The author | Xi Dynasty
A psychologist once said, "A good father is better than a hundred good teachers." ”
99% of a child's success comes from a 1% change from dad.
The child's lifelong achievements are based on the father's initial education.
Especially in families with boys, the father is always the greatest mountain in the son's heart.
It can be said that how high the quality of the father is, how high the child can fly.
The following 4 things must be completed by the father to accompany the son, which will determine the child's future life.
When the son encounters setbacks
Frustration education is currently the most lacking course for most children.
Collapsed because of poor grades, because of the pressure and light life, in fact, as long as the bite of the teeth will pass, the child will take this small bump as an unattainable mountain, and then defeat himself.
Emotional mothers are prone to hurt their children, but rational fathers must let their children understand:
There is no real difficulty in the world, and the most difficult thing is only the level in my heart.
Once read a story:
A father who is a driver has been working outside for a long time and cannot accompany his son, so he can only take his son to the car during winter and summer vacations to see different scenery.
Once when driving up the mountain, the car suddenly stopped, and Dad got out of the car and lay on the ground to repair the car, which was repaired for two hours.
The car was repaired, and when they finally rushed to the top of the mountain, the father said to his son:
"Son, life is like this, don't be afraid when you encounter difficulties, grit your teeth and rush forward, rushing up is victory."
With the encouragement of his father, his son became more and more excellent and strong, was admitted to a prestigious university, and became the boss of a company.
The son often said to his employees:
"Don't be afraid of difficulties, what really knocks us down is not the sudden setbacks, but the courage to face setbacks and the confidence to overcome difficulties."
On the road of growth, it has always been the coexistence of scenery and dangerous peaks, accompanied by his father, his son can not only face it bravely, but also have the confidence to challenge and adventure.
Rather than comforting and preaching, the father's practical actions can make his son see hope and face difficulties.
Tutor my son in math
Many people say that boys have an advantage in learning mathematics.
Boys have stronger logical thinking, better overall view, and greater potential in both problem solving operations and learning methods.
Learning mathematics is actually a very interesting and fun thing, and every child who is good at mathematics has achieved great things when he grows up.
Under the guidance of the father, this advantage will be more obvious.
Chen Youwei, the son of the famous mathematician Chen Jingrun, initially did not love mathematics and did not want to live under the aura of his father.
Until one time when he was doing homework, his father's tutoring made him change his mind.
At that time, he calculated "1+2+3+4+5+6+7+8+9+10" step by step, and his father saw it and pointed it out next to him:
"If you add 1+9, 2+8, 3+7, 4+6, you'll have 40, add 10 and 5, and that's 55."
At that moment, Chen Youwei first sprouted an interest in learning mathematics, and that day became Chen Youwei's most unforgettable memory under the guidance of his father Chen Jingrun.
The father is the son's best teacher.
Whether in thinking, mathematical logic, problem solving, or language, imagination, and intellectual development, father's teaching can promote children's cognitive development.
The United States once launched a 12-year follow-up study, and the results showed:
Children brought up by their fathers have relatively high IQs and tend to have better grades in school.
As the son grows up, the more involved the father is, the better the child's grades.
Exercise with your son
Nowadays, boys' education has gradually become the focus of attention, and today's boys lack blood and manhood.
The root of the problem is the lack of paternal love, and if the father is absent for a long time, the child's growth is missing a key link.
Some surveys have shown that fathers often accompany their children to do sports, and children will like sports more and their bodies will be healthier.
Moreover, the relationship between father and son will be more harmonious.
I remember in "Where Daddy Went", Hum is very active, can play tennis, can play football, loves to run and jump.
Because his father Du Jiang also loves fitness, he often takes his son to exercise together. A sports-loving dad is unlikely to bring out a housewife.
On the contrary, Chen Xiaochun's son, Jasper, is much quieter.
Because there are very few opportunities to get along with his father, Jasper has a distance from his father and is also afraid of his father.
Jasper doesn't like to run and jump, he prefers to sit quietly, and he can't keep up with His father walking faster.
A child who is brought up by his mother and a child who is brought up by his parents have different childhood trajectories and develop different personalities and habits.
Whether children love sports or not, the biggest gap is the father.
Although many children are more afraid of their fathers, when they sit together, they do not even dare to look directly into their father's eyes.
But when running on the court, when playing in the sun, when laughing in the amusement park, there is no distance between the child and the father, and even more willing to share the joy of the heart with the father.
Sports-loving boys will be better, and fathers are the best leaders.
Teach your son to recognize gender
The lack of sex education is becoming the source of tragedy for minors.
Boys, in particular, who have never received proper gender education and sex education, are likely to be the culprits who ruin someone else's lives because of a temporary lack of education.
I remembered a news story a few years ago, in a station waiting room, a big boy held a little girl, and then put his hand into her clothes and stayed on her chest.
The parents on the side were indifferent and did not stop the boy's behavior in the slightest.
Don't think that gender education is too early, children are often sensible, and they need correct guidance and education.
Father's love directly affects the growth of children, because fathers are usually the first goal of their sons' imitation.
The father should pay more attention to the growth of his son, and subtly tell him what a man is, how a man should do things, and what rules a man should follow.
As the son becomes sensible and understands more and more things, the father must generously teach him the necessary sexual knowledge and tell him how to face his own physiological changes.
More importantly, set an example yourself, respect women, and tell your son that you can't offend or hurt women at any time.
Only by allowing boys to establish a correct and healthy concept of sex from an early age can they truly avoid the occurrence of various injuries when they grow up.
Dear fathers, please be a life mentor on the road to your child's growth, and don't be absent anymore.
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