When my family was about three years old, when the child was actually very timid and shy in kindergarten, sometimes when he was led to play in other children's homes, he always played alone and did not like to play with other children. After arriving in kindergarten, it is the same, sitting there silently by myself, and I don't like to deal with others. Sometimes I think it is the child's personality reason, in fact, why the child always likes to sit there alone in silence, always feel very lonely for the child.
Later, I learned that this may be the child's growth stage must go through, in fact, the child's growth needs a process. When the child encounters a new group, the child is actually sometimes not able to accept it immediately, and the child may have a strong ability to accept it, and can integrate into the group at the beginning. But some children need time. Some may take half a year or a year to integrate into this new group.
So at this time, what parents have to do is to slowly wait for the child, willing to open their hearts to contact others, of course, in this process, parents still have to give some encouragement and care to their children. Let the child be willing to communicate with others from the child's heart, only the parents encourage and care in place, sometimes the child naturally let go, slowly, the child's personality will become more and more cheerful.
When encouraging children to interact, parents should do these aspects well
Don't force your child
Sometimes when parents encourage their children to interact with others, some parents will force their children to play with others, play games with him, and read books with others. At this time, it will make the child have a more unwilling mood for this matter, that is, a kind of rejection psychology.
At this time, forcing the child to achieve an opposite purpose, which is actually not conducive to the child's positive development. Therefore, parents must remember that sometimes compulsion is not to achieve the purpose, more to follow the heart to start, otherwise the parents' kind help, not only did not help the child, but let the child have a rebellious psychology, the gain is not worth the loss.
Be guided consciously
In addition, in the upper life, parents should do a kind of conscious guidance to their children, that is, not deliberately but consciously. For example, when going to the neighbor's house, consciously guide the child, saying that the toy played by the neighbor's child is particularly fun, and you can play with him.
Or say you have something delicious in your hand and encourage your child to share it with others. When parents subconsciously guide their children to do this, the children will slowly imprint this mode of thinking in their hearts, and slowly, the children are willing to go out of their own hearts and communicate with others. The treatment of children's education must start from the child's psychology, so that it is easier to achieve the desired results.
Let the child have free space to play
In daily life, parents naturally need to encourage their children to interact with others, but they must also let their children have free play space. That is to say, when the child wants to be himself, want to do things, parents do not have to ask the child how to do, but to let the child develop freely, if there are some children playing together, parents do not have to emphasize what kind of way the child should communicate with others, let the child freely explore with others how to communicate with others, when the child and other children contact more free play space, will also get self-development, which is a law of children's self-growth.
Fourth, we must obey the child's wishes
In fact, the process of educating children is also a process of respecting children, there are children who obey their parents, become parents who listen to their children, and become parents to obey their children, follow the wishes of children, follow or ideas, and follow children to be able to do what they like to do. When the child can get the respect of the parents, in fact, this is also the process of the child's growth, because the child has a certain sense of self at this time, he is willing to do what he wants to do, the child can also decide the steps of what he does, the world shows that the child has grown.
When parents can respect their children, their children will also become more independent and brave because of their own thinking and ideas. So when the child becomes confident, and with the encouragement of the parents, is willing to take his own step, the interaction between the child and other children will become more, and there is no need to worry about the child.
The growth of children actually needs to follow a certain law, parents do not have to be in a hurry, do not necessarily have to require children and other children, keep up with their rhythm, as long as the children grow up step by step according to their own rhythm, to live. As long as the child is not psychological, or physically has some kind of problem, then the child's growth still has its own laws, parents respect such laws, so that children can freely and bravely follow their own laws is enough.
summary:
When parents find that children always refuse to communicate and interact with other children, in fact, parents do not worry, in fact, every child has the law of each child's growth, and do not have to feel that other children are mixed with other people, and this child is not mixed with other people, it feels very anxious. At this time, what parents should do is to follow the child's wishes, respect the child's inner thoughts, and let the child live according to his own growth law, because each child actually has his own growth process, and it is enough for parents to give their children support and encouragement.