1. Good love, not deliberately measured
"If you love her, you have to buy her 10 grilled sausages"!
Recently, the "ritual sense of 10 grilled sausages" has become popular, representing the attachment to the lover and the constant (10 intestines) thinking of you.
Many girls posted the "10 grilled sausages" that their boyfriends bought for themselves, which is as popular as "the first cup of milk tea in autumn", "the first hot pot in winter", and "the warm four-piece set in winter".
In one video, boys surround a grilled sausage stall in order to buy grilled sausages for their beloved girlfriends.
To measure whether a person loves you or not, it depends on whether to buy 10 grilled sausages?
Why has love become so "cheap"?
Whether it is a hot pot or a cup of milk tea, or 10 grilled sausages, it is essentially a mass consumer product, and there is no problem of whether it can be bought or not, let alone stinginess or generosity.
One sausage is delicious, 10 is a sin, and not eating it is a waste.
Using quantity to prove that love does not love you will only seem cheap and vulgar.
Good love is never deliberately measured.
People who really love you are taking the initiative to put on a coat when it is cold, always remembering your preferences when ordering food, and going out late at night to buy medicine for you when you have a cold.
Good love is to use this heart for daily life, to prove love in every detail.
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2. Good love is a two-way rush
Someone said, "The most wonderful thing about love is the person you like, and he's also like you." ”
Deeply.
Not long ago, Sun Li sent a Weibo: "Mr. Deng made us a bowl of biangbiang noodles, you don't say it's not difficult to eat." ”
Open the comment below, the first one is Deng Chao's reply.
Every time as long as Sun Li sends a weibo, Deng Chao will return in seconds and never be absent. Paying attention to his wife in this way, true love is undoubted.
For Sun Li, netizens have a very interesting summary: "In Niangniang's Weibo, a quarter is filming, a quarter is a child, a quarter is a foot soak, and a quarter is Deng Chao. ”
It's fun and precise.
After ten years of marriage, the love between Deng Chao and Sun Li has always been hot. But ten years ago, Sun Li was still a person who regarded love as a.
Sun Li grew up in a single-parent family, and for a long time, she had pessimistic ideas of "not believing in love" and "not wanting marriage". But it wasn't until Deng Chao's appearance that it changed her.
Once, during the break between filming breaks, everyone else ran out to play, and only Sun Li sat quietly alone.
Deng Chao saw that she was alone, thinking that she was unhappy, so he made a grimace to attract her attention and make her laugh.
In fact, at that time, Deng Chao was already in love with this quiet girl, and he carefully observed Sun Li and familiarized herself with all her preferences.
One day, Deng Chao took the initiative to invite Sun Li to go mountaineering, Sun Li did not know, so when he went to the mountain and saw the inscriptions everywhere, he suddenly realized. It turned out that Deng Chao knew that she loved calligraphy, so he specially took her to see.
Sun Li remembered all of this in his heart.
On Deng Chao's 27th birthday, Sun Li gave him a professional camera. This unexpected surprise made Deng Chao happy for a long time.
Good love is mutual. When you want to be single-mindedly for a person, the other person happens to be responding to you enthusiastically.
In this way, the love that runs in both directions can have each other in mind, think for each other, and go on for a longer time.
One-way love is just chasing, and two-way love is hugging.
3. Good love is growing together
Zhao Yongyong, a marriage expert, is known as "the first trader in China's emotional coaching industry", but his marriage has also faced a crisis.
In his book The Five Powers of Love, he shares his story with his wife.
In the first two years of marriage, Zhao yong did not get along well with his wife, often "a small quarrel in three days, a big quarrel in two days". Before the love, you and I disappeared after marriage, leaving only endless quarrels and complaints.
During an argument, Zhao permanently moved the idea of divorce.
One day, Zhao Yong returned home from work, tired of the day, he just wanted to rest early. But the wife just wouldn't let him, and he had to apologize for the day's events. Zhao Yongyong had no idea what he had done wrong, so he made a few perfunctory remarks and went to bed.
When his wife saw him like this, the more she thought about it, the angrier she became. Finally, unable to bear it, she rode to the sleeping Zhao Yongyong, pressed his neck, and said in her mouth: "I hate you, I hate you..."
Zhao Yong was already in the fire, and when his wife made such a fuss, the anger in his heart could not be suppressed. He pushed his wife away and let her cry.
Looking at his wife like this, Zhao Yongyong was also very aggrieved in his heart, he was obviously not wrong, why did he make such a fuss.
Such a married life is not what he wants, and he will be even more miserable if he continues to live. He wanted a divorce, but he didn't dare to leave at the thought of his young children.
The marriage was deadlocked, until a sentence he overheard brought his marriage back on track.
Zhao Yongyong usually likes to participate in self-growth courses, and in a course game, the group led by Zhao Yongyong always loses. Afterwards, the teacher said to Zhao Yongyong: "Do you know why your group always loses?" Because you are a very egotistical person. You always think you're right, and when people give you opinions in the game, you never listen. “
The teacher continued: "If you are married, such a personality trait, it is estimated that you will not be happy!" ”
A word awakens the dreamer. Zhao Yongyong instantly sobered up: "My marriage is not happy, it turned out to be my problem." ”
After this incident, he began to change himself.
When his wife is thrown around, he no longer criticizes and accuses, but accepts with his heart; when his wife loses his temper, he no longer superficially perfunctory, but carefully comforts; when his wife is nagging, he no longer deafens, but patiently listens.
Gradually, the wife was also impressed by his sincerity and learned to self-reflect.
In this way, the two people cherish each other, and the sweetness of love is back.
Sanmao once said: "Because two people are not half and half, so after marriage, the edges and corners of the two sides are patiently grinding with sand, hoping that in the near future, they can grind a pattern, if there is such a day, when two people dangle around in a very small home, they will not hurt each other." ”
In this world, there is no perfect couple who is perfectly fit.
In love, we have to accept each other's imperfections and give each other room to grow.
Good love has its own growth attributes.
Growing up in love, two talents may go to the end of the world.
Wang Xiaobo wrote in his love letter to Li Yinhe: "Calm down and think about you, I think everything is incredibly beautiful. I didn't know that love was so beautiful, and love was so beautiful in the depths. ”
Good love is very simple, it is not a deliberate measure of material, but daily careful love; good love is very warm, it is when you love each other, the other party just loves you; good love is very beautiful, will make each other a better person.
May you, too, find your beautiful love.
Text / Cold