Now that the "double reduction" policy has begun to be fully implemented, reducing the pressure on children's learning is a big challenge for parents. Because of the reduction of pressure in schools and the suspension of educational institutions, children's education in the future is more of a return to family education, and the quality of family education will open up a huge gap between children.
What kind of education should we give our children?
Happy education, democratic education, quality education, are all ways to reduce children's pressure, I think in life these education methods can have, but they should be strict education "side dishes", or spices.
Strict education is the most difficult education for parents to perform, but also the heaviest task, compared to happy education, parents need to take on more responsibilities and pay more energy.
Many parents feel that they are not unwilling to be strict with their children, but they are afraid that there are too many restrictions on their children's freedom, and the impact on their children will be bad.
Do you remember the famous American "tiger mother" Cai Mei'er? This mother's strict education of her daughter makes people stunned, whether it is learning knowledge or cultivating hobbies, she is particularly strict with her daughter, and also edits her experience into articles for everyone to learn.
With such a high-pressure education, did his daughter grow into a nerd? The eldest daughter entered the world-famous Harvard University and has now completed graduate school. The younger daughter also followed in her sister's footsteps, also graduated from Harvard University, and joined the army to become a second lieutenant.
In addition to this "tiger mother" Cai Mei'er, in fact, the success of many people is inseparable from the strict education of their parents. Lang Lang's wife, Gina, is a young and promising pianist, but her childhood has many experiences of practicing with tears. Guo Jingjing educated her son that if he did not finish his homework, his grandfather would not be allowed to see him when he came. Dong Qing's father did not allow her to look in the mirror, just to have a little more time to study.
Strict education seems to be cruel to children, but the so-called geniuses in the world, which success is inseparable from the price of sweat. Strict education for children is the real responsibility for children, and the benefits will be reflected in the future of children.
The strict education of parents gives children the motivation to move forward
The child's perseverance is limited, just like practicing the piano, the first three days, the child is very interested, and then feel that the hard work may not be practiced. The money has also been paid, the piano has also been bought, how should parents deal with it? If you give up this time, the child will give up when he encounters a little difficulty, and he will probably achieve nothing.
Children's learning is the same, even if it is particularly smart children, in the process of learning will encounter difficulties, will also feel tired, parental constraints and encouragement, is a necessary condition for children to develop good learning habits.
When cognitive ability is limited, children need guidance and encouragement from their parents
The child's cognitive ability is improved little by little, and in the process of learning life skills and improving moral accomplishment, school education and family education require efforts. It is often said on the Internet that some teachers have become "Buddhist" and that no matter how their children perform in class, they can accept and will not criticize education.
If our parents also become like this, no matter whether the child is right or wrong in life, they will not severely criticize and educate the child, and the cultivation of children's behavior habits and the establishment of children's values and outlook on life will easily lead to crooked doors. Children like to play games, we can not let him continue to fight, children like things to grab, these behavior habits need you to point out, criticize and educate him, urge him to correct. In family education, the child always has to have a person who corrects him, and we can't be "Buddhist."
Of course, too strict education will also cause some bad effects on children's physical and mental health. Whether it is harsh or pampered, we must also have a scale for our own grasp of our children.
Parents who seem to be very strict, when they educate their children, in addition to being strict, they will pay attention to these skills.
Harsh but warm.
Parents are strict with their children, and they do not have to be enemies with their children. While strictly requiring children, we must also take care of children's lives, accompany children to do some meaningful extracurricular activities, and communicate with children more.
A good parent-child relationship and a warm way of getting along will make parents' education more effective with half the effort, and can also cultivate children's confident and cheerful personality.
Parents are role models for their children.
The power of example is better than the preaching of parents, and we want our children to become what kind of person, it is better to work in that direction first.
Children observe us and imitate us, so before educating children, regulating their own behavior is the most important premise.
Parents should teach according to their aptitudes.
Now some parents fail in educating their children because of their own selfish intentions. The child is an introverted personality, you have to exercise his cheerful and lively, the child does not like the interests and hobbies, you like it must cultivate him, this is to play the opposite effect, the more money you spend, the greater the effort, the more bumpy the child's growth process. Therefore, teaching according to aptitude is the basis for educating children, and you can find the right direction to make your children's growth smooth and successful.
The best education is the best education if the son does not teach, the father's fault, the teaching is not strict, the teacher is lazy, and the family education and school education form a joint force.