Let me start with a story from the United States:
One day in 1920, a 12-year-old American boy and his friends were playing soccer. Accidentally, he kicked the ball into the window of a house, shattering the glass.
An old man ran out of the house in a rage and asked loudly who had done it. The other children ran away, but the little boy walked over, admitting his mistake and asking the old man for forgiveness. However, the old man was still very angry. In the end, the old man agreed that the little boy would go home and get money to compensate him.
The little boy came home and told his father about it in fear. His father didn't let him go because he was young, but told him very seriously that he would be responsible for what he did wrong. Although his father finally lent him the money, he told him that he must pay it back. The little boy took the money and went to pay it to the old man.
Since then, the little boy has been studying and working part-time to earn money to pay back to his father. He does things like washing dishes and picking up rubbish. After a few months, he finally earned $15 and proudly handed it over to his dad. Dad was happy and told him that a person who is responsible for his commitment will have a great future in the future.
Many years passed, and the boy grew up to be the president of the United States, and he was Reagan. Mr. Reagan later recalled that the accident taught him how important it was to keep his promises.
When many boys grow up, they will say to their families, "Mom, when I finish my final exam, I will bring you a certificate of merit." "Dad, I promise not to play basketball when I do my homework. "Mom, I don't bully my neighbor's brother anymore. "There are a lot of promises like that. However, it is one thing to promise, and it is another to be able to do it.
So, when boys are growing up, parents should let them know that it is important to take responsibility for their commitments. This is an important part of being a good boy.
Zhuang Zhuang is 10 years old this year, but he has become very dishonest. Every time he made a mistake and was criticized, he vowed not to do it again. However, after saying that, he was still the same. It was useless for his mother to discipline him, and sometimes he would get angry when his mother mentioned his past.
In fact, this is all because my mother used to educate Zhuang Zhuang in the wrong way. Every time Zhuang Zhuang made a mistake and swore an oath, his mother would no longer pursue it and would praise him. In this way, Zhuang Zhuang pays less and less attention to his commitments.
Therefore, parents should cultivate their children's excellent qualities from an early age, so that they can learn to be responsible for their commitments.
My advice for young parents
Method 1: Keep in mind what you promise your child
When a child makes a mistake, some parents will ask the child to promise not to do it again. It's guaranteed to be good, but it's more important to actually don't do it again. Therefore, parents should always remind their children not to forget the promises they have made and to be responsible for their words.
For example, Maomao once grabbed toys with neighbor children and made them cry. After his mother criticized him, he promised not to bully the child again and to be friends with him. But two days later, they quarreled again over toys. At this time, his mother reminded him: "Maomao, do you remember what you promised your mother?" Maomao thought for a while and said, "I promise not to bully him again." The mother said, "Have you done it? Maomao listened to her mother's words and gave in. In order to reward him, his mother bought him the toys he wanted.
Method 2: Don't put too much pressure on your child with promises
Xiaohao promised his mother that he would work hard because he was not good at studying. Mom wrote this on the bedside and let him read it every day. Once, Xiaohao watched a cartoon, and his mother was very angry and said that he didn't keep his promise. Xiaohao explained that he was just tired and wanted to rest for a while. But his mother still reprimanded him and told him to study.
In fact, parents let their children promise so that they can correct their mistakes, just remember. If you use promises to force children to do things they don't like, it will put a lot of pressure on them and is not good for their development.
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