Kitajima once said, "From the balloon seller, each child takes a wish." ”
Suddenly, a beautiful picture appeared in front of me, as if the mood was clear.
In the face of love, a good attitude is that even if you are an adult, your state of mind is as pure as a child, full of expectations.
Some people say that without romance, love will wither, without respect, love will disappear. But there are too many things mixed in life and feelings, and many times they cannot be described and measured by the power of words.
There will always be a person in life who is not obliged to be good to you, but in fact he has given you all his tenderness.
Some feelings, the appearance is so sudden, even inexplicable, this is the charm of fate.
If you want to find a positive relationship in your feelings, you can meet and not seek, which is not something we can achieve with our efforts.
And whether the other party is your "good person", there is some basis for judgment, you can look at these three aspects.
Willing to pay for each other, there is a tacit understanding between each other
Two-sided giving will make people feel uncomfortable; unilateral payment in feelings will make people live very tired.
Dong'er in "Great Qin Fu" likes Yingzheng, but the other party only takes her as a sister, and she has not felt Yingzheng's love for a moment.
And Yin Zheng's heart has always been loaded with another person, there is no way to be together, but he can't let go and can't forget.
Love needs to go in both directions, blindly unilateral payment, doomed to achieve only a tragedy. And the person who pays, the only person who really moves and hurts is himself.
Such love, when it appears in the story of the movie, can always be perfectly modified with subjective will. In real life, it has failed.
Tacit understanding is innate, and it can only be cultivated by paying attention to each other.
A good encounter is to give, care, and understand each other. The most rare thing about love is that he understands what you say, and you can fully feel what he does.
Have feelings for each other, bring you a broader world
At the first sight, there is a sense of familiarity between each other, and then rise to each other's heartbeat, which is a rare fate.
Every relationship has its own criteria for judging, and whether the relationship you have now has closed your world or opened your eyes has its own conclusion in your heart.
Psychologist Rogers, in the "Essence of Rogers's Writings", told such a case:
A woman accepts the role of a virtuous helper in her marriage and lives the way her husband wants. Taking care of the family, getting involved in topics that interest your husband, giving up your former interests... Gradually I lost myself.
She has also tried to guide each other's lives to the way she likes, but her husband is indifferent, and sometimes he is not even aware of her thoughts and helplessness.
Ultimately, the once perfect housewife in her marriage needs to rely on a psychologist to survive.
In marriage, we achieve a relationship to make each other's world more extensive, not to make each other become beggars.
There is no abandonment, only the heart that wants to spend the rest of your life with the other party
Human nature can only show its good side in front of the people you love. If we fully understand each other's "disadvantages" and still leave a place for each other in the future plan, then it is undoubtedly true love.
Life is difficult, human feelings are cold, but in the beautiful feelings, there is no real dislike, and some only have the heart to spend the rest of their lives with each other.
"Xiao Min Jia" according to the content of the novel, Chen Zhuo started his own business, all the way very difficult to have a good start, but unfortunately suffered from cancer. And Liu Xiaomin has been taking care of him during his illness.
Between two people, the bond of fate is due to a heart that wants to spend the rest of their lives with each other.
Whoever has a fate with whom can grow old in vain is not a promise that can really not be separated for a lifetime. Some couples are noisy and noisy, and after a lifetime, some seem to respect each other as guests, but in the end they end up being separated.
"Seeing the micro-knowledge", whether the two people are real soul mates, whether they have the reason to spend the rest of their lives together, the details cannot deceive people.
Zhang Ailing said: "Whether a man or a woman meets someone he thinks he likes, he will involuntarily give everything for that person, to be unconditionally good to her, and only hope that she can be happy and happy." ”
In our lifetime, we may intersect with many opposite sexes, and the opposite sex you know can be counted as your "opposite sex".
But no matter how many people you meet, there is only one positive fate that really belongs to you, and this fate will accompany you until you are old, and give each other a peace of mind and a reliance.
In the world of feelings, it is not easy to meet a good person, and many people have not found his right fate in their lives.
You can love the right feelings at once, everyone craves them, but most of the time the right person never appears so easily.
But no matter what, if you have such a right fate in your life, such a good person who is waiting for you, even if you go around, you will eventually meet.
As Mr. Qian Zhongshu said: There is no accident in the world, it is just the inevitability of putting on makeup and wearing a mask.
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[Wen | Wei Wei'an: the pen has temperature, for the voice of emotion, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]