money.
To this, the wife asked her husband, puzzled: "Why do you have to call and explain?" We will definitely be able to pay it back in the next year. ”
And the husband said a word:
"The money will be repaid in the next year, and now the phone will be called, because we can't let the benefactor who lent us the money be afraid because we don't pay it back."
Zeng Guopan once said:
"A gentleman is not lightly favored, but he is unforgettable."
A person who knows how to clear accounts in a timely manner in the New Year is a person who knows gratitude and is grateful.
In their hearts, only by explaining and calculating the money clearly during the New Year can they be calm in their hearts.
Such a person, you can completely trust.
Because those who can keep their virtue in money must not be too bad in character, and the things they promise will generally be fulfilled.
We often say:
"Appreciate a person, from the appearance, respect for talent, in line with the character, for a long time than kindness, and finally from the character."
It is true that character is the basic principle for judging whether a person is worthy of deep friendship.
A person who can do these three things in the New Year is often not too bad in character, and he has met a person who deserves deep friendship.
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