I went to my sister's house on the weekend, but I saw my sister's children crying loudly, and my sister was also sulking next to me, and said directly in her mouth, "It's really white to raise a white-eyed wolf, good I keep it for you, in the end you repay me like this?" ”
Under my inquiry, I learned that the father of the child brought back a box of imported biscuits to the family, and the mother was hungry and picked up a piece to eat. Unexpectedly, after being seen by the children, they made a big fuss, and even cried and asked their mother to return the biscuits they had eaten.
"I gave birth to you and raised you, left you with everything I ate and drank, and in the end I ate a cookie and you wouldn't let me, so selfish, it's so disappointing!"
In fact, the children have been pampered since childhood, and the family has given him the best possible, but somehow, over time, the children have developed an unacceptable selfish personality, and anything related to him will not let themselves suffer a little loss.
Now that the elders have realized the seriousness of the problem but still have no good solution, parents are deeply worried about his future and the growth of this child. So how exactly do you deal with a child's selfish behavior? How do you lead him to become a child who knows how to share?
1. Cultivate children's ability to empathize
Some children are the treasures of parents, if the children have lived in an educational environment that wants to be windy and rainy from a young age, and what good things are in the family, parents are habitually coaxing: "This thing mother does not like to eat, baby you eat it quickly!" ”
Or when the child wants to do housework, the parents stop him: "You are still young, now learning is the main thing, you don't have to do the work at home, and it is not too late to do it when you grow up!" ”
If the daily family atmosphere is that parents put their children in a more important position than themselves, then over time the children naturally think that they are the center of the family, and after receiving the kind care of parents, they do not feel that they should be grateful, but think that this is taken for granted.
So parents should not be too selfless, sometimes selfish, let the children learn to give, in order to teach them empathy and empathy.
Second, before teaching children to learn to share, parents should know how to share
I hope that children are generous and not educated through preaching. Parents must first do a good job of themselves, share with others every day, let children feel that sharing with others is a very beautiful thing, so that they will be willing to take the initiative to share.
If parents are all withholding and searching, and getting along with others, under the influence of this value, the child's personality and ideas are influenced by the parents, even if the other party is a family, it will become selfish.
Third, let the children know how to pay and join the labor
Helping families work is an important way for children to learn to give. In life, parents can ask their children to help with labor, and we must encourage them to affirm their ideas and continue to actively cultivate this will to maintain this valuable motivation.
In this way, when parents work hard and tired, children can "feel" from life experience to parents' contributions to themselves, and can they be distressed and repay their parents' efforts
It should be noted that if children are younger, it is difficult for them to look at problems from the perspective of others. They instinctively think they are the center of the world.
At this age, if parents force their children to "share", such as forcibly snatching food from their children, or sharing their toys with other children, it is likely to be overcorrected, so that children have a sense of territory, but cause worse results.
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