Everyone has desires, and so do children, and they are more "exaggerated" than adult desires. They do not understand the hardships of life, so when they see what they like, they always want to have it, even if it is beyond the scope of their parents, they will cry and threaten.
What will parents do in the face of such irrational behavior of their children?
YeZi's mother: If you are at home, you will strongly refuse the child's unreasonable behavior; but if you are outside, it may be a different matter, thinking that the child's crying behavior is unsightly and easy to be watched. In combination with three, as long as it is not particularly excessive, it will be properly met.
Nannan's mother: For the children's requirements, they are basically responsive, and they always feel that they cannot be wronged. Originally out of love, he wanted to give his child a superior material life, but it turned out to fuel his desire. Up to now, the child's requirements are increasing, and I feel that I am a bit overwhelmed.
In this way, most parents will meet the unreasonable requirements of their children. Because as we all know, whether you are satisfied or not, there are actually drawbacks. If they are satisfied, their desires will be intensified; if they are not met, they will hurt the child's heart and make them feel unloved.
Since they are in a dilemma, parents can only choose to be satisfied. However, many parents ignore the effect of "delayed gratification" and miss the best educational opportunity. There are many ways to meet, and delayed gratification is the best option.
What is delayed gratification?
The so-called delayed gratification is really unable to change the result of the premise of changing the way of immediate satisfaction. To put it simply: the child's request will be met, but not immediately, but wait for the best time. The biggest benefit of delayed gratification is to teach children self-control and give them more skills.
When a child knows how to control himself, then he is not far from success.
How do I achieve delayed gratification?
First, divert attention
When a child strongly shows a fondness for something, parents should not rush to refuse, nor should they immediately agree. Instead, it's a distraction, and you can tell your child: Wait a while, do something else, and you can buy it for you. It may not be long in the middle, but the child learns to wait.
Second, there is faith in what you say
There are too many parents who have successfully diverted their children's attention, but they are lucky and do not want to fulfill their wishes. If this is the case, the child will also become a man of unbelief, full of lies. At any time, please complete the things promised to the child carefully, which is the meaning of delayed gratification.
The rational use of the delayed gratification method will let the child know that what he likes needs to be worked on and waited for.