It is said that today's children are psychologically fragile, parents say that they can't fight more, even if they make a very serious mistake, they still need good words and persuasion. I just want to say that when the fathers are educating their children, all kinds of "sticks" are in line, and they have not raised such fragile children.
In fact, the child's glass heart is not born, but the result of the parents' wrong education. Compared with punishment and criticism, the wrong way of praise is the culprit that leads to the child's glass heart. Yes, good children are exaggerated, but praise is also strategic.
Blind praise will be like poison, eroding the child's mind and making them more and more vulnerable. How many parents will only praise their children with the phrase "you are awesome" and try to inspire their self-confidence. As a result, the children's eyes are blinded, so that they lose even basic judgment.
Praise education, the most important thing is to pay attention to details
1. Praise efforts
Although the meaning of hard work is to hope for a good result, in comparison, effort is more important. So when praising children, affirm their efforts and don't focus on the results. Let the child understand that as long as he works hard, he will have no shame.
A sentence of "Child, it is good that you work hard" will give him great courage. Even if the result ends in failure, the child's belief in trying hard will not be defeated.
2. Praise afterwards
Regarding the time of praise, it is also quite exquisite. Remember that it is more effective to praise your child afterwards. Take the housework thing, if you tell him: Child, you are doing a good job of housework today, thank you. A simple sentence affirms the child's efforts and also expresses his recognition.
Parents will find that praise afterwards will make children more confident and have a sense of accomplishment. If you praise in advance, it will not work at all, and the child may feel that the parents are deliberately deceiving and wanting him to do things.
3. Start from the heart
All praise must start from the heart, whether it is wording or tone, or the tone of praise, parents must seriously consider. In fact, children are smart, and they can clearly distinguish their inner true feelings through their parents' words and behaviors.
If the parents are humble and false praise, it will make the child hurt and feel that he is not good at anything. Even praise, parents are so perfunctory.
Dig more into your child's strengths, those talents or talents that are already well known, and don't praise them anymore. At all times, be confident in your children, believe in their potential, and don't make comparisons. Be a rational and rational parent, face up to your child's strengths and weaknesses, and let him grow up in a relatively relaxed environment.