Good evening friends, last week's recommendation of "Single is Hell" has been the finale, in addition to the discussion of the final choice, I found that recently the Internet summarized "Song Zhiya's Cheats" is also more and more.
"Oba?" "You must not want to go home, do you?" "You'll be dazzled by me later." This is indeed very heartwarming to listen to in the variety show, but in reality, there are sisters on the Little Red Book who have tried, and this set of tricks is the tip of the car:
In fact, clear-eyed people can see that the reason why Song Zhiya won a lot in the whole variety show is not caused by her simple words or an act, but the confidence and freedom she exudes are really charming.
Instead of learning her to flirt and talk, it is better to learn her attitude of dragging her sister when she is in love, after all, this is her real love secret.
Nonsense is not much to say, on the dry goods.
(Friendly tip: Although she markets a lot, this article is really not widespread, purely after watching the show and sent with feelings.) ）
First of all, the first point, and the reason why I think the male guests will be fascinated by her, is that she always pays the most attention to her feelings and is not afraid to express them.
For example, the classic clip that happened after returning from Paradise Island for the second time: Hyun-jung and Shi-hoon both want to chat with her, but Song Jiya has more affection for Hyun-joong, so she gently expresses with Shi-ho that she wants to have more contact with The Man.
There are often cases of two or more opposite sexes hanging in the love roundup, and green tea is often criticized, but Song Zhiya gives people the feeling of being very straightforward, such as later her feelings for Hyun-jung gradually stabilized, and she said it very directly when she refused shi xun.
That night, her favorite Kensaka came to her to determine her intentions, and she did not mind revealing her thoughts that she had decided to choose him.
Later, the next day, he was impressed by the new Chocolate Oba, and unabashedly said that the new boy was the closest to the ideal type (but in the end he chose Kensaka).
After the show last week, I kept thinking about everything Song Zhiya had done, including her choices, and the words she said to the male guests, in fact, it had always revolved around "how do I think".
She does not overly speculate on the mentality of the male guests, but only focuses on her own feelings.
"Who do I have a better feeling for" "Who do I want to choose more", this is what she has always cared about.
I have also felt this recently, whether it is love or friendship, "selfish" people are the best life.
If you don't believe it, you can try to observe a couple, or a circle of friends, and you will find that in fact, everyone will unconsciously revolve around the more "self" person. I think this is also the charm of Song Zhiya.
When you care more about your own feelings than thinking about how to make others feel comfortable, others will care more about you.
Including many girls who say that her Chinese is difficult to say, I think this is also part of her "self". It is precisely because a person is confident enough to express it in this way.
On the other hand, when the scumbag is flirting with the girl, won't he also say some witty words that make people blush and can't pick up? Song Zhiya's behavior also means one thing.
Continue to use the "scumbag theory" to apply to Song Zhiya's behavior, and everything will seem reasonable:
For example, take the initiative to use language to tease the boy who is ambiguous, look directly into the eyes of the boy when talking about love, and when the boy says ambiguous words, she will stare at the other party and show a sweet smile. A gender change is a charming scumbag, so girls will also be particularly impressed by boys.
She herself has also said in the video that the heart sutra of women chasing men is not a way, but to learn to release charm.
There are also many girls who are curious about "how Song Zhiya is so calm in the face of men", in fact, it is a truth with scumbags - self-confidence. Thinking about "I am a million fans" and "the other party can't see me as his vision", it is natural to calm down.
Previously, she also said in her video that "I am the most precious person in the world" and "let the people who are injured say goodbye immediately".
It is conceivable that she can be so calm in front of men, all because she loves herself enough.
However, as a common woman who has a little inferiority in her bones, although I am envious, I also want to know what Song Zhiya's source of confidence is in addition to beauty, and as a result, after checking her information, I admire her even more, and I also admire her.
First of all, her original family is very good, she was nourished by the love of her parents from childhood, and it is precisely because her parents gave her a lot of love that she naturally has a sense of self-esteem.
Secondly, she herself is also very hard, the fitness career has not fallen, and the treatment of feelings is also very clear.
To sum up the above, excluding the original family we can not control, girls can refer to the main points are the following:
1 Pay more attention to your own thoughts in your relationship.
2 Don't speculate too much about what boys think, and don't pander to the comfort of the other person.
3 Rush if you like, try to exude your own charm, can be flattered but limited. If you don't like it, you explicitly refuse.
4 Self-love, believing in "I am the most precious", what makes me sad should roll.
5 If you're not confident, try to make yourself better, because self-discipline makes people more confident.
In the end, although I have talked about many relationships but still can't do what Song Zhiya is, but with the accumulation of experience, I found that the underlying logic of her love is really worth learning from Xiaobai.
Especially after seeing the second half of the variety show, compared to other female guests who began to mess up, afraid that they could not escape from Hell Island, Zhiya gave me the feeling that "even if I can't escape Hell Island, you are not worthy of me", do not care about men only care about their own feelings, really good Oh.
Confident girls always shine, with handsome guys because I deserve it, when hurt let him worship because he doesn't deserve me, self-disciplined me is the best, no matter when I am happy is the first.
After learning "Song Zhiya's Love Secret", my mentality has embarked on the next level.
Head image / Arren Aaren
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