There are 4 reasons why a family cannot become rich, especially the second point, parents should be vigilant
The prosperity and wealth of a family is inseparable from the efforts of every family member
In particular, the words and deeds of parents often determine the temperature and happiness of a home
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Some time ago, I went back to my hometown
As a result, several relatives ate together at my house and talked about the family of an uncle of my parents' generation
Many people sighed that people are now living in Shanghai, the son has opened a supermarket, the daughter has also entered the public institution, and the family is not to mention how good it is
At this time, someone talked about this uncle's brother
An informed uncle lamented that his family was still in town, and the two children were not instruments
The son went to Shanghai in the first half of the year, worked in his cousin's supermarket for a few months and felt too tired to come home, and now he has nothing to do all day, and his daughter is not married well, and he often quarrels with a big car
Obviously, they are two brothers, and the starting point is exactly the same
But the two families are more and more different, why is this?
In fact, many times, whether a family thrives or not depends on people
In the following 4 situations, there is a kind of family that is not getting better, and parents must pay attention to it
01
Husbands and wives are discordant, and people's hearts are scattered
I don't know if you find it, the richer the prosperous family
The more intimate the relationship between members, especially between husband and wife, they are often able to support and understand each other
On the contrary, those husband and wife families who are not harmonious and always noisy will naturally have no cohesion and will not prosper
Just as the so-called "home and everything is prosperous", the ancients sincerely did not deceive me
I have a small hair who has hated his family since he was a child
The reason is that his father not only quarreled with his mother, but also with his grandparents
In short, there seems to be no feelings for each other, either this complaining about that, or that resenting this, and many times even alarming the neighborhood committee
Over time, he also got used to it and often confronted his parents
He has always felt that the family is like this, quarreling with each other, resenting each other, and no one can be separated from the other
It wasn't until he went to college that he discovered that there was another kind of family in the world
Everyone cares for each other, understands each other, and the family is happy and harmonious
Compared with his own poor, disputed family, the classmates' homes are obviously much richer and peacefuler
So after he graduated from college, he rarely went home
This year, his grandparents have passed away one after another, and his mother has also been sick, and he went to the hospital for a check-up, and the doctor said that this is all out of anger
Yes, long-term quarrels and quarrels will not only make it impossible for members to work together
Worse, it may also bring disease
"Poor" and "sick" are like fraternal twin sisters, always staring at those discordant families, looking at the wind and taking advantage of the void
There is a sentence cloud in the Book of Rites
"Father and son, brotherhood, husband and wife, and the fat of the family."
As a parent, we must set a good example, and remember that family harmony is the foundation of making a fortune
02
Do not know how to parenting, doting on children
Some say that children are the hope for the future of a family
When you educate your children well, the happiness of the family also has a foundation and a starting point
Conversely, if you don't educate your child well, even if you leave him with more wealth, you will eventually be squandered
This led to the decline of the family
In Yu Hua's novel "Alive", the protagonist Fugui's family was originally a local gentry and a large landlord
The family had a lot of wealth, but his family did not attach importance to education and doted on their children from an early age
Whether it is Fugui's father or Fugui is a typical loser
Sure enough, in the end they also became poorer and poorer, and declined more and more
For families, instead of leaving behind the golden mountains and silver mountains, it is better to give children a good family education
In the animated short film "Wayward Life", the protagonist's father has been obedient to her since she was a child
She saw the Rainbow Horse on TV, and her father did not hesitate to spend a huge amount of money to meet her
In short, no matter what his daughter wants, this father will do his best to do it for her
Over time, the girl became more and more selfish, almost using her father as a cash machine
Even when she grew up, in order to marry a singer, she forced her father to sell the house, and then asked him to help with the children
And she never said a word of thanks, nor did she think about her father even once
Indeed, many times, the more we dot on our children
In fact, the more you harm your children, the more you harm your own family
As writer Jenny Allim put it
"There are shortcomings in children that are not terrible
The terrible thing is that parents who are the leaders of their children's lives lack the correct concept of tutoring and the method of teaching their children. ”
As parents, there is nothing wrong with loving our children
But once the doting is too deep, it is undoubtedly laying hidden dangers for the future of children and the future of the family
This makes them selfish and domineering, have no gratitude, and become more and more bottomless
Remember, if you want your children to have a good future, if you want your family to prosper, you must sort out the family style and educate your children
03
Don't think about it, eat lazy to do
I saw such a news in the evening that day
An adult man, because he was too tired to work at the construction site, gave up the work of moving bricks with a daily salary of 350 yuan
Instead, he became a "gentleman on the beam"
Idle all day, hiding in the house to play games during the day, going out at night to "work"
Not only did he have a hard time, but he finally entered the prison prison because he broke the law
Ruined his life
The story of the tortoise and rabbit race is believed to be known to everyone
The rabbit loses not because it is not smart and does not run fast enough, precisely because it chooses to be lazy
On the contrary, although the turtle runs slowly, it has always been diligent and diligent, and naturally it will be able to win in the end
I often hear some people say it in life
This baby is quite smart, just a little lazy, as if smart is enough
But I forgot that no matter how smart people are, if they don't move, they will shrink and degenerate
Become anonymous
Many people who are on the front line of poverty alleviation have reflected
Many poor households are poor because they are lazy, and this kind of laziness is still the laziness of generations
How can such a family become rich?
As the saying goes, "Diligence can get rich, lazy is poor"
Remember, if you want your family to prosper, you must be diligent, don't be enterprising, eat and be lazy
04
The door is corrupt and the character is depraved
As the old saying goes, there are clouds
"There will be a remnant of the house of good, and there will be a remnant of the house of evil."
Indeed, if a family is not in the right style and corrupt in character, then such a family is bound to decline more and more
On the contrary, good family style, good virtue, but like a cornucopia, the longer the time, the more prosperous the family
I don't know if you have seen the news that the Anhui female village bully has been arrested
It is about a mother and daughter, in order to collect money and make a fortune, they have evil thoughts
Not only did he extort men from the village many times, but he also became a road bully on a road
As soon as a vehicle passes by, the mother and daughter will stop and extort money
As a result, over time, it caused a lot of people to be dissatisfied, and some people reported them
In the end, both mother and daughter were arrested and paid the price for their actions
In life, there are always people who say, "Rich is not more than three generations, poor is not more than three generations."
In fact, whether the poor and rich can be sustained or not has nothing to do with time, the key is whether the family style is good or not
In Yantai, Shandong, there is a very famous Mou family
Their family has a history of more than 400 years from the end of the Ming Dynasty to the present
The reason why it has been able to survive 10 generations without falling is because of the simple family style of "holding good thoughts and doing good deeds"
As the saying goes, "the family style is right, the family is prosperous"
If you want your family to prosper, you must remember to have good virtues and correct your own family style
05
Some say home is trivial but warm everyday
It is also the one that belongs to you in the lights of thousands of homes
A warm and happy home should be harmonious and warm, and people's hearts should be united; it should be educated and long-lasting; it should be positive and enterprising, and it should work hard; it should be a good family style and excellent character
Believe it, as long as our family is harmonious and works together, parents and children are of good character and positive and enterprising
Then the days will surely get better and better, and the family will surely become more and more prosperous
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