In fact, not only in the past, but even in the present, there are many phenomena of nibbling on the old, and many people are saying that these nibbling on the old people will not have a good ending in the end, but many people do not know what will happen.
When "there is no old age to nibble", what will the life of the old people become? These are nothing more than these three tragedies
Nibbling on the old is nothing more than the stage when young people should work and rely on themselves, but they choose to rely on their parents to support themselves, even if they have the ability to make a living, but they do not choose independence. Whether it is in the past or in the present, in fact, it is relatively common to nibble on the old people, and even form a "nibbling old culture".
When they continue to nibble on the old, and their parents enter the old age stage, even after their death, the life of the old people will change dramatically, because there is "no old age to chew", and most of the old people at this time are about forty or fifty years old.
Some people will go down the road of breaking the law and committing crimes, because they continue to rely on their parents to support them, and some people may have the ability to earn a living, but in the continuous degeneration, there is a serious disconnect with society, resulting in difficulties to adapt to the current social competition, plus compared to these forty or fifty-year-old laborers and young laborers, large and small enterprises prefer to choose young and cheap labor.
It is precisely because of this that this part of the forty- and fifty-year-old nibblers lack the ability to work, but also lack of a source of livelihood, more essentially, they are not willing to work on their own, mostly because of laziness, prefer to get for nothing, so it is likely to embark on the road of breaking the law and committing crimes, because it is easier to obtain gains, it is easier to satisfy their greedy hearts.
There are also some people who are forced by life to be cornered, because before they were raised by their parents, no matter what the problem was blocked by their parents, they could not feel any wind and rain, all the pressure was borne by their parents, and they were accustomed to the young master's life of "clothes to reach out and eat to open their mouths". When it comes to "no old age to chew", there is no one to serve them, no one can solve their difficulties, their psychological endurance is originally relatively poor, when they encounter problems later, they will only become more and more depressed, and it is easy to make negative decisions when they are cornered.
The other part of the people are doing some of the cheapest labor to maintain their lives, originally in the young stage may still have the ability to make a living, but because of the long-term nibbling, resulting in their own ability to make a living weakened, and finally can only engage in some of the cheapest labor, may even be difficult to maintain their own family life. Usually, the small family of the old family will not have a hard time, and it is often accompanied by many contradictions and quarrels, and there may be a situation of family breakdown.
In any case, if the nibbling old people are always nibbling on the old, they are not willing to get out of the predicament of nibbling on the old, and they will eventually fall into tragedy.
How to avoid children becoming nibbling old people? What problems should parents pay attention to?
In fact, the reason why children will become nibbling on the old people, and the parents' educational behavior has a great relationship, if the parents' education methods are improper, it is likely to lead to the child growing up to become the old people, which is not for the good of the child, but to ruin the child's life.
First of all, parents should cultivate their children's independent ability from an early age, let the children start from the small things around them, and let the children complete the things that they can complete independently, they must let the children complete themselves. Many parents are reluctant to let their children experience these things, resulting in the child's independent ability to slowly lose and become more dependent on the parents.
In fact, you can start from letting children dress independently, eat, organize toys, clean up, etc. At the beginning, parents can guide on the side, teach children how to do these things, and then slowly let go of children to complete independently, cultivating not only the child's independent ability, but also the child's independent consciousness, only in this way can they weaken their sense of dependence.
Secondly, parents should also cultivate their children's ability to make decisions, because many children now lack the ability to think for themselves and make self-determination, always listen to their parents' opinions, and like to ask their parents no matter what they do. If this is the case all the time, it will make the child become very dependent on the parents, and it is also a kind of disguised old ageing. Therefore, parents should create opportunities for their children to make decisions and affirm their children's ideas, so that children can develop self-determination ability.
Finally, parents also have to cultivate the spirit of children to overcome difficulties, because many children lack the courage to persist, once they encounter difficulties, they like to hide behind their parents or simply choose to give up, many parents will be soft at this time, so they will complete things for their children, which will lead to strong dependence on children. Only by cultivating the child's spirit of overcoming difficulties, the child will learn to persevere to the end, will not rely on the parents for everything, and will be more independent when he grows up, disdainful of taking the road of the old.