Of the 100 boys, 99 love to play.
If they want to play with others, the most common tricks are:
You're coming after me!"
You're going to hit me!"
You're here to catch me!"
If the offer fails, it will be upgraded to the radical method:
You can't catch up with me!
You can't hit me!
You can't catch me!"
Jumping up and down, chasing screams, punching and kicking, the endless "Ultraman Wars" and "Superman Saving the World" are not the most collapsible things. When Mom is most afraid, when the boys are bored, the soul calls out - "Mom, let's fight!"
Why boys love
"Slapstick" games?
The soul torture common to mothers all over the world - "Why do boys love to fight and kill?"
1. It is such a nature, let him go
Naughty and active, as if it were a label that boys are born with.
In fact, the central nervous system of children at this stage is more active, and playing is a way to release pleasure. And under the influence of physiological hormones, the surge of testosterone in the body will also make them energetic, impulsive and manic, constantly bouncing, fighting, screaming...
So, comfort the parents a little. It's not just your boys who are noisy, but the boys who are noisy have it every family.
Laughter and play are the way boys grow up. Turn a blind eye, and let him go if it is safe and not annoying his mother.
2. It seems to be a fight, but it is actually fun
The boys' slapstick games always look thrilling.
And they not only like to fight, but also like group fights, a group of boys than hands and feet, swords and swords, comparable to the Three Kingdoms scuffle, see the parents frightened.
It seems that they do not know how to measure, but the boy's sense of proportion and rules is often cultivated by "fighting and fighting".
Kids who love to fight tend to be smarter
Perhaps parents are tired of their children's endless beatings, but experts believe that children who love to fight are often more prominent.
American Doctor Dr. Dad Anthony DeBenedet and Larry In their book The Art of Roughhousing, Cohen makes it clear that instead of provoking violence and impulsiveness, playing games will "make children smarter, more emotionally intelligent, more likable, more virtuous, and more physically and mentally pleasing."
And the author of the book "The Spirit of Play", the famous American developmental psychologist Peter Gray, after many arguments, also put forward a similar point of view:
In the process of playing with other children, children can learn how to make their own decisions, control their emotions and impulses, see problems from the perspective of others, and make friends.
Play is the premise and means for children to learn to control their own lives and learn to live independently.
So, what good can fighting do for children?
1. Promotes brain development
Scientific research has found that the process of playing can stimulate the brain and secrete neuromolecules that help the hippocampus grow.
At the same time, the game can fully mobilize the child's big movement ability and limb coordination ability, promote the more sound development of the brain, and make the child smarter.
2. Improve emotional intelligence and social skills
As the saying goes, "don't fight, don't know each other", and fighting is also a special "social means" for boys. Boys like to express their thoughts through body language and socialize.
In the fight, the boy can learn to judge the other party's emotions and grasp the "degree" of behavior through the changes in the other party's language, movements, and expressions.
At the same time, they will also learn to choose what kind of defensive or offensive methods to take according to the situation. Seemingly non-nutritious play games actually cultivate children's emotional cognition and self-control ability, but also exercise social skills.
(3) Train the awareness of rules and form a good competitiveness
The boy is aggressive, but we have to teach him to fight "by the rules."
For example, to play eagles to catch chickens, eagles must wait for the shout "start" before they can move, play hide-and-seek, you must close your eyes and count before you can find someone.
Children need to understand and abide by the rules in order to be accepted by their friends, and the game can be played in an orderly and enjoyable manner.
The more you want to win, the more you need to follow the rules. It is in the game that the boys gradually build up a sense of rules and learn to compete benignly.
Father's love is indispensable, and growth needs your help
The boy's obsession with fighting is essentially a yearning for power.
A humorous and insightful father once said, "If you want to get along well with your son, you must learn to wrestle!"
Between father and son, it seems that there is a unique father-son language. Whenever they play, play and adventure together, they always have a tacit understanding of when to fight and when to take half-time.
Their laughter and playfulness seemed to be "special communication between men". It was in these fights that the little boy who rode on his father learned "how to be a man like his father."
Therefore, in the face of the "king of destruction" who loves to fight at home, instead of controlling and suppressing, the mother should guide the trend and give it to the father, so that the father can teach the boy to learn to control and control the power in the collision of power.
And a lot of scientific research shows that dads' active participation in parenting is more helpful for children's brain development!
The BBC documentary "The Biological Significance of Fathers", which tracked and analyzed the family patterns of 11,000 children, resulted in higher IQs of children who often spent time with their fathers.
This conclusion coincides with the results of a 12-year Study by Yale University: Children who grow up with more fathers are generally smarter, tend to do better in school, and are more likely to succeed in society.
This is because men have many characteristics that women do not have, which can be passed on to children through parent-child interaction, which is of great benefit to the growth of children.
1. Dad is adventurous
In the eyes of mothers, safety comes first, and fun comes last.
But by nature, adventurous dads are passionate about power games and are more willing to take their children to try new things and create new ways to play games. Moderate adventure games can develop children's innovative spirit and cultivate their diverse thinking.
subtext:
Bile Fat - More able to cultivate children's sense of adventure.
Child: Look, that looks like a caterpillar!
Dad: Quick, grab it and see!
Child: Ah, can it bite? Then next time see the far side!
2. Dad is informal
Compared with the mothers who always take good care of their children and clean up cleanly, it is inevitable that dads with babies will appear sloppy and casual.
Casually grabbed clothes, wearing reverse pants, pairing unsuccessful socks, unsightly collocation style, all these things make people cry and laugh.
But it is precisely this kind of informality that allows children to get out of their mother's one-eyed life rules and meticulous care and learn to be self-reliant.
Laziness - more able to cultivate children's autonomy.
thirst?
Pour yourself water!
Wait, by the way, pour me a cup.
3. Dad is more childish
Every father has a small child living in his heart, and it is no wonder that the child is always full of vitality and laughter with him.
Occasionally, dad's light and humorous ridicule is often more able to make children listen to and remember than harsh reprimands and preaching.
Big kids and little kids together – closer to kids.
What? Didn't do well in the exam?
Sign it for you, don't betray me!
Next time after doing it, remember to check, always help you cover up, your mother will discipline me!
4. Dad is more resilient
Mothers are always habitually chicken mothers, always opening their wings to protect the chicken babies, and do not want their children to experience wind and rain.
Fathers have big hearts, rough upbringing, let go, fall down to let them get up, can give the baby more space to trial and error and grow, can make the child more independent and more resilient to face the world.
Big heart - more able to cultivate children to be brave and tenacious.
Get down faster from here! Jump, don't be afraid, can't fall!
ah! What a fall!
What a big deal, get up on your own! Sharp point, running two steps will not hurt.
A thousand readers have a thousand Hamlets, and a thousand dads can bloom 999 flowers.
Dads who don't play cards according to common sense always have unexpected ways to take their babies.
The growth of children needs the delicate, gentle and patient care of their mothers. At the same time, it is inseparable from Dad's bold, decisive and confident leadership.
No woman is born to be a mother, and no man is born to be a father.
Try to let go and let dad take the baby, let the dad become the superhero in the child's heart, and also become your right helper with the baby.
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