In the TV series "Happiness Duo", Gu Xiaonan is a full-time wife, who is bright and beautiful on the surface, but in fact, the bitterness in her heart is only known to herself. A lot of things show that she was insecure in this marriage. Today, let's talk about Gu Xiaonan.
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Gu Xiaonan and Dong Boyu do not have children, and she has been anxious to have children. She has been seeing a doctor to have a baby. When it was time for a minor operation, she picked Dong Boyu's business trip. When she called someone to take care of herself, and then came to Liaosha's office to ask Liaosha to help, she was really sad.
She didn't want to tell Dong Boyu that dong Boyu would hate her if she knew she couldn't have children, and Liao Sha asked if you could have children, and he wouldn't dislike you. In this marriage, Gu Xiaonan put his posture very low. You can see that she has no self-confidence. Moreover, her time and energy are all on Dong Boyu.
Such a woman is prone to cranky thoughts, she is a full-time wife. Every day, in addition to doing housework, I drink afternoon tea with my little sisters. It's not that she doesn't want to work, it's that her husband doesn't want her to work. For her husband's sake, she turned down all job opportunities.
In fact, Gu Xiaonan is very eager to work. When she went to the song and dance troupe, she saw the children dancing and remembered her former self. When she met Wang Bing, Wang Bing asked her to help with the class, but she refused because her husband was unwilling. Obviously very moved, for the sake of the husband to endure, you don't like, I will not do. In the end, you can't move the other party, and you can't move yourself.
To tell the truth, Gu Xiaonan really should find a job, because her life is too boring, she is too insecure. She judged her friend by whether the other person had liked her, and the person who didn't like her accompanied her for the operation. The sister who had been drinking afternoon tea with her watched her jokes. Once people are busy, they will ignore these insignificant things.
The most helpless thing in marriage is that you give up everything for the other party, but the other party feels taken for granted. It is more important to live comfortably than to please your husband.
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Gu Xiaonan and Dong Boyu had several conflicts, and it could be seen that she was insecure. Seeing her husband buy cosmetics for female customers, she immediately inquired about who the other party wanted to give to. And the heart is uncomfortable, so expensive cosmetics, Dong Boyu has never bought her.
Dong Boyu's mobile phone rang, and she peeked at each other's chat records like a thief. She discovers Dong Boyu and Gu Xiaofen's love of beauty, but Dong Boyu blames her for peeking at her mobile phone.
She wondered if her husband was empathetic, and Liaosha told her to ask her to get a credit card that could overdraft 50,000. If she could do it, she would think about what to do if her husband fell in love with someone else. At that time, Gu Xiaonan was still very naïve, and she still wanted to do the maximum amount.
When she got to the bank, she realized that she couldn't get a credit card. This situation, Liaosha knew, she did not know. Because of many things, she is disconnected from society. She had no job and no income. No deposits, no assets. And the house and the car are not in her name. Back at home, she saw that the real estate certificate was the name of her husband's father, and she and the other party had a cold war and quarreled. The problems that were originally paid attention to before marriage are now found to be of any use. At this time, she should find a job as soon as possible. Moreover, she has ready-made work to do.
A woman who is really confident in marriage can choose to become a full-time wife, or you can choose to walk the workplace. No matter how you choose, it shouldn't be what your husband wants, it should be what you want, and you have the ability to make any choice. This is the woman's confidence in marriage, it is not given to you by men, but given to you by yourself.
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Gu Xiaonan saw Dong Boyu helping Gu Xiaofen upstairs, she went to find Fu Xiaofen, and Dong Boyu slapped her. This matter, why Dong Boyu was angry. In Dong Boyu's view, as long as she has a good relationship with Fu Xiaofen, she can get the bidding. In this way, he can be promoted and raised, and he is fighting for his career.
To tell the truth, a husband like Dong Boyu is very selfish. At first, he wouldn't let her go to work for his own selfish purposes. She was angry when she found Gu Xiaonan looking at her phone. If he didn't do anything, why would he be so angry. Even if it was an agreement between the two people, he should also understand Gu Xiaonan's lack of security.
Besides, are she and Fu Xiaofen really innocent? Gu Xiaonan felt that they were innocent, and Equation felt that they were catty. It's just that no one has broken through that layer of window paper.
When Gu Xiaonan looked for Fu Xiaofen, he was even more angry, because in his opinion, if he had a good relationship with Fu Xiaofen, the other party could make her make a lot of money. However, Gu Xiaonan was spending his money. Therefore, everything he did, Gu Xiaonan should understand him.
In a way, the biggest sadness of the full-time wife is that you are also working hard every day, doing a lot of things that your husband can't see. He always feels that he is raising you, and over time, you will rely more and more on her.
Gu Xiaonan really suffered a lot of losses in this marriage, tried everything to have children, and has been insecure. This sense of security is not given by my husband, I have to rely on myself.
Girls should not be a full-time wife easily, and do not easily expect him to raise you. When you make money, when you are independent, when you love yourself, you will really attract your significant other.
Today's Discussion: How do you view Gu Xiaonan?