In 2013, a senior HR of a bank wrote an article entitled "It is difficult to get a noble son in the cold door", which triggered a hot discussion. People have caused differences in the growth process caused by the different resources they have in their hands. After I carefully read this article, I found that the author's description basically had nothing to do with the concept of "cold door" that netizens were talking about. He gave examples of the difference between children born in rural areas, large cities, and small cities, and more detailedly gave examples of the obvious differences in the way children born in government agencies, intellectuals, business, migrant or farming families were born, and fundamentally expressed the idea that the family environment and the words and deeds of parents determine the character of the child, and the character determines the fate of the child.
Obviously, the argument that "it is difficult for the cold door to produce a noble son" is not established, no matter what era, the cold door generation has a noble son out:
Shi Shaocong, a famous lecturer in Lanxin that we are familiar with, was born in the countryside and has been relying on her own work-study since she went to college, but no matter how difficult it is, she has always remembered the "Carnegie Eloquence" at the head of her father's bed, and her father's words: "People can't stop learning all their lives, books are the biggest place in my heart." It can be said that her father's words and deeds have become her motto, and they have become her motivation and direction for perseverance.
Liu Yuanyuan, a talented woman at Peking University, is precisely the use of the concept of the author's stealing, will be wrong, with the speech of "Hanmen Guizi" and became famous in one fell swoop, she believes that Hanmen can produce Guizi: "Learning ability is your only weapon, but also your most powerful weapon." In her own words, my house is not a "cold door" because there is no door. Even if they are so poor and have not read much, they firmly believe that reading is the most important thing, and no matter how much suffering they suffer, they will unswervingly send her and her two brothers to college. The belief of her parents has fulfilled her belief, not only never to fail, but also with a wise mind, to find a strategy for each goal, to find a method, not to blindly pursue, but to be targeted, so that she always makes the right choice, every step is the right direction.
It can be said that Shi Shaocong and Liu Yuanyuan, the real cold door nobles who have stood out in recent years, are a strong refutation of "The Cold Door Is Difficult to Get Out of the Noble Son".
Hong Zhanhui, from the age of thirteen, took up the burden of taking care of his schizophrenic father, carried his sister who had been picked up, went to school by picking up scraps, changed from a boy to a man who could not be defeated by suffering, studied in poverty, strengthened himself in hardship, and became a great figure who touched China in 2006, and he was an outstanding representative of the hanmen takako at the beginning of this century.
It is not difficult to see that no matter when, the cold door still produces noble children, focusing on the education of parents and the tenacious growth of self.
On the contrary, the giants may not be rich.
Once circulated a couplet on the Internet" "Hate Daddy is not steel; Complaining about Daddy is not Shuangjiang." Horizontal batch: Reincarnated surname Li " said:
Li Tianyi, who came from a musical family, inherited the musical talent of his parents, and his young age has come to the fore, and he has not failed to live up to his parents' heavy money for him, but his parents have ignored the norms and guidance of his morality, arrogant and indulgent from childhood, and repeatedly found reasons for his transgressive behavior, such as Li Tianyi, when he was only fourteen years old, he drove around without a driver's license to pick up his sister, and at the age of 15, he went crazy and violated the rules 32 times. Unconstrained Li Tianyi was finally arrested and imprisoned for rape, ruining his future.
There is also Li Qiming, who was born into a powerful family, grew up under the umbrella of his parents' power since childhood, and is willful. In the face of the victims of one death and one injury, he was still cold and arrogant, shouting," if you have the ability to sue, my father is Li Gang!"
What a painful revelation: the unprincipled spoiling and unbridled words and deeds of parents will eventually be rewarded through their children.
The two cases remind parents that educating children as adults is more important than success!
Back to "Cold Door Is Difficult to Get Out of Takako", these children who intern in banks have good and bad family backgrounds, but there is no real sense of cold door. The author only through the observation of these students found that children born in different families because of the influence of the family environment and their parents, their performance is also very different: there are several children from intellectual families, there are very similar character defects: one is that they have no eyesight, the other is that they feel good about themselves, they regard themselves as high, they do not accept chores such as running errands, and they are excluded by the internship department without exception, and soon they all voluntarily quit the internship; and the small fat who came from a business family, tolerated people, did not compete for posts, and their language was humorous. Thoughtful, under the guidance of his father, he was able to objectively analyze the employment situation, take advantage of the convenience of work, timely discover and seize business opportunities for cooperation with banks, achieve economic independence at the earliest, and gain a firm foothold in first-tier cities. And from the countryside to govern the country, not only student cadres, excellent grades, there is enthusiasm in the work, and hard work, deeply loved and valued by the author, once he took two boxes of Chinese cigarettes for hospitality, wanted to give the father of the countryside to taste, but did not expect to be found by the boss of the department, and finally did not be hired, the author has quite a word, think that this small matter, is not stolen, can be understood. But I don't think so, he lost the opportunity to stay in the bank, or his own problem, the result should be fair. The aforementioned Hong Zhanhui was injured in the eye and almost blind, but when he heard that the man was seriously ill, he still took out the only thirty yuan to support him. Hong Zhanhui, who is much poorer than governing the country, has a different wind and bone, and the bottom line of being a man cannot cross the line because of poverty.
In the end, the bank left only two classmates, one of whom was dependent on his mother. In other words, only one in sixty really benefits from parental resources. The authors did not follow the other interns for a long time, and after twenty Chinese New Year's Eve years, they will each develop.
It can be seen that the results of these students' internships prove that it is not a problem of birth, but a problem of family environment and parents' education: every choice and way of dealing with people carries the imprint of the original family.
The family atmosphere and the education of parents shape a person's character, and character determines destiny.
There is no absolute fairness in society. Even if you get the support of your parents' resource advantages, if you don't know how to cherish and don't make efforts, your subsequent life can only be mediocre and not necessarily wonderful; after all, the majority of those who come from ordinary families, and the parents' positive attitude to life, correct words and deeds, and far-sighted world outlook are the demonstration and beacon for children to shape a tolerant and tenacious character. From this point of view, the nobility of the parents' character is the basis for the achievement of "noble son".
Liu Yuanyuan said: "You can start lower than others, you can start later than others, but you can still counterattack." Counterattack is never just an inspirational story, but the crystallization of methods and strategies. "Methods and strategies come from your lifelong learning and diligence.
Therefore, birth cannot determine the future of children, only the correct guidance and education of parents, coupled with their own efforts, can determine the height of their future growth.
The future will definitely not fail to live up to the children who are running hard!