On July 9, 2018, a grand wedding was held at Gao's home in Nuanquan Town, Zhongyang County, Luliang City, Shanxi Province.
The welcoming party is huge. Some people whistled and held flowers in their hands, and 11 "girl scouts" wearing red custom short sleeves were particularly conspicuous in the team. The clothes are printed with numbers ranging from 1 to 11, one of which corresponds to a girl from the Gao family.
When the camera approached them, they greeted the camera happily, "I'm the boss, I'm the second..."
And this wedding was the wedding of Gao Haozhen, the only son of the Gao family.
11 older sisters, 1 younger brother. In the 21st century, the "big families" with 12 children can be placed in a hundred miles, and they can't find a single household, and the neighbors have also come to see the liveliness.
At the wedding, the newlyweds stood on the stage, and the emcee spoke: "11 sisters, for the younger brother to put together a 320,000 dowry to get married, this is what a brotherhood, people admire." ”
After the speech, the audience cheered, the applause was thunderous, and the camera also captured this festive scene.
It was originally a happy event, but it didn't take long to think about it, but it caused a terrifying wave on the Internet.
Some relatives shared the wedding video online, originally intending to share the joy. However, ten or ten hundred were passed on, which caused the people to criticize and write. Some accused his parents of placing too much emphasis on sons and doing whatever it takes to have a son.
Some people say that the 11 sisters are simply a realistic version of Fan Shimei, and they feel wronged.
The media heard the wind and ran to gao's home for an interview, hoping that the parties concerned could have a clarification on the rumors on the Internet.
Unexpectedly, the Gao sisters actually behaved lightly, saying that their parents had never had the idea of half-preferring sons to daughters, and that it was completely voluntary to pool money for their brothers to marry.
What's going on here? Is it really that the crowd is too malicious to speculate?
Then the media interviewed the villagers in the village, and from the villagers we came up with a completely different version.
1. The 12 children of the Gao family
Gao Haigui's family is one of the special hardship families in Nuanquan Town, Shanxi Province, and when Gao Haigui was 22 years old, he met his current wife through the introduction of the villagers.
After the birth of the first child, Gao Haigui began to worry about when he would have a son to continue the incense of the Gao family, so he hurriedly let his wife have a second child. He also often chanted in front of his wife that the daughter who married out was spilled with water, and only when he had a son, the Gao family could be considered a queen.
But successive wives gave birth to daughters, which made Gao Haigui feel that his face was dull, and he felt that he could not lift his head in front of the villagers. He secretly swore that he must have a son in this life, otherwise he would not have the face to face the patriarchs after death.
Even at that time, under the strict family planning policy, Gao Haigui and his wife continued to give birth under the pressure of fines. When she gave birth to her fifth daughter, the Gao family had already thrown the entire family into an extremely poor predicament because of the fine for overbirth.
Even the village accountant shook his head and advised the two to stop at the right time, and then continue to give birth in this way, and several children did not even have to eat. Gao Haigui agreed on the surface every time, and privately gave birth to children according to his own plan.
It was not until the 12th child that I finally realized my wish to have a son. When he was named, he also deliberately found someone to calculate a gua, and finally named him Gao Haozhen. When Gao Haozhen was born, his father Gao Haigui was 50 years old, and his mother was already the age of an elderly mother. As a result of the uninterrupted birth of children for more than twenty years, the mother's body has long been weak and unfashionable, and the heavy work and farm work in the family are basically handled by the daughters.
Because of poverty, the daughters basically went to school intermittently, the eldest sister and the third sister did not go to school, most of the other sisters did not graduate from junior high school, and only the tenth sister graduated from high school and was admitted to the university in Beijing.
However, because the family owed a lot of money because of Chaosheng, there was no way, and the tenth sister could only give up the opportunity to study in college to work in the county.
The parents who have children in old age regard their only son as a baby, and the sisters also take good care of this younger brother.
The clothes of the sisters are passed on one by one, the eldest sister wears the rest to the second sister, and the second sister does not wear it to the third sister... The only younger brother, Gao Haozhen, has a lot of new clothes.
