Parents are the child's first teacher, they teach children a lot of things, for children, parents in the eyes, the education of boys is more important, after all, boys will take on more responsibilities in the future, shoulder the big responsibility of the family pillar, every parent wants to cultivate boys into responsible, intelligent children.
The starting point of parents is almost the same, but different parents educate their children in different ways, some parents cultivate children who are rice worms, that is, "ma bao men", they will not do anything, need people's service, and even reach for money, drag the family to let their parents raise.
Why do these parents raise their children?
In fact, it is very simple to raise a son, as long as the parents keep saying these few words
Boys do not need to do housework
Why is there a ma po man? Ma Bao Male is formed under the spoiling of his parents, without his parents they have no ability to take care of themselves, and their friends divorced some time ago, because her husband is a Ma Bao man.
Friends and husbands are free love, the two were together during college, when the friend lived on campus, her husband lived at home, the friend felt that his home was close, he lived in the house can also be said, every time the two go out on a date, her husband almost does nothing, will not give friends a dish, has always been the girl's initiative.
But friends in love also feel nothing, until the two talk about marriage, friends meet husbands' mothers, and the future mother-in-law's first words to see friends are: "Will you do housework?" ”
Friends thought that this was a test for her, the attitude was very good to say that they would do housework, the first meeting was not bad, and then the parents of the two sides met, and the marriage between the two was fixed.
After marriage, the friend found out that the husband has a mother and a man, he does not do any housework, every time he comes home from work, his mother will bring him clothes, slippers, clothes to reach out, food to open his mouth, his mother teaches friends how to serve him all day, friends alone take care of all the housework in the family, sometimes friends call him to do housework, his mother will also say next to him: boys can not do housework, boys do big things.
For his mother's words, he is also convinced, the two often sing at home and a harmony, friends think he is superfluous, she wants to move out with her husband but was disciplined by her husband.
The friend feels that her position in the family is a nanny, their mother and son are the masters, and she can't stand it, she proposed a divorce some time ago, got rid of this painful life, and since then the friend's life creed has become: stay away from the mother treasure man.
Many boys' mothers will tell their children that boys don't do housework, boys do big things, how can they do housework, and then help their children get everything right, such an education method will only make children become mothers, there will be no sense of responsibility in the future, at the same time, they don't even have the ability to take care of themselves, if no one takes care of them, they will live a very bad life.
Parents can let boys do some housework, which is the most basic independent survival ability, no matter where they go, they will need it, and there are many benefits for their children's future.
Boys are not allowed to cry
Yesterday I met a little boy on the side of the road, the little boy seems to have suffered some grievances, has been crying, and the little boy's mother did not comfort the child, but the fierce child: crying what to cry, you are a boy, how to teach you usually, the boy has tears not flicking, you know to cry, the mother accused the child, the child wiped the tears, whimpered a few times and followed the mother.
Crying is a way for children to relieve their emotions, children are not like adults, they do not have their own way of decompression, they can only relieve their discomfort by crying, if the parents kill the child, the child will lose this way of decompression, they have been suppressing their emotions, there is no way to release emotions, for a long time, these emotions will force them out of psychological problems.
Third, boys should study hard
In the eyes of many parents, boys must learn better than girls, boys will have to make more money in the future, they often say to their children such a sentence: boys learn better than girls can do, boys must study well.
Too much reminder by parents may not have the effect of motivating children, it will only make children tired of school, and some children will hate their parents because of this, thinking that their parents are nagging, too annoying.
Parents remind their children that it is okay to study well, but do not hang on their lips every day, too much nagging will only be the opposite.
Parents attach importance to their children's achievements at the same time should also care about the development of other aspects of the child, respect the child's interests and hobbies, rather than in order to learn to let the child give up everything, only the combination of work and leisure, interests and hobbies combined with learning, children will feel relaxed, cultivate children's interests and hobbies can also cultivate children's ability in other aspects.
Parents on the child's education is very important, the impact on the child's future is very large, parents must pay attention to what to say, what to say and what not to say, sometimes parents seem to be indifferent to a word, it is likely to hurt the child, ruin the child.
True love is to use oneself to make a child, not to make the child into what he likes.