In real life, many parents will be very spoiled for their children, especially families with only one child.
With the development of the economy, more and more families choose to have fewer children and even some families choose to become a Dink family.
Therefore, at present, there are many only children in China.
After all, there is only one child, so many parents are afraid of the only baby that is contained in their mouths, and they are afraid of falling in the palm of their hands.
The focus of the family's daily life is to focus on the child, and the child's affairs have become the most important thing in the family.
After the 90s, mothers give their children delicious food, while they eat instant noodles themselves
Recently, a picture was posted on the Internet, and many netizens have come to watch this photo.
The content reflected in this photo has aroused the reflection of many parents.
This photo tells the story of a mother and daughter eating, and the mother and daughter are eating in a service area.
The mother gave the child a piece of meat, a dish, a soup and a bowl of rice.
But my mother chose to eat instant noodles.
And even more infuriating is that the mother feeds the child while eating.
The child kept looking down at the phone and playing with the phone the whole time. The meal is handed to the child by the mother. The girl also looked big enough to be able to eat on her own.
Netizens all said: This mother loves her son too much, this child is simply a dress to reach out, food to open her mouth, and she is also worried about the future of this child.
This type of child grows up
01 Independence will be poor
Parents are very doting on their children and grow up with very poor independence.
Because they rely on their parents to rely on habits. Once they leave their parents they will not take care of their own lives.
They are in a hurry, especially children who leave their parents for junior high school and want to stay, and some children are very homesick at first and often cry.
Some children cry because they have to queue up to eat alone, wash their own clothes, and even queue up to take a bath, and they can't adapt to a person's growth environment for a while, and they feel a big gap in psychology.
02 Character and character problems, easy to rebel
Parents doting on their children can also easily cause problems in their children's personality.
The most obvious thing is that children will be prone to rebellion. Some children have the love of their own parents, do things as they please, and never consider the feelings of others.
Even do anything because they know that their parents love them.
Even if they do something wrong, their parents will forgive them if they apologize.
This is the long-term pampering of parents and the wrong thinking caused to their children. The pampering of parents makes a child a rebellious, character and misbehaving person.
How parents really love their children
01 Love, but not pamper
All parents in the world love their children, and all parents do not want their children to suffer.
This is understandable. This is also the common sentiment of human beings.
But true love is not pampering, not making children reluctant to do anything.
It is not to meet the needs of children. If parents want their children to become a good person, they must not spoil their children.
Parents who need their children must go through layers of tests before they can agree.
Parents should also make appropriate criticisms of children's unreasonable behavior and needs.
When children do something wrong, parents must educate and supervise. If it is serious, parents must be willing to punish their children.
02 Cultivate children's hands-on ability and appropriately let children suffer hardships
Nowadays, many children's hands-on ability is very weak, and even many children can't even wash clothes.
There used to be a lot of students packing dirty clothes at school and going home for their parents to wash, which was very absurd.
Therefore, parents must cultivate their children's hands-on ability in daily life.
Parents should teach their children to do housework, and the children's own affairs should be left to the children. Parents should not worry too much about their children. Don't take care of all the things your child with your own hands.
Conclusion: Many families nowadays are very pampered and very good children. Long-term pampering and doting will only push the child towards bad development. Long-term coddling can cause character problems and cause children to rebel easily. Therefore, it is necessary for parents to cultivate their children's independence from an early age. It is necessary to develop the child's hands-on ability. Parents can properly let their children suffer a little, so that children can let their children understand and cherish everything they have now.