I am Shaohua Yiyu, a writer who focuses on emotions, the weather is getting colder, may you have clothes to warm up, someone to warm your heart, I hope you can be happy every day, happiness will always follow!
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Before the article begins, I would like to ask you a question: Have you ever made a big change for a person you like? Have you lost that best version of yourself by attracting someone?
Received a private message from a female reader, the content is about love, after listening to her love experience, I have to sigh that there are really many infatuated lovers in this world, always using the way I think I love each other to pursue a person, in the end can only be a difficult peace.
A chance extracurricular activity, let her meet the ideal boyfriend in her heart, so she made a plan from the bottom of her heart, must become each other's girlfriend, which also opened up a long road to pursue each other.
In order to attract each other, always take the time to understand each other's hobbies and living habits, and then ask themselves to like what the other party likes, in fact, speaking of this, people who have experienced it understand that even if the relationship is successful, the final outcome will not be as desired.
Later, the confession failed, the boy also had a favorite person, she had a lot of questions, why did she work hard for so long or not attract each other? Why am I trying to change myself less than someone who ignores him?
In real life, I believe that many girls often do some futile things when they meet boys who really like them, because of their own impulses and uncontrollable admiration in their hearts.
In fact, it is not a difficult thing to attract a person you like, the key is how to do it, so how to do it to really attract the boy you like? The answer is simple, with only three words: be yourself!
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Effective ways for girls to attract boys: "Be yourself"
When it comes to being yourself, many girls don't think that being able to attract people they like will also think that doing well is a very small thing, but in fact, it seems to be a very small thing, but in love, many people can't do it well.
When you meet someone you really like, you will always think about how to make yourself an attractive person, how to make the other party smile when you see yourself, and then you will try to change because of the other party.
Many people always silently learn everything about each other, eager to make their preferences close to each other, and think that only in this way can there be a topic between them and each other.
This kind of person who imposes the other party's hobbies on himself believes that he must love the other person in his heart, but ignores the consequences of doing so, and forgets to blindly please, which will only lead to everything he does is just a matter of course.
People who can really do their own good, naturally have a certain charm, will not be too ostentatious, in the face of complex emotional world, even if they meet their favorite people, they will control themselves well, because she knows her original intention.
In love, the reason why it is difficult to be yourself often depends on a person's attitude towards love, the kind of person who does not answer the love of feelings, in fact, her own charm will also be encountered, just as the so-called things that are difficult to get know how to cherish.
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Can we imagine that when two girls stand in front of you, which one will really attract the boys?
The first one will always show her inner feelings unreservedly, giving people the feeling of being very humble, but it can also make people feel that she really likes you.
The second one will not show its own feelings, even if it is love, it will not be too ostentatious, but as usual, it is calm, constantly making herself better, giving people a feeling of mystery, and it is impossible to guess what she is thinking.
Compared with the two types, if it is a girl, she will naturally choose the person who bravely says her love, but for boys, they will not choose a girl who lacks a sense of mystery, and the girl who can maintain her mystery at the same time is the other half that countless boys want to pursue.
Most of the time the love that boys want to pursue is not the kind of plain, but a kind of fun love life, many times when girls are always too active to pursue, often bring disgust to boys, even if they are together, they will only make boys feel that everything girls pay is taken for granted.
In real life, many girls always lose the best self in front of love, the reason is only because they don't know how to be better themselves, lose themselves because of love, and will eventually understand that this is an unequal exchange.
The more active pursuit, the more inability to successfully attract each other, when you meet someone you like, first of all, you must maintain a certain amount of sanity, rather than blindly change because of the other party, followed by efforts to do yourself, really make yourself full of a charm, attract the eyes of the other party, and finally you have to believe that if you bloom, the butterflies come.
No matter when, you must understand a truth, love is always the icing on the cake in your life, for those who get or not, in fact, there is no need to entangle, there is no need to be too immersed in it.
I only hope that everyone in love can remember the original intention in their hearts, and in the process of encountering love and operating love, they can manage themselves well and be the best of themselves!
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