The beginning of love often comes from attraction, which is that the other party has a charm that makes you feel different from others, so that you have a sense of closeness or affection for him. In other words, this process is not under your own control.
This can also explain why many people choose a life partner that is different from what they once imagined, and even some people will fall in love with a person they are originally bored with.
From this point of view, it is understandable that sometimes you have an inexplicable affection for someone who already has an object or is already married. However, we must understand that the production of love is not under your control, but the subsequent behavior is controlled by you.
You may be unconsciously in love with a person, but whether this person can love, whether it should be loved, you must have a clear judgment. Otherwise, what awaits you is likely to be hurt and doomed.
In the play "Happiness Duo", there are two women who fall in love with "husbands with wives".
01 Yu Xiaona
Yu Xiaona's personality was still very pleasing at the beginning, she could insert a knife for her girlfriend's two ribs, and in order to give Liao Sha a breath, she deliberately poured Zhao Kai a body of coffee. At that time, she really hated Zhao Kai.
But later, with the increase of contact, she fell in love with Zhao Kai, and she obviously knew that Zhao Kai had a wife and children, or chose to be with him, and even her girlfriend could not listen to her words.
As I said before, Yu Xiaona's liking for Zhao Kai may indeed be an unconscious process, even she herself is not aware of it, but no matter how much she likes Zhao Kai, just by virtue of Zhao Kai's identity as a "husband with a wife", she should respect him and stay away, the more she likes, the more she should not get close.
Here I have to say that some girls are particularly stupid, they always think that love can overcome everything, can become the reason for everything, but in fact, you are wrong is wrong, will not be because you really love each other, you can turn the wrong into the right.
Yu Xiaona and Zhao Kai together, no matter in any way, are wrong.
Zhao Kai is a man with a family, if he is not sincere about Xiaona, then Yu Xiaona is to blame himself and deserves to be hurt; if Zhao Kai is sincere to her, then Yu Xiaona hurt another innocent woman for a man who thinks differently. And no matter what it is, she is destined to bear the name of Xiao San.
This kind of thing is not worth it in any way, but there are people who "have no remorse", how ridiculous.
Liao Sha had advised Xiaona many times, but Yu Xiaona was iron-hearted, saying that even if Zhao Kai's wife found her, she would not be afraid. The result? As a result, she was blocked by Ling Yan in the office and beaten, almost causing Liao Sha to miscarry.
For a scumbag who betrayed his marriage, he was beaten by the original partner, discussed by the people around him, let his girlfriend be implicated, and finally lost his job and ran away, is it worth it?
Perhaps Yu Xiaona never thought that Zhao Kai had proved how unreliable he was from the moment he betrayed his family. In the end, she ended up leaving alone, which can be regarded as paying for her own stupidity.
02 Xia Zihan
Xia Zihan is the master sister of the equation, this girl is just the opposite of Yu Xiaona, she was not pleasing when she first appeared, she stuck to the equation everywhere, and there was also some lack of measure in getting along with him, but only later found out that she was actually very clear.
Why? Xia Zihan once told Liao Sha that she originally admired equations. At her age, there is not much clear demarcation between adoration and liking. She actually likes equations, otherwise, she wouldn't always look at him, bring him food, and keep cold medicine for him at all times.
There is also a very clear signal, that is, when the equation said that she would follow Lao Jia to intern in the future, she quietly chose to resign. Just think, who would give up their job because of the attitude or words and deeds of an insignificant person? The fact that she was able to resign because of a sentence from the equation showed that she already cared deeply about him.
Xia Zihan's clarity is reflected in her attitude of caring about equations and leaving very firmly, rather than getting closer to him on the grounds of "love".
Xia Zihan knew very well that Equation was a husband with a wife, so no matter how good this man was, no matter how much he admired him, even if he liked him and loved him, he could not have any development with him.
This is the transparency of a girl, she is in a good year, and she has a lot of opportunities to achieve her career and meet a better lover in the future, and it is not necessary and should not delay herself on a man with a family.
So in the end, Xia Zihan can easily spit on the equation in front of Liao Sha, and can sincerely say that she did not expect that a prank by her could bring them so much trouble, because she really did not think about what to do with the equation, and she was not ashamed.
More importantly, she will not be hurt because of a wrong love, a person who should not be loved, which is the biggest difference between her and Yu Xiaona.
summary
Also in love with a husband with a wife, the ending between Yu Xiaona and Xia Zihan is very different. Yu Xiaona lost her job for Zhao Kai, and the two of them failed to cultivate the right results, and finally had to go away alone with scars and burdens in their hearts. Although Xia Zihan also quit her job, it was to protect herself and to complete others, and her future would be better.
Man, that's it, sometimes the same destination, sometimes the same starting point, but the ending is very different. The key is how you choose in the process.
Again, the production of love may not be controlled by you, but how to treat a love lies in yourself. So, never make excuses for your mistakes, and instead of spending your time making excuses, it's better to make a good choice from the beginning.
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