Every year during the New Year, no matter how poor the conditions at home, parents will try their best to buy new clothes for their children. Wearing new clothes for the New Year has been regarded as one of the traditional customs of every family for the New Year. Only the Gao family and the sisters are wearing ordinary clothes that are usually washed and white. But as for the younger brother, the sisters are reluctant to let him suffer, and every year Chinese New Year's Eve, the sisters will spontaneously send gifts to the younger brother. The eldest sister and the second sister will go to the small shopping mall in the town early in the morning to pick two sets for the younger brother to take home, and the rest of the sisters will also wrap the red envelope for the younger brother.
The younger brother is the youngest, the eldest has to take care of the small, the parents have a son, and the sisters have always been indoctrinated to take more care of the younger brother, so being good to the younger brother has become a habit engraved in the bones of the sisters.
They didn't think there was anything wrong with it, and they were willing to pay for their brother.
2, the younger brother married, is a sister to work together to make money
The sisters were not highly educated, and put all their expectations on their younger brothers. They often comforted their brothers, just study well, and don't care about anything else. Even if he can read a doctorate one day, his sisters will provide for him.
However, his younger brother, who grew up under the stars and the moon, did not have satisfactory grades, and each time he wandered in the last few in the class. After graduating from high school, I didn't go to college and didn't go on.
Gao Haozhen, who has no academic qualifications and no skills, went to work in the barber shop opened by the Ninth Sister.
In 2018, This year Gao Haozhen was exactly 22 years old. His girlfriend, who has been in love with him for 5 years, is pregnant, so the marriage is naturally on the agenda.
Buying a house, a bride price, and a wedding all add up to at least hundreds of thousands. My parents were too old to come up with any savings. And the younger brother himself has just worked for a few years, naturally he is weak.
The sisters discussed making money for their younger brothers, and the eleven sisters made up a total of 320,000 yuan. Among them, 200,000 bought more than 100 square meters of houses for his brother in the county, and 120,000 were used for the dowry and wedding banquet.
On July 9, 2018, Gao Haozhen held a wedding in the village. The eleven sisters also arrived in advance in red clothes with numbers printed on them.
On the day of the big day, the sisters took turns on the stage to speak to bless their brothers. At the wedding, the younger brother spoke earnestly and expressed his gratitude to his sister. He said that he would work harder in the future, filial piety to his parents, and repay his sister.
They did not expect that the wedding would alarm the media and even be posted on the Internet to become a front page headline. Things fermented so badly that the family could not escape the storm of public opinion.
Parents are accused of being machines that give birth to children, vowing not to give up without having sons, and the birth of sisters is nothing more than an accident that parents have to face in order to have a boy.
Of course, the sisters were not spared, and netizens were even more angry at their misfortune, they originally had a better future, sacrificed too much for their brother, resulting in academic interruption, and could only be forced to work. When he grew up, he was forced to become a brother-in-law demon because of his parents' preference for sons and daughters, and his younger brother naturally enjoyed all this. She was only 22 years old when she was married, but her girlfriend had been in love for 5 years. That is to say, when they fell in love, they were only 17 years old, which was also the age of high school.
The sisters even gave up the opportunity to study, and the family provided him with books, but he fell in love at the age of study, and eventually failed to enter the university.
In the reporter's interview, the sister came forward to respond. For the public opinion storm on the Internet, she also gave an explanation.
Although there are many children in the family, parents have never been biased, and both children are treated equally. They just want a son, not a son. Their help to their brother is also out of the maintenance of family affection. When my parents were older, they couldn't bear to hollow out their parents to buy a wedding for their brother. And the sisters are all adults, and each of them contributes. And that's it.
They also have a good relationship with their brother, and their kindness to their brother is voluntary.
3, cold and warm self-knowledge
Shortly after Gao Haozhen got married, her mother, who was in her 70s, died of illness. Years of uninterrupted childbirth have led to severe physical overdrafts.
During the time when his mother had just died, his father Gao Haigui sat in the courtyard all day, and he was silent and introverted, and he had even fewer words. The sisters were worried that something was wrong with their father, so they took their father to the county town to take care of him. On weekdays, when my father was fine, he walked around the park downstairs, or played chess with other elderly people, and his later life was quite comfortable.
On January 1, 2022, the second sister released a video of her eldest son getting engaged, and the parents and newlyweds on both sides at the engagement banquet had smiles on their faces from beginning to end.
From time to time, you can see some comments below the video, some people understand the sister, and of course, some people criticize.
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