I don't know when it began to circulate such a sentence: Daddy with the baby, just live!
Carefully investigate the reasons, mainly in the mind of Bao Mom, the father with the baby is equivalent to unreliable.
How unreliable is that?
You see the video of Bao Dad taking the baby to buy water together, he sits on the scooter, and the baby pushes behind
How bitter is the baby's heart
Look at it again, a fashion show staged by the father to his daughter after drinking, the left and right feet are exchanged, which is a real talent!
Countless ironic pictures have gradually established the "unreliable" status of dad and baby.
But smile and smile, in fact, Dad brought up the baby, or very loving.
The father on the scooter, playing with the baby, the drunken father, gave the child different memories ~
More importantly, Dad with the baby is not only interesting, there are many benefits, and listen to the editor to give you a detailed explanation!
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The father takes the baby, and the child is more independent
A very obvious phenomenon: when the mother takes care of the child, it is easy to help the child with everything in life.
However, children are arranged everywhere, and independence is easily lacking.
But the father is different, always can use its "free-range" baby mode to provide children with the opportunity to grow independently.
Xiaobian will give you an example of egg eating.
Before, at the dinner table, eggs and eggs were always rubbed at dinner, or picky eaters... Seeing this, I subconsciously go to feed.
But the egg daddy usually does not, he will cold face let the egg himself use chopsticks, to pick vegetables.
Even if the clamp could not be moved and the child was crying, he did not immediately hold the child, but instead taught the egg to try.
As a result, after gritting his teeth for a week, the egg also learned to eat on its own, and the effect was immediate.
Therefore, the father with the baby seems to be ruthless, but it is a major driving force to promote the independent growth of children.
As a Harvard university study showed:
The more time a father spends with his child, the stronger his or her independence and social adaptability.
Because compared with the mother's personal efforts, although the father's "free-range" is very incompetent, it gives the child more opportunities to try it himself, so that the child develops the habit of "doing his own thing".
Then, the mothers quickly let go and let the father grow independently with the baby
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Dad with baby, baby smarter
Dad with baby, not only the child is more independent, in terms of IQ, there are also outstanding performances ~ ~
The BBC's large documentary, The Biological Significance of Fathers, points this out.
In the documentary, the family patterns of 11,000 children were mainly tracked and analyzed, and the results showed that children who often spent time with their fathers had higher IQs.
Why?
Quite simply, in a child's infancy, the development of all kinds of physical abilities depends on one word, "stimulation.".
Whether it is language development or brain development, the more stimuli given by the outside world, the more rapid the child's development.
In terms of stimulation, Dad ranked second, and no one dared to recognize the first.
For example, in terms of language stimulation, "The Biological Significance of Fathers" mentions:
"During a child's language development period from the age of 2 to 4, the more the father is involved in education, the higher his child will score on the language test a year later."
Mainly when fathers get along with their children, they mostly do it through play and play.
In this dynamic mode of getting along, the child will communicate more with the father, asking "what is this" and "it will fly"....... Invisibly, it will increase the vocabulary of children!
In addition, Dad's dynamic baby mode can also give children more experience.
These sensory experiences are transmitted back into the child's brain, which stimulates the brain to function and is of great benefit to the baby's brain development!
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Dad brings baby and gives children unlimited possibilities
In the process of taking a baby, many mothers are biased towards conservative neutrality, and everything takes the safety of their children as the first consideration.
Therefore, in life, in the face of babies climbing and touching various objects, everyone will always subconsciously frown to stop.
The reason is that there is no other reason, the child is delicate, the body resistance is poor, and it is easy to infect bacteria by groping and crawling.
Especially in the cold winter season, bacteria and viruses are rampant, and it is difficult not to worry us.
Under the measurement of left and right, we can only adopt the mode of "blocking" to isolate all the danger factors in the outside world.
But children are naturally active, full of curiosity about the outside world, blindly stop contact with the outside world, will only raise children into flowers in the greenhouse.
As the Soviet educator Kapdeleev put it:
Children should devote themselves to nature as soon as possible and for a long time, draw impressions from it, and experience the thoughts and feelings that nature stirs up in everyone's heart...
At this point, our dad's "one-by-one" brain circuit is slightly better
They bring up their babies, pay the most attention to the child's sensory experience, and will play with the child, unlike the mothers who are too "careful".
If you want to climb, you can! Dad will also join in, and the baby will have a competition between you and me.
If you want to get in touch with new things from the outside world, you can too! Dad first touches a wave, and then brings the child to participate!
My egg daddy often carried me on his back, taking his two children to fish, to catch shrimp, to catch insects, to watch earthworms crawl out of the dirt...
In his words, "If you don't climb a mountain, how can you see the vastness of the mountains and rivers?"
Only when children have truly felt everything in the world can they have a broad heart and look forward to a bigger stage in life!
Therefore, dad's heart is big, invisibly giving children unlimited possibilities, so that they have the opportunity to contact all natural things, to extend their imagination, cognition, and learn from it!
After reading this, do the mothers still think that the father with the baby is unreliable?
Anyway, Xiaobian is convinced, they bring up the baby, always with a rational and unique perspective and experience, to bring children interesting growth!
Or spiritual independence, or the blessing of intellectual language development, or the infinite possibilities of growth...