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Rather than falling into the anxiety of the so-called "pre-holiday syndrome", unmarried young people should find the source of the problem and express their inner thoughts to their elders.
According to the Jiangsu Provincial Radio and Television Station, recently, a single female white-collar Xiaoxia in Jiangsu province was under great pressure to marry due to the elders' urging marriage, and the Spring Festival holiday was coming, and she was arranged for five or six blind dates, almost suffering from "pre-holiday syndrome". For a time, related topics appeared on Weibo hot search, and many netizens said that they had similar experiences and were deeply touched by this.
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Although different people suffer from "pre-annulment syndrome" for different reasons, anxiety and exhaustion are common psychological states of these people. In fact, "pre-holiday syndrome" is not a mental illness, but a common psychological state. Holidays are supposed to be a time for people to rest in peace, but the usual inconvenient activities are often arranged during this time, which is busy. There are also many office workers who are busy with work, have high expectations for holidays, and have the psychological symptoms of "chaos before the festival arrives". Judging from this matter, this female white-collar worker fell into psychological distress because she was arranged to have frequent blind dates.
The report quoted psychologists as saying that young people should learn to self-regulate, and parents should also fully respect their children's wishes. Many netizens also started from their own experiences and expressed their agreement with this suggestion. In real life, some parents' strong marriage promotion attitude is very common. However, marriage and love cannot be "quick", and relying on urging alone often does not work, and even backfires. Elderly unmarried people therefore clash with their parents, and family conflicts are on the verge of erupting. In such a situation, many single young people are afraid of blind dates arranged by their elders, and it is inevitable.
For young people who are eager to "get off the list" and therefore take the initiative to go on a blind date, blind dates are often not a source of stress. But the female white-collar workers in this matter, as well as the situation that many netizens complained about, are "parents are more anxious than children." As the saying goes, you can't eat hot tofu in a hurry. Nowadays, young people have more and more ideas about marriage and love, and the marriage of "the fate of parents and the words of matchmakers" has long been outdated.
The elders want their children to start a family as soon as possible, and their eagerness is understandable. However, many parents only see that their children do not want to go on a blind date, but they do not understand their true thoughts and do not understand their real situation. The reason why young people are difficult to enter marriage, parents may not be clear, many elders have not seriously discussed these issues with their children, but blindly require their children to date and get married as soon as possible, just like "completing the task", naturally will not get the recognition of young people.
Elders should express their love and expectations for their children in a more appropriate way, and young people should also do a good job of self-regulation, understand parents as much as possible, and prevent small conflicts from escalating into major conflicts. Conceptual differences between the two generations are inevitable, and learning to seek common ground while reserving differences can make family relations more harmonious.
Anxiety may be inevitable, but young people should also recognize that obsessing over the mood of "pre-holiday syndrome" does not help solve real problems. Taking advantage of the Spring Festival holiday, young people can try to express their inner thoughts to their elders, thereby improving the understanding of both sides, which does not prevent them from adhering to their own will, and also helps to resolve the anxiety of their elders.
Written by Huang Shuai
Editor/Xinyu Yang
Produced by China Youth Daily and China Youth Network