The People's Daily has made it clear that to achieve educational reform, we need to start with family education.
In the process of children's growth, the core educators are parents.
Their education methods will profoundly shape children's attitudes and values.
Therefore, the emphasis on family education is actually the most direct and substantial impetus to the education reform of the next generation.
Educational reform should begin with the education of parents
Why do parents play such an important role in this?
First and foremost, parents are the child's initial mentors.
From the moment they are born, their parents begin to guide them in imperceptible ways, infusing them with their understanding of the world and their perspective on life.
Then, the family atmosphere and parents' educational attitudes have a profound impact on the child's physical and mental health.
Their behavioral habits, social skills, value orientation, and even the way they perceive knowledge are all inseparable from the influence of their families.
Take the research of graduates of prestigious foreign universities as an example.
Most of the application forms for students who graduated from prestigious universities such as Harvard and Yalu have written about the great influence of their parents on their studies.
Their parents spend time with them on homework, encourage them to read, and stimulate curiosity about knowledge......
It is because of the positive influence of the family that they can achieve something.
Many studies have also shown that a family's educational style and environment have a huge impact on a child's learning and development.
Therefore, we need to pay attention to the change of parents' educational philosophy and methods.
The child's problem is a mapping of the parent's problem
Many parents often choose to criticize or condemn their children in a hurry when faced with their children's problems.
But they often ignore the need to calm down and understand the root cause of the problem.
However, if we calm down and think about it, you will be surprised to find that 90% of children's problems are actually caused by the parents themselves.
In the educational documentary "Mirror", there is such a thought-provoking sentence:
"The family is like a mirror, reflecting the image of the child, and society is like a large mirror, reflecting the situation of the family."
This means that if we can face and accept this mirror calmly and try our best to shape a healthy self, then the person who looks in the mirror will not go astray.
Children are a reflection of their parents, and their every behavior and behavior is modeled after their parents.
Their problems, in essence, are the problems of the adults themselves.
Therefore, parents should recognise that the behaviours and values they exhibit will have a profound impact on their children's development and the formation of their personalities.
There are 5 situations that cause parents to be inattentive to education
1. Work pressure
Parents may not have enough time and energy to pay attention to their children's learning due to the demands of work. The pressure of working long hours makes it difficult for them to find time to interact with their children in education.
2. Lack of educational awareness
Some parents may not have a deep understanding of the value of education, or may be vague about the direction and means of their children's education. They may not have insight into your child's real needs and potential, and may not be able to provide appropriate guidance and assistance.
3. Poor family environment
The family environment can be a problem that hinders a child's education. For example, frequent arguments between parents or alcoholism in family members can cause parents to be psychologically troubled and unable to focus on their children's education.
4. The impact of social pressure
Societal pressures can cause parents to focus too much on their children's grades and neglect to meet their emotional needs. They may expect too much from their child's performance in all areas and neglect their child's personal goals.
5. Inappropriate educational methods
Some parents may not know how to properly educate their children, which leads them to use undesirable methods. Extreme pampering or harsh punishment may cause a child to lose interest in learning or develop a rebellious mindset.
The Five Levels of Parenthood
Level 1: Invest money in your child
Parents at this level usually believe that they can solve their children's education problems as long as they spend enough money. They may spend a lot of money on toys, books, and electronic devices for their children, but neglect to interact with them and provide them with each other.
Level 2: Spend time with your child
Parents at this level are beginning to understand that time is more valuable than money. They begin to focus on communication and companionship with their children, and are willing to spend time with their children, help them with their homework, read and play together.
Level 3: Reflection on education
Parents at this level not only focus on the relationship and companionship with their children, but also begin to think about the goals and paths of education. They begin to care about the direction of their child's future life, the skills they need, and develop educational strategies for this.
The fourth level: cultivate children and cultivate themselves
Parents at this level recognize that their behaviour and attitudes have a very large impact on their children. They not only care about children's education, but also actively improve and improve their own quality and ability.
Level 5: Be a role model for your children
Parents at this level not only value their children's education and their own growth, but also value communication and understanding with their children. They do their best to make their children themselves, but they also act as guides for their children with their own actions and attitudes.
Remember! Educating children cannot be done in school alone
Many parents are accustomed to leaving their children in the hands of schools and teachers, believing that they can take full responsibility for their children's education.
However, I would like to emphasize that:
The responsibility for education is not entirely borne by teachers, but also by families and parents.
As Mr. Cai Yuanpei, former president of Peking University, said:
"The family is the first school in every person's life. A person's character and attitude towards life are often deeply ingrained in the family. ”
Teachers are the ones who guide knowledge and skills, but parents are lifelong educators of their children.
Investing in your child's education is your most important life project.
On the road of educating children, parents should take the initiative to assume the role of their children's "primary educators".
For the sake of your children, please be a responsible parent from now on!