The happiness of marriage is inseparable from the joint efforts of two people, before it was the male lord and the female owner, everyone recognized each other's value, and now the times are progressing, but people's requirements for women are becoming more and more demanding.
In the past, you only had to manage your home, but now if you can't work with one hand and your home with the other, you will be considered unable to balance family and career.
If you are at home full-time, you may be disliked by your friends' husbands and even society.
If you have a choice in life, back to the current situation, I am afraid that not many people are willing to be full-time wives at home, and it is meaningless to be a housewife.
Under no circumstances can you go back to being a housewife? No, as long as you and your husband can agree on this aspect.
Your husband can see what you give and respect.
A lot of men treat housewives as pets
Recently watched "Happiness Duo" Dong Boyu although he has a good job and a high income, he is really disrespectful to his wife.
Dong Boyu lost his temper with Gu Xiaonan, and used gifts to customers to get angry with her, and when Gu Xiaonan took the initiative to pay compensation, he directly humiliated and said, "Compensation, what compensation you take, it is not to spend my money."
Because from the bottom of his heart, he didn't respect her and looked down on her, when Gu Xiaonan said, "Believe it or not, you let me go to work, I'm better than Liao Sha." ”
Dong Boyu said dismissively: "What can you do with you." ”
Gu Xiaonan once said: "Every day when I open my eyes, the small motor has never stopped, and it is not easy to be a full-time wife." ”
But Dong Boyu only said coldly: "I see that you are idle." ”
In Dong Boyu's eyes, full-time wife is a very relaxed "profession" with almost no technical content. Over time, his concern and patience for his wife gradually decreased.
Usually I think she will only visit a certain treasure, happy to race immortals, happy to feed some food, unhappy to be lazy to take care of, and beat her when she breaks into trouble.
Until she got home, he also said, afraid of something, I stopped her card and watched where she went.
Housewives without financial means have no say, and what they say before marriage is sweet and beautiful, but after marriage, they are just his pets and gas barrels.
See what you give, and respect
Even if it is a full-time wife, husband and wife should respect each other, rather than being called and waved around like pets.
Housewives should also be respected by men for their unpaid contributions at home, and no pair of parents want their hard-earned baby daughter to marry to be a nanny for someone else's family, or a free nanny.
If a man knows your hard work at home and offers financial support, he won't belittle you on a daily basis because you're busy with housework and can't support him in your career, then consider it.
Otherwise, the family is just a little thing, what can be busy every day, or do not do some housework, do not earn money, the things at home are all bought by me, then really be cautious.
From ancient times to the present, family labor seems to have become a natural duty of women, and women's social attributes have been greatly diluted, although they have played a great role in maintaining the stability and development of the family and society, but they have not received people's value and emotional respect for social labor.
Even more is injustice and harm.
How many housewives have found their husbands betrayed, received no compensation, and have been accused of contributing nothing to the family.
And once you work, you'll see that men change.
When Gu Xiaonan did not go home and Dong Boyu's home was a mess, he called and knew how to talk well, and at the same time saw his wife working, saw others say that I signed up for her, and he immediately said that this was my daughter-in-law.
If it had been before, I am afraid that he would not be in a hurry to escape, and would only feel that you are not working and humiliate him, otherwise he would not have beaten Gu Xiaonan when he was looking for his client.
So unless your significant other can see your efforts and respect, and at the same time you yourself are willing, in this marital relationship, comfortable and confident, then you can return.
Because first of all, it is willing, not everyone is suitable to go home with children, as Liaosha said, you let me go home with children, I may not be as good as you, I can't do it at all.
Of course, this does not mean that some people are born to do it, but if you are not willing, you can not find any sense of achievement and value from it, and returning to children is not necessarily a good thing.
When you return to your family, you are uncomfortable every day, and you even feel that you have not contributed much to the family and are not confident, the problem will be more and more.
Whether it is a professional woman or a full-time wife, there is no distinction between high and low.
The other party recognizes, respects, and you are comfortable with yourself, then this identity has the need to continue, otherwise it will be painful for others and themselves.
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Interpret emotional confusion, pay attention to marriage problems, and be willing to listen to your sorrow and happiness, along the way