Text/Flying Fish
What is love?
I remember mr. Yang Dai's "Invisibility Cloak" mentioned such a sentence: Love is not a dinner treat, but two people understand each other and fit with each other.
Deeply.
When two people come together, they still need to understand each other, in order to have a sense of security, and to become a soul mate.
Because the feeling of soul mate is that two people understand each other, appreciate each other, understand and tolerate each other. When you meet that person, you never want to meet someone else again.
Between lovers, there are these three feelings, indicating that they are soul mates.
First, the three views are the same.
Between lovers, those who can become soul mates must first have the same three views.
Just like the love between Mr. Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu, it is the love of "soul mate".
Because Qian Zhongshu said that before I met her, I never thought of getting married, I married her for decades, never regretted it, and never wanted to marry someone else.
Soul mates begin with falling in love at first sight, being faithful to understanding and fit, so that two people can have a long relationship together.
Love is not a matter of eating a meal, but slowly running in life, two people's three views are the same, there will be common topics, there will be a good tacit understanding, that is, the other party will understand your unspoken meaning, will also understand your desire to stop.
Between such lovers, there will be the desire to hold the hand of the son and grow old with the son. Two people have the same three views, and they are also cooperative with each other when doing things, and they can also give each other some suggestions to each other, and they will be very happy to get along.
Two people with different views, getting along together will be very tired, when encountering some things, adhere to each other's values, it is difficult to integrate together, only quarrels, so that for a long time, the temperature of feelings will slowly disappear.
And the two people with the same three views, just like Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu, the two people can coordinate life and work, have something to discuss together, share together, Yang Dai knows that Qian Zhongshu is not in good health, he will pay more, Qian Zhongshu will also take the initiative to care about Yang Chen, and will also make some changes for her, so that the two people living together will be very happy.
Second, there is a very tacit understanding.
Lovers are together, and if there is a very big tacit understanding, it means that they will become soul mates.
Because the real soul mate is a tacit understanding between two people. You will find that you can read what the other person says, and when he is trying to open his mouth, you will know what he wants to say next, and two people always say the same thing without hesitation, and the topic you throw out, the words you say, he can catch your stem, and then reply to you also feel very satisfied.
Soul mates are like this, many things, but also coincide, thinking of a piece to go.
Lovers have a tacit understanding between each other, understand each other, do things together, and feel very comfortable.
Just like Zhou Shengchen and Shi Yi in "One Life and One Life", when the two of them were not married, they had a very tacit understanding together, always thought of something together, and did not need to run into each other' lives quickly. This is soul mate.
Between lovers, feel that you have met a soul mate, you will feel very satisfied, very good, because living with such a person, it will be very easy.
Third, get along without getting tired.
The most direct feeling of a soul mate is that they are not tired of getting along.
Lovers get along together, if you feel that getting along with each other is not tired, it means that you have found the right person, but also that the other party is your soul mate.
In the relationship, if you want to develop for a long time, or look at the two people's mode of getting along, if you feel that this person is very compatible with you, the mode of getting along is also very suitable, and feel comfortable and comfortable, then it will give you a feeling of soul mate.
If two people are together, two of the three sentences cannot be combined, it is awkward to talk about, and even if they are in a stalemate, they will feel very uncomfortable, then it is inappropriate for two people to explain.
And two people together, can always be themselves, and appreciate each other's self, then it is very comfortable to get along, which also shows that you meet your soul mate in life in the vast sea of people.
There is a feeling that makes you see each other as you are, even if you don't talk together, you don't feel embarrassed.
In short, soul mates are unattainable, and as Xu Zhimo said, I will search for my only soul mate in the vast sea of people. I am blessed to have it; no, I am destined.
Maybe the people we've met, who are not soul mates, are also separated because they don't fit.
Soul mates also need to be run through time, and only after more experience can we know who is the most suitable person and who is the soul mate in our lives.
If you meet, cherish it, if you haven't met it yet, don't worry, your fate will come after all, because two people who fit into each other will always meet.
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